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Oh yes, Babyyou best, believe we'reback, cannot believe it. It's episode. Twenty one of the cleverdumies podcast.I got an IDE thoug tlet's call this episode. Sorry season to episode, One!I'm you host locky! It's been a long time between drinks, but I'm so glad tobe back here with you, my friend, how you going today an neck. I'm great!It's good to be here. It's good to be doing this podcast as return season,because we have gained funding once again, I'm joking with O fin. It's good to be back, it's good to Geback, I think, we've finished a suspension. Maybe we've call that wehad had a we go bied from spotopiing new ament yeah new management. It saidCaster andwee got to go again. He that's it o claver dummies, podcast andthe zent cast to software under new management, so just got renewed forseason to Claverdommis podcast leveling up here baby, it's good to be back herebecause we are at the same place roughly the same type when we firstrelease our first episode of Clabetomis podcast. So it's kind of a full circleand for those who were paying attention in high school English, that's kind ofprojecte position. If you will yeah same same but different, it was earlyJeneary of last year. Obviously, we've all made it through a very big and verytrying two thousand and twenty and on the one hand, we're proud and I'mexcited for the twenty episodes we've got under our belt so far, but we'veonly just cracked, the Kan of the clever dumies podcast and it's time topour out the jug a little bit more into into everybody's earholes and let theart flow a little bit more. If you will so, let's get the ball role and mybuddy- and I think we just pick- would let's just pick up kind of where weleft off and I guess we can kind of give a littleupdate on how we've been what we've been up to. I feel, like yourcircumstance, is the one that's most prevalent right now, because it's crazyand or chaodic. So if you get, if you wanted to get under way, your more thanwelcome to m my dude, O wwell do well do just before I get into it. So justquickly wanted to say, although this is episode number twenty one was the firstepisode of season to technically there's more episodes that we haven'treleased yet, but we'll try to get like a directors cut or whatever you weresaying what Dore we want to call it at the episode Tou they just some Abletothat yeah blue, not nily bloopers, because they're full epitoes, I justdidn't, think they made they deserved to be in thet episode. If you will youknow so we might get those up as well because contenis content, so you cancheck those out as well et just remember. We are on Google podcastapple podcast portify, and you can always google us. The CLABER TAM ispodcastcom so which is awesome, and if you have any question any topics youwant to talk about. Please always heat us up on Instagram IG. You got thefacebooks twitter. Do you just just look us up for once? It'll be nice. SoAnya Movin ont moving on to the consintuation, so happine ears, it'sgood to be back. No one call o thousand twenty one dayyear, but you know what Cot I'm going to call it out year anyway. So it'sgoing to be a great year, so I have high ops hold ou in saying that I'mkind of so late last year I took took off on a little bit of a trip. Ended up.Lo ended up north of anorth of Melbourne, up towards Ou Lochlan incofshabor drove up to baron as well, which is beautiful. It was a Nihe, as tha wasyo first time out of Melbourne. Wasn't it year ts right? It was been there forquite what I would have been, obviously precovid, so yeah Precovit, so roughlysemenmon, roughly after seve months in Melbourne, borders opened up IV took adrive up towards north went in, saw Lokland, so my parents went up to nowent up to north North Ro chose andthen ended up back at my parents in Sydney and then what do you know? I getloked down into Sydney and I couldn't go back to Melbourne at the moment, I'min the process of moving back to Sydney just because I thought it was nice tospend more time with family and friends,...

...because being in Melbourne isincredible. I love Melboune. Nubbin is a beautiful city, but it's there'ssomething about trying to stay with your friends and family as well,especially after the year we've had last year, two thousand and twenty. But now then I dro was a clomander.Wasn't a a good remind it. Wul Ay be some of the important things in life waAI positively. Well, that's exactly right! That's what I'm doing SPENNINGIT POSSIBLI PE! You know! Y! You know! Youere like go back down, see the boys.You know ell get back in Melbourn I'll, just dit my toee in there couple ofdays later, one case and Docor Dan swings that guillotine straight overites, that's exactly ai was like I Gota, I'm Gonta go back down to Melbournequickly, sas out how everything is going, wrap up. Tou things back up myshit head back down to Sydney. I was only going to be here for a week and ahalf or week at you know, but I'm here now I can go back to Sydney because youknow Dr den kind of looked US up again. I mean I get it. I get certain aspectof it, but also you know. Maybe we don't speculate froma government's point of view, but then why would we be here so weare going todo exactly that? Yeah aculite, I jus, want to say Sydney had the similar sortof cases situation going on, but somehow they managed it. You know theyhad the whole. They looked up north northern subburs of Sydney and thenthey said, rest of the rest of the town was fine to move around, but Melbournehad similar sort of situation and they said you know what this is it. Everyone goes down into alockdown for five days, allegedly for five days. The reason I say allegedlybecause there's been a rumor going around saying that Dotor Dann isconsidering going extending the look Downe for another couple of weeks. Nowell, that's right, two weeks to flaten a curve. Wasn't it two weeks to flattenthe girl so now I think I think they're going to beless likely to go all out there. You know t the hopefully better preparedand we know the source of where these latest instances have come from hotelquarantine. So you know it's now more than eferits time to figure thatsituation out, but hey, like you, know, unfortunatelyyou're in a situation where you don't know what's going to happen and theykind of don't know what they're doing either so, hopefully for your own sakeand for every single person still in Melbourne, thos those soldiers thatdecided against the urge to leave. When I know many people did half of me andsomething like that, hopefully, for their sake- and you know for thetheistraan open to the biggest strain one of the biggest trading aboard oursporting events of the year. For me, it makes me realize how much I resenttennis like I love playing it. It's fine to get out there and slap around abit, but just something about the what it brings. I don't know I justjust doesn't do it for me. I don't like it, but I'm hey, you know it's prettypretty caotic year. It's a weird sport. Isn't it like it'sI've? Always I mean oit wait till people start gettingupset, but it's always seemed like it. Just seemed like a it's an unusual sport. I know peopleback on cricket of their fitness levels, but I always thought tennis kind ofrequired a very miniable fitness le I'm, never gonna. Let that Guy Miss Lawson'sread that day, I'm Never Gotna, let that guy. Oh Miss Lossi, Miss Losen, Charlato she's. Actually,the deputy principle of the school now yeah cause I pi she's, ripping I tearinbut yeah she sh. You know she taught us in PDH in high school to give a littlebit of back story there and one day al a very pinionated, strong woman she's.You know actually probably an inspiration. Now that I look back andthink about Youshs he's, probably on my evere teacher Andi, isn't retion yeah,I pretciate as much as maybe I could have back in the days, but yeah one dayshe decided to just prup on us about playing cricket and how it's not aprofessional sport and the athletes don't have to be in shape. You know Imean if you heve a look at prime shame more. I can understand how you believethat Butwe Gotliss that little odd coment you just made then about cricket,is like only the other week. I was thinking about it too and somethingabout her little speech. Her just has stuck in my head and Bout Ho. It's Jisiwill see her one day and then maybe we can have a Wecoul Dido. The discussionShaw Ot to mislesion. We can have hat...

...yeah shut out to Miss Lawson but yeah.It's I just don't know. It's just doesn't seem like a sport that requiresvery high amount of I mean sure. I probably requires some level of Careio,but I don't see yeah now they long games to the think about like three.Three or four matches, I think, which is the nother sets, which is like the six setsto win you you got to get to six first, if it's like six and five you've got tobe two points ahead. Something like that. There's three of those a lot ofthe mal R females only play two sets. If you win the two you win, males haveto play to free, which is kind of weird. I feel like it's. You know we'reing astage now where that doesn't need that should change and we should be playingthe even, but they can easily go for three four five six hours like that andthat's just it's very aerobic and anaerobic at the same time like there'sa lot of fast twitch, you've got to be constantly ready to go and if you everseen, a tennis match live like that bar is traveling hundreds of cays an hourlike it's fucking, moving as well. You know s almost kind of like cricket yeah.Well, that's right! That's right! This is this is the CONAN. It is what it islike Rod, La Veren as a beautiful Rena, but it's the perfect example of what agood tennis stadium is like there's not a lot of breeze in there, like that'sjust a big suction of just warmar circling around. So I think I'll haveto disagree with you in regards to the fitness. I think they're pretty they're,pretty they're, all pretty shredded like they have to be in great conditionfor the sport. I don't know what it is for me. I just I've just never liked the way it'scovered on TV. I've never liked it just doesn't do a lot for me in terms of adesire to go watch it and, like. I appreciate the sport forwhat it is but yeah I just don't like the whole covage with it. I worked inthe Bedding Agency for a little bit as well. I didn't like the gambling sideof it. It just was a it's a really weird sport with a lot of the rules,internal, how matche are played and how the World Dranki am it's just yeah. Ijust don't like the way it to run and then there's something about theculture that it brings like it's fan base. That turns me off it. A lot ofpeople feel the same way about like the UFC, for example, to so each to the Ron.I guess I guess. Maybe it's just thought I was fought yeah. Well, that'sright! OWAY! Just here at the Claver Tomis podcast we do not IndoorseyonaWel. We do it's Australian sporting events so looka and it was anythingwith Australian name on it. Yeth. You know you wan, you Wan't, say Bo Watchi,dowd, Thi tevats, but hey you know. If you want to go, ACAN get a mogsted,it's up to you be anyway. Wel's can tact, that's exactly right! So you knowthey here we are so this is the kind of the situation. So it's a little bit of.I guess at you could say it's a grind. My gear session almost shut out shoutback to the old sun the summer days, but yeah. That's going bad, you knowyeah, but you know it is Dere. I say it is what he di W. we've got a yeah, we've got about ahundred untapped followers on that facebook page we could capitalize, ormaybe that's a yea mine as well. Yeah think we might back is did yeah. Ithink we merged we murse e page withouter, clever Tom Ise, so thatyou know Carrie those people aeo like if you subscribe to someone on Youtubein the like thethey're into like sport coverage like I've watched a few peoplethat, like they coverd they talk about sports or gaming or something else, andthen you don't watch them for fhree months and you come back and they'relike wearing make America great again hat so then you know, don't even tellyou they change the naigh or their chatter wis. Just like what the fuck Inever subcribed to this, but it Gno do it. I it's Agrias man that Dude Tok the biggest th sixtyin theiwor and hey. It's actually a really good video out there tit goes.Forit goes fo about an hour and a half there's a guy who went through theevolution of Ellad hols from back in about twos and eight when he firststarted making the videos right until now, he's actually had about six orseven chat like shifs. It's actually really interesting. I might even Seidthat to that it's actually crazy, but yet now more than ever, it's like hestillin KKK yeah...

Hehe has to be. I wouldn't say that,but he's yeah, like he's he's, got like he's the way he make his money and nowhe's come out with this book about, like Mascianeii, he's teaching blogs tobe real men again like it's pretty crazy. It is crazy. Yeah, like I meanit's obviously somea be at the beginning of whati used to dostrengthcamp and all those boot camp, stuff and es to talk about. You knowbreathe with your D bolls and Yent Yor pols and, like speaking slorand lot,you know that's as signs of Mescinogy. I was like that makes sense. You knoweveryone should speak slower and speak from the Bulls and all that stuff right.That made sense to peak from the Divehey, like not hundred percent, thatsomething u took from Big Tin Yeah, a hundred percent same here and now he'sgoing into this thing. I saw this post about how hes how he doesn't let hiswife work for anyone else, because you know he doesn't want his wife to cheaton him. I was like what the hell this dude crazy man who's en with him yeahsome of that bit some of his Qnas as well, where you see what he's like, youcan kind of tell a lot by people and not always like you're, going toattract a certain type of audience, but that's the questions he gets asked andthat you can just kind of get another stand: Ythe people that are followinghim as one what theyare after to, but through the video you could see. He waslike I kind of stoppe watching him, maybe Theento high school wt jus likeTosan Thirtyn. After that stage, he actually went like really feminine. For,like a year like legit, went wet like fully feminist. He grew his hair out,didn't put the training videows anymore. Then he stopped at he. He became aSharman, so he became like this spiritual leader started talking aboutlike a lot of Buddhist teachings and techniques, and then he had some timeoff and then he kind of went back to strength and then now he's yeah. It'sreally interesting and to his credit, like he's, actually never shied awayfrom it. He just said, like I'm, constantly evolving as a person, and Ithink this the climate we live in now, maybe to segue out of it a little bit.The climate we live in now are forcing a lot of people to maybe ask themselvesthose questions like like the life like y there's, no better time in the timethat you're actually forced to do it. You've got time to think or people losing work or whatever I aslike, Ou what who's the person actually want to become her with the people. Iwant to associate myself if you lik what media do. I want to consume thatsort of thing and I feel like we've. Actually, I've seen it a lot ofshifting a lot of other people, even with my personal life as well constantevolution, sir, it's interesting again, that's a very well put put togetherthought Bo, taught ther locklan. It's actually very true when you put it likethat. That actually kind of makes a lot of sense and actually funny enough whenyou put it like that, actually kind of adds a little bit of you know you almost kind of feelnecessarily sorry, but you feel you empatize or you know you feelempathy towards what anyone is going through, which is which is exactly whatyou want, but the interesting thing that I was going to say was- and thiskind of brings me back to- I think- we've spoken about this- so five club salt ar probably one of the ALD time greatest films of fall time ever madeyeahmate all right. So the sin ages, like wine, like he's a beautiful onebut t at that was truly prime bred pit was in that late s he was so brilliantin Yeah Shirt Si Sothis his speech, I'm goingto quickly. I read it out. So I'mgoing to do a horrible chief and I'm Jo Bettit, I'm not going to do him justice,but I'm going to bring it out anyway, because this reminded me of thatparticular SPEEC. Soon, as you said that I said I said man, I see Fight Club, the strongest Oh yeah men, I see at the fiht men Isee at the fire. Clubs are the strongest as madest men. Whoever lived,I see all these potential, I ceese. I see smartness codemn it an entiregeneration of pumping gas pumping gas waiting tables, shaved, white colors,advertisement, Jos, okay, I'll get to the main part. This is W. Obra, okay,go all right, man, I seeim, but Fr allright men. I see in fight in the FIHT club, the strongest and the smartestman who have ever lived. I see this...

...potential. I ceize squandling codemitan entire generation of pumping gas waiting tables slaving with whitecolored jobs, advertising Hasus, chasing cars, clothes working jobs, wehate, so we hate jobs, we hate. So we can buy this shit that we don't careabout we're in the middle of her children. We are the Middle Children ofhistory, no no purpose or place. We have no great war, no great depression.Our Great War is the spiritual Wal. Our our great depression is our lives.We've all been raised on raisemon television to believe that one day willall be millionaire's and the movie gods and the Rock Star, but we won't andwill slowly we are all slowly learning the fact and we are very pissed offabout it. So this particular speech right and like I said before, Iprobably didn't- do it justice, because it's not written well, it's writtenwithout all the puntuations. I I was trying to figure it out anyway, yeah.So what what a Gne movie as well, the contect of the film yeah Ye when hetalks about this- and I really like this- because this is so almost like,so this- actually, I would say this speech was relevent all the way throughDocovi nineteen. So because we talked about this before it's been such a longtime, something herrendous had happened before like cobe nineteen, and therewas no great war. You know we all did that we allto. We all think we're goingto be millionaires, the movie gods and the Rock Stars, and it's true that youknow the our war is the spiritual world. That's why people like Eliott host gointo this spiritual war. If you will, you knowwher they'e, trying to figure out who they are maybe they're the person withthe feminine one or maybe they, the mesculite one or maybe they're part of the KICKA. Kick like okay,Kicka Kat right who the hell knows right but its interesting, because Ithink that film is still so relevant because it just makes sense when youlook at it from that angle, you know and Difa the proud boys. Who else is there andthat's it's crazy, because an there's a lot to unpack about that speech, and itwas a really great moment if anyone's not seeing it. It's just bit of atimeless movie, teepe O movies. So you go back and you watch and you kind ofyou enjoy it, but you're like man that has an age or that one really has andthe the poignant moment in that movie kind of was that speech as well and itwas kind of like him. You know he'd gone into this underworld that he youknow from the outside looking and was just these vthese. You know criminalsand thugs who are just fighting, but ultimately they're, actually going backalmost in time in a way they w're going back to a primal time in human existence wherethey were just fighting like it was forget about. I didn't care what you dofor work. I don't care, you know: Ou Hi, colory, our skin, the creed. You knoweverything else, it's you can you fight? Can you how much hard are you willingto show when the adversity comes and everything else, and so so many greatscenes in that movie as well? And I think that's what this time as proven, and what thiskind is done in a lot of good ways to there are some so many bad things andthere's there's a lot of people out there who are trying to capitalize onthat, the the negativity of the current situation, but but but at the same time there's a lotof people who are being forced to reevaluate their lives, the way theythink to people they acte or around, and act with and everything else. Soit's yeah, it's just one of those things andsomething we always speak about. It's just about constantly trying to get tothat point. Where you're trying to achieve something you're trying tostrive to be better. We always have those setbacks, but your mindset has tobe head in that regard, because if you'ryou live too far it if you're too reactive in the moment than any badthing every day can change your entire day. At the same time, you need to liveyour life in the moment. We spend too much time the opposite of thes out aswell, but you need to be in the in the moment and you need to be ahead as welland you need to not let the outside.

You need to be like an analyst of youroutside world and try to think about those things and react and try torealize and try to rationalize with people and understand why people aredoing what they're doing as well and Yit can be super empathetic, becausewell a lot of the things that and I'm kind of going on a little bit of atangent here, but like there's so many things that ive heard Gary v say overthe years and some things make a lot of sense at the time and the moment n somethings it's like he talks a lot about empathy and talks, a lot about show andcompassion and those sort of things and it's kind of like well. Why is you knowthat he's a business guy? Why is this at the forefront of what he's talkingabout it's? Because when you get to that state of practice of being in anepathetic mindset- and you actually start to embody empathy in your life,you actually realize, like you, start to be more forgiving of people'sCircumstances. But you also start to safeguard yourself and not put yourselfin those situations where you can be affected by them as well. So it'sreally it's really amazing. What the constantlike being about that life, if you werl trying to constantly evolving it better,it's amazing how these areas, it's like! It's not on our time frame like I'm,going to go back to God. He but he's got a plan for us. It's we've got tolive our life and we're going to meet these points and we're going to meetthese people. We can shift and move around when it comes, but we can't tryto force these things, but we just got to get on that right track and it'samazing how these little things comes up, and maybe you know in March andApril May, when the lockdowns were coming in and everything else, it waslike the end of the world and now sure where it's you know it's it's somethingwe're used to. So we have preprior experience. We can lean on and heysomething over the world, but now it just is what it is we just got to getthrough. You got to deal with it and you got to move on. So it's yeah that that movie. I just think about watchingthat movie again. I actually want to rea redoe such a great move. I so getfilm it's one of the jam O naggets in Yeah Tha. If you want to check out anyof the summary notes, we will be available. NNATER podcast website levers podcastcom. If anyone wants to check out continues, Cluk, I'm shameless nowand Maones Hat woutd actually brings me brings hi a little note that I actuallykind of took before the other day. In fact, I've got two notes: Doractuallyjust quickly talk about right, so this is a court from from o actually funny enough, both ofthem from Marcus, a realist, Microso Reli, Soa realis was a emperorof the Roman leader, one of the Romans Legers, I think Roman yeah, I think,would have been one of the Romans laters, so he he was a he was into whatDi they call it. The philosophy, the ancient philosophy,the whatever they call it t Seneca, was thesame philosopher those from that Erea there's a name forhim right, keep forgetting what the name is fromall right and itways. Senin O was one of Wot Association. Where is it from?Is it a certain period of time as a SA part of the world? Seneco Seneca,Marcus realist was the same kind of it's a type of philosophy Thaman I gesscompletely blanking out anyway. Welwe'll get to that. So the first noteis we: When we forget our ability tochoose, we learn to be helpless. Drip by drip way, allow our power to betaken away until we end up becoming a function of other people's choice oreven a function of our own past choices, so kind of what we talked about there.It's like you know if, once we start forgetting and start letting go offthat letting letin go of our. Why or what wefunction for. Do Things Happen? One thing we let our circumstances or ourpeople. Other people define us who we end up becoming so Wutd they calliedhost, for example. Perhaps his spiritual war is because he probablydoesn't have a strong self identity, so he so forever changing where you know,I'm not saying that we are probably the...

...strongest mentally people, but you knowyou look at you. Listen to this podcast or whitthe year relatively, wouldmaintain the same sort of minmental mental. You know positioning on thingsand a mental strength similar. It's been pretty constant right for I hopeit stays the same. So just an example of that is perhaps I'm not saying weare strong, but I'm saying that's probably more reflective of the factthat you know everyone should change with time. Everyone should develop atime. You should always become better, but you can't lose that identity. Youknow and OI dint to be once again for thosepeople who paid attention in high school identity is dynamic. I can'targue with that. However, there is the core values can't continuously change,especially when you go into those contradictory moments d, especiallywhen you define by your you know, situations or like this says you knowonce once we get hopeless and we let circumstances other people take awayour ability to choose. You know and that's when we become hopeless or it',just a function of other people's choices or our past, which isinteresting when you put it like that, because I think it was, I can't remember who itwas, but they said you always have a ability to choose.You know that's one thing that no one can ever take away from you. You canchoose how you react to things you could be. I think it might have beentheodor Roosebell, who said you know we always have oubility to choose. Wecould be in a war camp. We still have an ability to choose how we react tothat. We can smile and tol to speak and whatnot. You know so that's the first one so which isreally interesting once again, kind of you know hit to warw talking about thesecond one once again from Marcus a Realis, you know kind of he was aphilosopher great philosopher, so he's this is what you were talking about inRegart, tof feeling empathy his Qotgaus to few affection for people, even whenthey are making, even when they make mistakes, is uniquely human. You can doit if you simply recognize that they are human too, that they act out ofignorance against the against their will that you'll both be dead beforelong and above all, that they haven't really hurt you, they haven't demisedyou demise, your ability to choose, so they are both kind of the same. Butwhat they're saying is you know y? You can feel affection, also to speakempathy for people by just realizing that you us to our humans, and you know no one really gets up in themorning and tries to hurt other people, although they are some. You know youknow very evil people out there, but I think mostmajority of humans are pe prelatively harmless and they don't want to Lo toharm. I think they just acting out of ignorance, so those things areimportant to remember when you know you're trying to employ empathy andlike garwy talks about it, like you said, modern business right now is in so muchneed of empathy. So you know that's the reason why Gary we is actually doing sogreat because he gets it. He gets it. You know that's right, yeah. He associateshimself with people and he's at a point now, where he can. You know he can behis own boss, so he doesn't have to bend the knee to corporation andeverything else. He can go out and do and say whatever he wants it. Just sohappens that he's a really good person and what he's trying to do is not justbuild an empire for himself and his family, but also better other peopleand bring other people long the way and money. Even though it's a part of thejourney, it's not the the root of anything he's doing so yeh. The Great Bible. First money isthe Brit of all evil, so you'll see that across the board and and and it'svarious forms of evil as well and there's various forms of bad people,thires people that are just shittit and then there's actually bad people, andit's easier to think that more people are bad than not th. Not really like.It's a very small percentage of the population that to those monstrousthings and most people can just deal H, Tha shitty person during the day andand it's as you said, it's like the Times like these- that we're forced toconfront we're kin', force, wi in front ourbeliefs and kind of nail down what we...

...believe in in the position that we needto be in and- and you can really practice a lot of these things as allthe empathy and and it's just the same as getting a routineand I'm doing exercise every day or being in a better state of mind. Youcan practice just about anything in the more you do it the more it becomes afabric in your life and then your natureaction to things is to beempathetic and not reactive and not responsive in a way, that's lyco! Whydo they do that? For wor hey? Why do they do that for and then hey can kindof change the angle there and I did philosophy a little bit as well, so Ijust trying to think who it was Marcus Aralius and it so he was the is a Romanemperor and he was a philosopher as well. Ye had so many personal writingsthat we studied I'm sure and have been studied for history known as meditation,so it's kind of what maybe yeah. Maybe I one this yeah, so it's really goodbook at I' highly recommend to people out there as well so yeah I was it waslike you sit mention his name and I'm like. I know it's down there. It's veryfunny with doing a podcast is like anything you got to practice it an sto,the oeyeah he's a Roman Ra, yeah yeah, and it's one of those things where,like the ability to speak, doesn't leave but you're Abiil to recallspecific information and, like almost preference, that'ssomething you have to practice like you can think about things, and you knowyou're constantly having these conversations for o today or you'rehaving you know, you're doing whatever, like you can you'll consume me thattype of media you can do it really easily, but to recall the specifics isa lot harder and that's what I'm noticing even doing this podcast. Nowit's like that's something we need to keep working on because it comes morenatural and everything else, pets a litble side note, but hopefully peoplecan follow along with where we are anyway, but now beautifully put them. Ididnt. I hope we all sort of linked it back together, a little bit derer forthe people out there listening just about to hit thirty minutes ow, sothat's kind of real it back in and draw it back to where we started so, and youcan take this, I guess howethe way you want to. You can shift it back to me.It's totally up to you, but you know: you've gone back down to Melbourne,you've gone to see people you've Gong, to check out your old family friendsbusiness. Everything else and, being this thing happens, what was yourimmediate reaction when you found out hey like I just walked into a shitstorm? Well, I thaught to myself. I was agoogood. I can deal with the shity situation a bit later, socer willinggood. Have you had that speech? It WASI honestly. Look! My firstthought honestly was. I was like a for fuck, okay, we go again, but my secondthoughts- and this is by all this- is one hundred percent trude, whether youbelieve it bleve me or not. That's up to you, but I was thinking to myself. Iwas like you know what ther's more time to just kind of easily pack. Mysituation up, like you know, not rush things through kind of sortout, fair affairs, and you know so the five days. Hopefully, if it's all itise five days- and you know maybe at maybe half week more whatever a t. So at the moment I'm positive, which isfine because kind of gives me a time to pack up and like be in the rightheadspace to move so, which is good. No, it is still shitty, but whatever right.So I'm good. Yes, so technical! You O, you still were living in Melbourne,even though you spent the last few months in Siddney, yea, still hadn't,you still hadn't fully left Rom Melbourne, so it's kind of like goingit's kind of coming back home, still a little bit right. Yes, that's right! Soit kind of gives me the headroom and it was nice to kind of you know, have room,especially staying with my parents in Sydney so yeah. It was kind of it'skind of good to have your own breathing area so which is nice Doik.Yes, that might or just AAT, under the right, I'm just going to sleep that oneendo, the Lik for people, let them an e for the CAER. Let that won oforyletthat woud go to the keypers. You know sometimes you're playing a test matchyou gotta, let Le You things yeah Wai here for a long time, not a shout OASright, that's right, all right! So let...

...talking on talking about cricket. Let's, let's drive one through the covers, andyou know put one to you: How are you going what's going on to give us alittle bit of a rap up yeah what you been up to yeah most stefhly, but I'vebeen really good and it's it's pretty crazy. How quick the years go and howquick last year is gone and it's one of those things collectively. We all heardof our parents growing up as like our time just flies, and you were innappies three months ago, like yeah, whatever old old person go away likeI'm leave me alone, but it ma it is so true. You need to experience that inyourself and it's just so many things, particularlywith being a parent now being a dad, but there's just so many things aboutgetting older, where you realize how much how much you emulated off your life ofyour parents for sure, but how much like a lot of their little things, theywould say just wer because of the life experience was so true and obviouslyabbeys just turned seven months now on Valentine's Day, and I was having aconversation with somone at work about it's so cute. I find that new parentstalk about the month, anniversaries and- and I was always the same way- I waslike what are these people doing four months celebrating two months? It'slike what's going on and it's just it the easiest way to put it is you'recelebrating the most amazing moment in your life, so you're going to want torecall that memory and that feeling as much as you can and you see them,particularly in the first few years. You see him rop so quickly that it'sjust like every month is like this new big adventure. So for anyone out therewho sees a post like, I did and used to think I wat you know four months. Whatdo you celebrate? Ind Trust me when you go for, I you completely understand, sothat's been really amazing. Seeing a the way I've had to develop both withmy relationship with Charlotte with me as a person and seeing abbey developaround me. I've just finished my I was doing aatome the semester, so Idid summer at UNI because I'm studying part time so I'm just trying to get asmuch in as I can, because it's going to be longer than three years. Obviouslyso just finished anautof me that was really intense, really hectic. It wasone of those things where, like I knew I need do it. I was put I'd, put it offfor about a year or so and then finally got in to manks thatgot it done like learning about the body that twelve different systems fromdiscaledal system ostheology the studiof bones the muscular system todigest him to Cardivascula, to Lymthatic to to digest. If I probably said that tothe central nervous system like just so many amazing things, it's like, I stilldon't fully know like. I know anything, but that's what everyone sayscollectively is like all. You've got to do and I had two exams. Today's, likeall you've got to do, is recall what you kind of learn, because you need toget these exams done well, and I kind of have a goal set for myself where Iwant to. I've had a few really good grades, and I want to keep that goingand it's all matched with ther fot as well, and this one was really hard, butit was like twelve Adin two years ago, eightenmonths two years ago, I wouldn't have been able to do this. You Knot, I justwouldn't be an able to focus for long enough. I would have just pulled theplug early and I was able to get through it without you know it was hardit was uncomfortable, but at no point today, Ifvir want to quit. So I wasreally happy with myself there. So I have another exam on Wednesday. Ishouldl get my grades back in a couple weeks which I'm really excited about. Ishould definitely get at least a credit which is for an Ananymou unit. Anyonehous done any sort of health, science or any medicine, or anything like that.They'll tell you that first year of anatomy is just people just like I thatwas so intense, so I'm really happy with that. I'm going to go basicallystraight back into first semester in a couple of weeks. That's the onlydownside about doing summer scores you don't actually get like that time off,but I'm kind of loving it to and then obviously been having work working at the golf coursehappe and Workit the gym as well. It's been really amazing to get better, notjust my knowledge of training and my knowledge of the human body, but alsoof how to teach people and how to run a class and because we do group kickboxing and groups tranken conditioning classes at the gymupp. So that's beenreally great and from I started that...

...the week before covided now we had sometime off and I went back and I've kind of been doing it every week for, likethe last eight months and just getting better and better at that, so that'sbeen really cool and then just getting back into my own personal training aswell. I was talking to you about M. I started retracking my calories againthrough my fitness power, really good, APP that anyone out there who havingwho wants to lose weight and are having difficulty with it. They just don'tknow how much what to eat, how much to eat. It's a really good. It's onlyabout fifteen a month for like it is something you have to pay for, but weall have Netflix wewill have spotify. We all have these things we pay for,and you know we kind of waste time on it's a investment. I couldn't highlyrecommend there's so many other ones like you can go through four or five different platforms thatare really good. I just really like this one, because I've used it before.I think my fitness father S, probably orall the best one. There is yeah youcan just you SCIN. If you're eating anything with package on it, you scanthe Barco, it go straight and it's even hello, fresh right. So I we have hellof fresh five or six night a week. They have that all on there the's just got amassive database. It's really quick and easy, like it's pretty accurate as well.It links up with all your devices, so I've got my apple watch that I used totrack my workout. So it links that up. So I know kind of my calory mount. I'vegot that to deal with it's like a math equation and I'm not going to be on itforever like. I was at a point when I lost the weight originally about twelveeited months ago yeah. It was like the back end of Twenty Nineen, where I wasreally. I really got extreme with it and I was like I wasn't not lettingmyself eating certain foods and I was being really hard on my sofa over didand that's just a learning experience. I'm realizing now that the relationship that we have good andbad with food, like even the word like cheatmeals right, like there's, no SUC,sing ars a cheat mail, you're just eating food that has calories that hasa new trence that has everything in there. If you, you know, if yourestrict all those sort of things to one day a week, wher you don't even letyourself have it or your you'r cutting that off. So much that that's whypeople lose waiht or they do really well for a few months, and then theyjust charge back in like something happens, little fucking bumpin the roadof wife and then they just get back on it because we're like being toocontrolling with our food, I pretty much still eat whatever I want. I justkeep an eye on T. I track it. That's what I think is the best part f aboutthe APP you can know exactly what was in there any kind of manageet. Okay, Imight have a smaller breakfast or the next few days, I'll just be really good.So that's been really great and it's also learning you know. It's aboutlearning what's in certain foods and how how much like we actually eat like howthe reason why obesity has never been as big and like it's more previlent nowthan it's Heveer beend. It's not just the access. We have to really bad foods,but it's the quantity in those foods like how big serving sizes are theamount it added things in foods that just jack their calories up, and you know ultimately it's just just oneof those things where once you're aware of it, you kind of realize t it's justlike anything. You become aware of how that system works, and you just youeducate yourself on it and that's a beautiful thing about life as well. Themore things you learn like the better control you get out of it and yeah. Sothat's been really good yeah and just been just been plodding away. Might ifI'm being perfectly honest, like I've, just feeling, like I'm, my maturityisleveling up a farbid as well t dealing with plenty of adversity with raising achild and with these studies and everything else that my life is likeI've been way less emotional I've, not let myself get too high ortoo low I'v just trying to learn to understand and regulate those things,and just I had a personnelity, a N. I still do, but I used to have a reallystrong personality where I come out of the gets hot like I come into socialsettings or I'd, come I'd, come into work like trying to attack the day or,let's go thats pump, it's go and then I'd have like days. I didn't feel likeit and I'm just like man. I can't do that N, because I can'tdo that. I felt like I was failing myself and I'm just like not just gowith how your feeling go. If do what you need to do so be disciplined to doit, but if today's a day you're not feeling the best, its okay, just shoupand do your best- and it's all like...

...that, so I'm just trying to work withthose little thoughts back around in my head and I feel, like I've, been a lotmore level and everything else like. But most people don't know this aboutme, but I actually suffer like a lot of social anxiety like I've always havelike social, St Social Whois settings and I've always really struggled withit. But I've been outwardly outwhere, hidn kind of upbeat about it and peoplethink. Oh, he just enjoys that he's really natural, it's actually reallyuncomfortable for me and I'm getting to an age now here, I'm actually startingto realize that and learn and understand it, and as soon as yourecognize it like explain so many different things and that's somethingthat's caused the fluctuation in the way I'velived. My life is so long that now that I've been made aware of it and then now Iunderstand it, I feel like I'm just it's really good. It's the only way todo it is like you're on the highway and your just cruising. You know thingscoming your way and they don't mention you just keep going forward. You keepthe right people in the right things in your life and yeah things are gettingbetter. Her Yeah T at's bit of a summary There Migh Lotofon back there, so so I'm going to quickly touch on fewtopics. First of all, I want to say WOCA I practically grown up with you,writer yeah. I mean well least. One thing I didn't want to do coming backhere was to rent. I felt like renting is Tochatic, but it is what it is SA.That's kind of. I don't think that was a rand. I think that was yeah. That wasa very deni a question of it. I DII Fel, like it's Fitinto, Mato there's a lot to unpack here, but so Ijust want to say: I've known you for we've basically grown up together right.So, although, despite the fact that you know we were what you know sixteen orwhatever it was right but met, it's almost been. You know that tenyear,where we've known each other right and then these are the real crucial years,where you form your personality, because a sixteen year old child is achild right, that's thiss, exactly what it is and I've seen you gone into the personyou are today and you know, as a friend I couldn't be more proud in any by by and by allmeans right. I think your an incredible human, the human you have become you've,become more compassionate. I've seen you become more compassionate, morethorough and more deliberate, and the word the reason I use the worddeliberate. Very deliberately, because often me off to many people live theirlives as as an accident right they go goingwith the floor is great, but they really just go with the flow. When Isay they, don't they don't do things because that's what they that's. Whatneeds to be done? They do things because that's whas immediate you know,so I think I seeing you become that person who is deliberate, thorough. Youknow intelligent and compassionate, I think, ar it's I'm very proud as proud of you asa human. You know, and I'm and all I can see isuse US getting better by Thet Day. So congratulations on that couldn't bemore proud so and s easerin that Bater ever since you had abbe as well, I'veseen changes in you. Even in your language, you swear less, which issomething so small but yeah. I don't Goin. O Church has been a big thing aswell, because I realized how much I did it like subconsciously and in in settingsthat didn't need didn't eat it like hey. I I'll always believe be a firmbeliever in a good square. WED, don't get me wrong. It has the time in aplace as long as the INTENTIONATHINK, but I didn't realize how bad it was.Hey. Yeah, I think swearing is. Is it like a terrible slat is an intelligent man, languageightfucking horrible mte, F situation, butit's yeah, it's great second thing.Second thing I was going to say was and you're absolutely right. Seeing thatyou know and de the day I just had this realization. Few days ago, when my parents moved to Australia, mymom was the roughly the same age as I am today, yeah wow that hit me and Iwas like Holy Shit. My mom had three...

...kids at that point, and you know shewas s she's, dealing with a new country and like doing all these things andpotour house and all like. So you know W it'. Just thinking about that, you goholly Shit like you know. I haven't had that realization of having a child, soI'm trying to relate that to realizing that how quickly time passes yeah. It doesn't seem that long, but itreally has that you know it's insane a D, so it's a little nottere and n inInregards to the fitness right. So I I re when I moved back to Cydney and I wastraining really hat and I did the same thing. I've changed my relationshipwith food and the reason I've been calling a relationship where I've firstone thing that I have done: I've star stopped stopped romanticizing food. That's onething that I have stopped doing foods grate. I love food. You know I lovetasting new food, but I have stopped romanticizing it and stop using thewords like, oh Yeu, a want to get ice cream or, like you know, one thatputting that Romanticism into food of the you know the modern things thathvebeen driven by you know things like Oh Bennan, Jerry's Nitflix and I somechills because I know better than anyone else. Those are marketingtectics, so trine to stop Romant, stop trying to stop remantisizing food aswell. However, you know in the past I dropped down to almost seventy twokillors from eighty four pills from being max in the peak of locktown right and downto seventy four killers, its almost a ten cil down, and then I lot so andthen I start training and I started eating eating normal right, and this isthe first time I've been as strong as I was roughly three years ago. So is goodto have my strength back like at the moment. I think there's these are I hitlike you know one try and start crossing over to thatone succeeted lift area, and then you know one nded and sixty dead, las ff fiftyplus just Ba tha hundred ten Filo yeah. That was you know. That was always yournatural strength, ose yeah, that's very quickly into training likethat was our. That was your your Brend padder. Wasn't it Mi my my Siri, a yeahyea, so my scode is back up to like inother hundred twenty hundred thirtyCilo Plaso, I'm like working back on that strength and if anyone kiss butcheck out my picture of my legs on Instagram at the moment, yeah becausethey look like me, wood maps, but you know so I'm getting stronger, and thatis not me stredding. That's actually me eating normal tan, almost kind of beingin a surplus of calories, but at the moment I can't train. So it is what itis now. The last I was noin baby, that's right! That's right! You're,right, I'm going for walks and looking at weights. So that's my phobeoal walkyer long philosopher walks yeah with it five case. That's right! What was thelast thing you said, after in your kind of your ret, so or speaking I' probably touched onsocial, Oh yeah, sortions, that's a! I was going to say it's alwaysinteresting hearing that, because growing up with you, I always thoughtyou could a like. Like, and I've known you right and I always thought was likeman. He can talk to anyone. I can't talk to anyone right and it's alwaysinteresting hearing that, because I'm like man, I wish you had told mebecause we could have hit those all the suvition together be like we could havebeen viserable together, yeah Knowso, it's always interesting, because I wasthe same and I think I got really lucky, because I sort of kind of fell intothat acting round where you know being around very supportive people who madeyou feel like that, you you needed to be hurt right so whichwas nicer. That kind of really have my ability to you know, and I always saythe I'm with chelling someone about it, Sai one of the greatest one of thethings that I'm both proud of in the past five years. I've achieved is beinghaving the ability to speak to people and knowing that people care likefeeling like people are listening and that's a great ability, bocause beingable to make things interesting and saying all those things talking. I meanwe have a podcast now so right. It's...

...almost interesting because I took andsame thing as you took that one thing that I wasn't good at and I kind ofturned it into the thing that I'm, that is my most celable. I GuessService. If you will, like all my things, you know I work in marketing,so I have to do pitches all the time, sales, bitch and all that sort. So Italk a lot, which is surprisingly the one thing that just like you, I wasn'tgood at you know, or I felt like I wasn't good at so I guess that's a little bit of therestrictions of limiting beliefs all in your head. That's that's exactly right!So you know here we are so it's it's and it's always still a little bit ofsocial anxiety, but, starting to you know as I grow up, I think you careless about what people think as well. So all those things add up to becomingyou become a better person yeah most definitely and it depend yeah. I thinkmaybe the shift goes from a external to internal like when I was younger. Itwas. It was more so about the way other people tike. I cared a lot about and Istill do, but in a healthier way, I believe at least I cared so much aboutwhat other people forg and that's what drove me to you know, that's what drovethe the fear of it all and that's what caused that reaction and cause theanxiety of it was because I was so concerned about what people I wantedpeople to like me. There's a lot of young people R. That way, and then, asI started, to get comfortable in talking like for me, it was radio. Iwas doing community reador growing up and I started to get ridly analyticaland stars o get really critical of the way. I thought so then the way I'mtalking became a cause of anxiety. I'm like all am I talking well enough topeople understand me. So it's just like it's really interesting how you don'trealize how big of an impact these things have on your life until you kindof have feurika moments, if you were and you sort of can start to onepackitand just like anything once you start to realize the cause of it, you canstart to address it and answer it and then all of a sudden it actually startsto go away and then our dirty brains go all right. What's the next thing I canmove on o Bee fucking stressed about, but hey that that's also very much apart of life and Altha that we can loarn to harness and use that like. Forme, I used to rea a really bad study and I'm still a pretty shitty studier,but I used to be terrible and my excuse was like I don't want to do it so much.I wouldn't do it and I just sort of wing it, but now I'm learning tochannel some of that bloody anxiety into allright. I'm going to try tolearn everything and hey like that, might not be the most helpiss thing inthe world, but it's forced me to sit down and study for these exems and kindof take it and learn as much. I can so it's all about a jug going Aat the endof the day, but again to kind of link it all back. It's that mindset thatgrowth and continue ind prove in mindset that you just can continue tounpackand and kind of regress a lot of these things and you constantlyeffacing these battles, but your it's ting, it's like as a young person, you,you have your ways of dealing with things in that young person mindset,you're amost, coming back as a kid and I sort as an adult, and I would imaginethat's what a lot of psychologist have to go with. Whet people come in andthey talk to him about certain life events or the way they deal with things.They have to almost go back and understand why they react to certainthings treated as a way. Okay, you used to used to react to this setting as akid you now and ow Ot. Now that's changed the way you think about it,you're trying to you're trying to solve these adult problems with your youngermentality. So that's and that's becomes a little bit of a. What do you call it like a something?That's like natural, so it's like it's like automated right. So, like youuntil you ddress these issues or your way withe dealing with them. It there'san automated response that you would have done when you were youngger likedealing with stress or dealing with being told to do something you didn'twant to do and you're trying to do the same thing as you were younger. So it'sjust like constantly going back and constantly just trying to work on itand realizing that it's not always going to be your best day but yeah itis. It is just beautiful when you can start to kind of have that more of amindset. So I hope that's something that I'm not in. Like the the old saying. What is itperception is. Reality is crazy because you make up these realities in yourhead, but the way other people perceive you sometimes so on'pot it, because yourealize that how how you're, actually...

...looking on the other end, is sometimeslike the gratification to you need to know that you're on the right path.Well, that's exactly right! It's the whole thing that anew fot said whetheryou think you can or whether you think you can you probably Li it right yeah.So you nee that the true FAB yeah, it's a you know, it's all perception andtheyre kind of talking about what you're saying it's all that you comingfrom childhood: Six segment segment, Floyd Egment, floyd for semen, Foyd, O fros right so thisa famousphilosopher so s his therapy was yeah is a LO. Is the SYCHOISS? Yes ipotpsychologist right, he was probably one of the four fathersof psychotherapy or he was epetar yeah, so for FIR OC say he talks about that.A lot of our trauma trauma is something traumais not often defined. Well right,so trauma trauma can be two things right. So it'seasy to the. In fact, I can actually kind of break it down into two aspectsof so first Wer Froma of looking at it is one often we think trauma is ainjury right. So from is injury. Troma is not necessarily injury. traumizertrauma is is like a scar right. DRAUMA is what's left over off that injuryright mental injury. So it's almost like you know whenever you get injuredand you have that whatt was it called this that skin that build up preside ofthe when you recover from that cut or bruise. Whatever Y, like Scot Tissues,Scot issue on that right, so that's a bit of a you know you'R at anatomy,coming into PLAC. So whenever you have that Scot issue right, that's what yourefer to as trauma trauma is not necessarily the injury by itself, butit's the Residu of left of the actual event that that happened right so that eventdoesn't necessarily have to be bad or good right. It's just an event. Sooften when Siman fod talked about it, he said you know you go often many ofthe things actually are related to our childhood fromal childhood things thateserved us once so. Forexample, for example, when we look at you know,one person is very is afraid of speaking. So what was it?The child wotents? You know perhaps the parents whenever he spoke and spoke upparents just you know, didn't bad, didn't, listen to him or be justwhenever he's they he spoke. They said hey play with this or right. They wereprobably parents right, yeah, not necessarily being mean, even if theyrevarded the child for not speaking right. It still ends up being Trama,because now that childs behavior that conditioning that served him, then hesaid don't speak equast reward, and now you brain is still trying to get thatreward. Twenty years later. Thinking that, if you don't speak, youll get areward versus verses. When you speak, you don't and actually that's actuallyvery good example. So you know a lot of ethnic parents. Whenever you take thekids over to you know, I'm sure ALD parents, but especially ethnic parents,when you take the kids over to families, prayer other family's house, like kids,aren't a strict restriction not to speak right because they kno kids aregoing to say something stupid and you don't look like an idion. So that'sthat's a small example that tuns later turns into a trauma right because kid,its a big big thing: the culture to it's, a Directe seflection of theparents right like if the guts, yeah yeah, that's exactly, and the thing isthe interesting thing is they didn't know this the so they didn't know whatthey were doing because they weren't they didn't have this level of, andthat's the great thing about, having all these resources that a'm able tosit here and talk about this and have a conversation, but they couldn't becausethey didn't have this access to this level of information. This was only youknow, strictly forbidded for the elate or the psychologist, or this all thosepeople who chose to study in such fields. But now you know, I can study abook as segment proden kind of talk about the ideas and learn from what toimplement and what not to- and you know and another one which isthe father of logo therapy, which is another form of psychotherapy. You know,is done by Victor Frankel and he was he...

...talks about. He talks about the factand e was a concentration camp survivor survival and he talks about the factthat often so many of the things we don't really need to be fixed. We justneed to realize what our problems are or what our issues are or what you know.We don't really need a medicine. We just need awareness and hes is a thing. Anawareness is a gift,because if you have a watness, you can even go get help. But if you don't knowthat the problem is there, it's like you, have a broken tap and that'sleaking inside the wall. You'll never know because you can't fix that tap.You just know your house is slow, slowly, fading away, but you just don'tknow why. So you know so it isn't having that awareness is, is a gift initself, but if you can somehow develop that awareness and it's so hard becauseyou know someone who doesn't have a wayness you'll, never be able to tellthem that this is what your problem is because they'll never realize. I don'tknow how you develop, that awareness and perhaps I'll, read somewhere andlearn about it. But at the moment I don't know how what I can tell someone or what I cantell anyone that will help them develop that level of self awareness and lookinto. Why am I not speaking in public? Hey because it this? You know, yeah, there's a there's another anotherreally prevalent concept in for psychology called classicalconditioning and essentially it's a situation and it's stimulus combinedtogether, so stimulus happens in the situation, occurs: internal externaland it's a constant revolving door. So I think, that's kind of the best thingof education is identifying what or trying to teach and help someone ustidentifying what the cause might be, not being Ta grossive and not thing Ta,because at the end of the day like if you're trying to change the way peoplethink you're actually trying to restructure their brain and everythingelse. Like that's one thing like going scientific, a little bit, one people,one thing that people don't realize about actions and about the habits andthose sort of things. It's not just something that is, you knowsubconscious like do we do it to we, not your brain wherf. It's wheether!It's stress wherever these situations whare, if it causes like you, go intothese very habitual and routine habits, where your brain will release hormoansat a certain time of the day and that the cells arfracted by those hormonesand then yoursells actually carry storaes, they storl memorys. So there'seven when that seemu Lis is not there. Your brains are used to doing it. Thatit'll want to do it by itself. So it's just like a when trying to retrain ortrying to show someone a different way to think you have to o have to kind ofthink about like this is actually something that they're there from aneuroscientific standpoint. That nervous system is doing without IFENT,realizing whereher. It's eating a certain way or thinking a certain way,reacting that sort of thing so you've got to kind of like help them identifythat and then ultimately, like you, can only ever help people so much. Theyhave to be the one that wants to change and they have to start to implementchange the habits and do everything like that. So yeah, it's really. It'sreally interesting when you understand how deep a lot of these things go andhow it's not just about, sometimes like that strategy of just doing it gettingIC getting toward start. It really helps because, like a shock to thesystem, it's like you're reintroducing this, this new abstimulus and that canhelp start things. But ultimately, when you're talking about real fundamentalchanges, particularly from a neuroscientific level, you're talkingabout things that maybe have been ther it' that were very small child yeah,it's like re whatit's, just like stripping the engine of a car andreplacing, and we went in there and there's all these nerves and everythinggoing off. At the same time like how amazing the body is and how adaptive weare, and but also how how conditioned how use the body isacting certain way it can. It can really make these sort of thingsdifficult, and that's why you know that's why people suffer traw,my childhood trauma for so long, because it's just something that youknow it's very hard to remove the memories of your celves outof your body like it is very difficult. The only way to really get through itis to learnto use that and to...

...understand that that experience was putin your life, so you would have the strength to do with other experiencesother than that it's just at the time. Yet, at the time it wasthere to help you deal with particular situation. Perhaps it may not help youany longer, yeah te very much a double edged, arday yeah yeah, that's right!So it's always interesting as well, because you can look at a situationthat was actually quite helpful at the time were, for example, at school is agreat example: school discourages people, kids from talking in classesright and so one of the Mo thing. That's always discouraged an, and thisis because we talked about talking and social anxiety right so in school. Goodbehavior is a kid who's, quiet, a well Beav kid who's. A QUIET! Rokuetd criedit's funny, because those kids also don't get awarded for it. They, likeall these kids, too quiet, but teachers continues to tell you to be quiet, butwhen you're quiet the say all these kids Shyke Kit, so it's kind of adouble Egi Soe, like you know, you see the school system but day is you know,kind of there's no real top put ingto what they're saying and what they'reusing, because once again, you know those teachers keep in mind. They justfinish UNIN and most of them are roughly the same ageas us. You know andthere's teachers that our twenty two twenty thee year old teachers, what dothey know you know? So it's always interesting. Seeing TAT asWellso school once again plays a big role into what kind of person you endup becoming it. What kind of conditioning that you keep for wharththei years, you know, and it's you car was a good analogy when you look at itlike it. Sometimes, even when you replace the whole engine- and yourealize you know you still running- you know dry or you running, you knowthere's too much fluid because you need to rewy the Esuas well, because youneed to read Tacke the ISS withto, the new engine, and sometimes what you saidwas true. It cant be shocked to the system and all that restart of justgoing and doing things right, and I think like, for example, me talking. Ididn't know that I had a social anxiey issue until until much later into justactually doing it for such a long time, and when I started getting read ofSocial Ansiety, saying thinking Hep way hold on, did I have social anxiety?Wait? I did yes so so sometime that works as well. It'syeah, it's the like the lack of it not being theremakes you realize how major Il impact its like an injury or like if you had yeah. If you had some pain and y whenit's gone, you like wow, that was significant. I got so used to. I didn'trealize how how big of an impact it actually was. Well, that's IT Yeah! SoI think those are some good areas to look into. Perhaps Lis e a od forForday, that's a little bit. I think that's a lot of food for Tola. That'sthat's the name of this episode. How about that food, fobal, thetot food forthe OD preebranded for two thousand and twenty one yeah? Well, it's actuallybeen a very, very philosophical episode. Yeah we went t COMPA. I said we cameout of the gates. We fought weld just leave the open book and then m. We justwrote: We wrote an epic towl there we had a jug. This is the jug was filledwith our art and we just poured it out and everyone. So I hop Evero a that.It's been a great episode check out US and check us out on socials Instagram,Claber, Tamhis, podcast, facebook, clever, tem, his podcast spotify apple,potcasst, stitcher, ITIM itens, don't longer exist. I think, but yeah spotifyGoogle podcast and check US check out our website. The clever tim is podcastcom. I thinkI'm saying theyre right right. The collebera Tim is podcast thecv. Maybethe CDP, clever dummies. It sounds about right. I mean we did a prettygood job of naming ourselves that we don't have too many clashes. So I thinkthey'll find US anyway, big Gol Yeah Al Yeaht, so it's called the Cleverdomispodcast check us art. We are like the first one that come up because you knowthat's how great we are. That's how Youniqu ue are yeah, that's how uniquewe are and if you actually need a new website withyou know, with with your design and all your stuff that you want to sell tostuff hit us up, you can get a hosting...

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