The Clever Dummies Podcast
The Clever Dummies Podcast

Episode 5 · 1 year ago

The CDP // Ep5: Fear, Friend or Foe

ABOUT THIS EPISODE

In this intimate episode, we talk about fear and the impact fear has on our wellbeing.

We address how to best manage and eliminate fear.

We also share our experience.


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Email: cdp@zeromedia.com.au

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...it sort of throws it out. But yeah it'sabout yeah, it's about two yeah one. He two hours after after whatever yourbody clock is shifted to so yeah Whereif, you've sort of lived, and Ican't remember how quickly like it wasn't very much, but I justed on MaStraightaway. So I guess, if you're moving, obviously to the you know quitea different times, Onler tot takes some time and obviously that's why you know it can be difficult. If you'retraveling overseas, you sort of have to adjust your body clock, but Yeah O. Ithink that's. I think that makes sense like if I'm not eating too many sugarslike nine thirty ten o'clock, I'm even Ninen thirty, I'm pretty set like yeah.That feels like that's when I want to go to bed, but that's that's yeah!That's a good plaas resisted. As long as I can. I hat knowit's good for me, but I just I like to be awake. I re you know, so it's like areal battle that you've got to give yourself. You know Forcei Ofin. Theresometimes look, I'm the same. You know I feel like I get real all of a suddenwhen everyone goes to sleep. This is there's actually a study on it. Why you feel that way? I think there'sone of the reasons it was a you who was saying. One of the reasons is the factthat evesode, everyone is asleep and another one is, you know, the'se astudy on at. I can't remember what the study is but yeah. You know you areoften more creative, not everyone. They are people who are more creative, yeahYo. You get your best performance at a certain time. Yeah you I to Clarty,it's almost like a second wind yep. They just looking on line here, andthis is not really looking to where it's come from, but it kind of givesyou two thirty to three o'clock so teretically, maybe eight or nine hoursafter you've woken up. That's what your coordination and your reaction time isat its fast. This it sounds like it might be hen. This is complete guest with, butit might be like a second repeat of the rhythm without sleep, so like you, yeahyou're, definitely like a little bit dreary and you're. Definitely like you,don't feel confident, driving a car necessarily unless you sort ofcafinated up, but in terms of just like cognative function or stimulationlike there's nohing there that you feel like you've sort of got a second wind,but then I find you know even I love that space. I hit that space like whenI do eventually crash. After that you know fourfor thirty, then it's like Wineed a big sleepin. You know you can't sort of wait. You've got to kind ofgive yourself that extra to yeah well Yorhav to smemupon a half of me etserit Kin Yeahthi. Once again, this is a complete theorio as well or it couldbe more of like a meditative state, like sort oflike a strand state between like between full consciousness and halfsort of subconsciousness sort of being in somewhere in the MILDL. So then youhave the f the creative vity of the subconscious, and then you know the theintelligence of the conscieus. So perhaps that's a possibility as well. Idon't know this is just a absolutety that ive s mit up and Ou Saran. I guessyou kind of not thinking about as much or maybe you're, not what think aboutas many things. So you might, you might feel like a little clearer, yeah and alsoyoui have an assignmentdrew that night and you're like a Yeh. Well I mean that's a different yeah.That's a different scenario. That's when deadlines are own. You someer, Ifind to be honest, I'm going to be completely honest at so there's beentimes where I've gone to work. You know with like three hours of sleep right ortwo. I was like yeah to be completely honest. That's when I'm the mostproductive right, I'm going to say productive, but I'm not going to sayeffective Ei'm, not as effective in a sense whenI, when I'm at my full energy I've got, you know you better, you better stand about. Youknow for at least a colommit away from my door, because you just know I'malways excited about something right but im. You know couldnt Astyeah, I'msitting there and I do more. But you know if normally I normally I'd go towork and I'm you know God full energy. I do a little bit then ot get to likeyou know to excited into adhd sort of thing, and I just get up and move so Ifind when I have reduced energy. I can do more, but even though it's not aseffective- and I thinks I probably shout it'sa shorter window way like it,you can yeaepay sit it down because you're kind of half tired you kind of,can cut out a lot of like your brain, isn't overly stimulated yeah. That'sright and I guess maybe cautes all isn't as high and it's kind of like ahat fire of flight. So you know you're not as reactive and theoretical like most of our. You know, most of our potbrain pathways and our homones are based off sort of our like our ancestry.So what part of the world you lived in and you know what times o the day theywere up hunters and gatherers. That sort of thing so, even though, like you, wouldn't beas efficient like you're, more likely to get killed, you're, probably morelikely to be better at you, know,...

...figuring what you need to do and thengetting it Doneo. You can go and preserve yourself, so you can go ondsleep so yeah, it's only like a more like a yes more like a saving like asurvival mode. Were you just cheip away on some little bit Noyeah, even thoughit's not as yeait's, not as it's not as intutive, and it's not asthe states not as Ontelligen a supporse yeah highperforming it's a you know, but it's sort of more like survival, more yeaand Idono. To be honest, I don't think it's a very good space to being not allthe time you deily like this life will throw a curboar and you'll need to getthere but yeah. If you do it like. Certainly if you do it two days in arow like one days usually enough to scare me by two o'clock, I get a realcrash. I'm like all this is like fike. You know I feel like I can walk intethe front of the train right now, like you sort of have those littlemicrosleps but yeah. If you, when you start going back to backdays, that'swhere Hou startd to go well like this is like you'le, starpd coffing. For noreason like you start getting sick, you might get irritable, I'm not an overlyirritable person. So it takes a lot for me to kind of get that way but, likewhatever you like my personality, trait, maybe one of my worst post, my worsthabits is I'm a little bit forgetful and I can kind of zone out a little bit. So I wilay own out a lot easier. Ithink yeah and it sure ones like an ecro person or someone to like acombative person. They might be. You know extra extra, combative or whateverit is for sure, and I think yes, that'simportance. Ofso I supposed sleep, but you know today's topic is actually notabout and Ir's something more important and sort of relevant yeah and I want tostart sure. Yeah definitely ties into it. INCERTAIN axcent extent. But youknow I'm going to sort of Seguet into it and then from there I'll, let youchat a little bit and then I' jump a jump back in with some brants and someideas, and I think today's Today I at least Iwant to sort of you know, push people who listen at least. Soprobably you know boy, my mom Wi is he's listening, but Yeah Haa. So you know it's justpushe people onto sort of you know facing those pace as well as well assort of really explore them, and you know be aware of those. So I want to start by the one of the you know. Have you everonce and we just chatted about that. So have you ever? You Know Seid an alarm.You know before you gon to gon to bed Youe like OL right. Well, I'm going towake up tomorrow at like I don't know six o'clock in the morning and I'mgoing to go to the gym or I'm going to go to work early or I'm going no wakeup and you know do something right. So what happens? Is You know you set yourintentions, theres two things here. Right often you do it and you know if you set th alarm,but you don't really set the intention first of all, but we're not talkingabout that here, but you know the second thing is, then you have f fear Yeah. So you know you say your alarm,you go to sleep and then you wake up next morning, and you know you justcan't get out e bed. What happens? There is in fact, actually fear of theday that is to come yeah by th the day you're about to step into. I think thefar drives from few things. One of the fears that you have is you know that you, your today's in a natuial, you already know whatyou're Coan to expect from the day. So of you know it's nothing. Unexpected isgoing to happen and it's a precertain sort of day. You Know Somo Dan Day, soyou're not excited about anything. So it goes into theoral back in the daysmen were kids right. You know our parents would get us bad to get. Youknow go to school, but that one day would have something exciting to dolike you know, maybe a school discursion and we know the boys weregoing to go, and you know I don't know what Goino get satday morning, yeahcrig an ceremony we were up, we were upbefor, our parents Ta, that's it. Ithink the difference was is that in those days we had something to beexcited about and something unexpected was going to happen and the fear factor was removed in asense where you didn't know what was going to happen and you were moreexcited and I think, excitement and fear a to very opposite things because were fair lies. You can'treally be excited about something because you're fearful of it- and Ithink I I think they could be crosses. You could be a little bit afraid andyou could be excited because an ithink, that's more thrilled. That's anotheremotion that you can go in to it's more when you're thrilled that you knowyou're farful but you'r moving forward and I think that's a very good place tobe as well when you' feeling thrilled a riht depends on what Yeu ituation islike. If it's you know, if you've put yourself into a like a bad sate of mineor made some bad habits and then that feel or anxiety is a negative thing andthere's definitely like it's the opposite of excitement for sure,because it's like a dreadfulness but...

...like if Youve got O is your omtation atwork or you know you are maybe a ' e going on a date with a girl that you'vebeen looking forward to like that, that's yeah, it just depends on thecircumstance O. Well, that's it so that you know. Let's say if you have apresidition at at at work, and you know you're,fearful of the what people are going to think of you. That's that's a fearright. This definitely is really that's. That's a fair tits, a legitimate fearand I'll get more intorfere and yeah. I'm sure you will as well feels arpretty fundamental in a sense where they really only few outcomes. So youknow so yeah. So I'm just quickly back on that. So of fear of you know, let'sse your fear of presetation you're not freaking out, and you know you wake up,and you really feel you know you'e already running late, because you wokeup late and you know just the days just going to shit because you know, eventhough you have presission, where it all started from, was the fact thatyou're faitrful of how their presetation is going to go and whatpeople are going to think of you, which means you know, youill ready.Will you know the moment you Tel yourself that you're going to performLAK yhit o? I think that's, that's the fear factor that plays into it. That'swhat you wake up late. I think that's a big thing that happens to people whenthey set in well half AU su set intentions, ther and you know tri tod.You haven't quite prepared, and I don't actually men like Youre, going on adate which is a really interesting one, because you know I hear people go over. Youknow I can't get a you know. I can't get her into a relationship or I can'tfind someone who likes me and you know most of the time they're not evenchatting to anyore like they're, not talking to anyone right, you know. Sohow are you meant to get into relationship or well? You know, well isones again. It's a fear. It's not that you have to prepare to talk to someonepetty smole. So if you're, if you're fearing somethingknow that you'r know being present, so that's the big thing right, so you knowbeing present because in the present fiew doesn't exist. So fear often comesin when you're worried about what's going to happen in the future right and you know, or if you haveanxiety, then you worried about what has happened. You know sort of thingyou know or re sort of I yes yeah repeating itself or you know going todepressive state, and you know you sort of try to hold on to things that happen.That's a depresses state! If you worried worie about what's going tohappen, that's insiding in fear. So you know those things. Are It's a veryinteresting loop that you can get yourself stuck into, and you know when I say interesting,it's interesting in a sense to interesting to explore for for me atthe moment, but it's not a good feeling to have wis, not a good space to be in you know, and what I said before andafter that Il let you take over Lockon, but fear is brief. Fer Andxi fear atleast is fundamental in a sense where you can pretty much. What's Te be basiclevel of fear right, soways, if you track down fair, you know you're, worried about you worried about someone. You know youworried about a presentation rigdt. What's in, why are you wore what youreworried about what people are going to think of you and how you speak and howyou act? If you really think about that Fearfur a second but and wheres I feercoming from. Why are you worried about people? What people think of you andthe answer to that is- and I'm not saying this, because I actuallyrecently read something about this. So that's why I'm saying this one ting,this particular ideology, so fear fear, would often be something you knowas small as if I you know, go up there and do thepresidetion and they won't like my presetation and they think I'm civilian.I talxiy they're going to reject me socially right. You know if that makes sense,yeah so socially reject social rejection and now wise Fusal, yeahsocial rejection. Why social rejection such a big deal and now this is whereit gets interesting, because our primitive minds would design to be ingroups yeah now, if you're getting rejectedsocially now, really doesn't matter because you've got other friends,you've got you know other people, you Gov, facebool, Youor, Instagram, youfun! SOMEOF, you are tender. You know you got all those things you findsomeone. The point is het, but you that fer is so intressal and like I'm nottrying to say you can just get read of that fear. I'm just trying really likeyou know, because it's hard it's easy said than done, but I'm really justtrying to explain what the basic of the basis of their theories. So that's thefirst Rar, because if you know back in the days in the primitive ases, if youwere rejected from a group or rejected from the you know, l group that wasformed. You would die yeah, so yeah. Really, if you go down to the ASU basisof the fear, his that Yeu will die another one is you know so these to twopass for the far? And you know every...

...single time you get to the absolutebasic, its death, but there's another level which is social acceptance andthere's anotherlevel above it, which is the fear of being alone riht, so thosethree levels to the far and you can track most fees down to that bit. Youknow I it's really interesting and that's a basis of the three and I'mtalking really generalized here as Wellso. You know, I'm not trying to saythispeople, Aren, afraid of other people dying or people, you know, butthe point is Mostoeis Canpol yeah everyone o yea, can relate this today,lives in one aspect or another for sure mfor yeas. So that was my that's myinitial introduction of fear, and I think this is going to be veryinteresting topic, and I think this is an important one as well a veryimportant one, because I have very good friends who have very bad fears andinxiety about certain things and you know well, I personally don't have many fears anymore, but you know I'vebeen through sometimes where fer was certain and it was unavoidable right.So you know, lockon was there, you know, I went through a dark period where Igot injured and you know I feared I experience yeah and you know- and Ineeded that Experesse, but I didn't. I didn't necessarily fear death to becometo be honest, but it was the fear of not being not being alive, which sounds strangebecau. Would you e yeah we, but also not living Lieit, was the fear of Mot eing able cri a x an not being ableto do the things that I wanted to do. I H yeahno experience like so, whichwas a o know, which was which was very ei yeah. It was a hard time, so youknow I now I'm pretty good, so you know I'm pretty good in living sort of beingin the present. Whenever you know every now and then I get sort of pulled intolike a future problem, litl black or what would happen sort of I've, beengetting better pulling myself back. You know out of it so which is that's my experience justto quickly start with US start with it and Yesso. That was my littleintroduction and once again I'm not not you know, saying fear is a small thingand everyone can just get rid of it. So because you know that wouldn't be anice thing to say it because that's not true, but it's a wareness, it startswith aweireness yeah, definitely definitely ite money on the head there and it ethe nail on the head there andbefore I move or nor kind of say what I'm thinking you just triggered mytrail. I thought with the like the idea of community sensor community and oneof my favorite books, I've ever read: Sor, I'm just kind of quickly caught one of one of my favorite pooks, I'veever read was one called tribe. It was bySabastan Jonga, Jonge, Scott Ju, Ngaa and yeah. Basically, he just goesthrough human history and talks about how you know our ancestries, all it theneme into it yeah. So it's just called tribe byis. The best in Johnk've justtried, yeah, really good audio book. He reads at himself and does a great jobof it and just goes through three or four different agent Chinese. In acouple of different real, deep ancestries and how they kind of allstuck in groups and how everything was predicated on the group fighting livingbreeding, you know life and death and how you know a lot of problems insociety when you know, particularly in a age that we live in today, when youknow the social networks have brought us together for a lot of people, theyfel a sense of separation. Just in terms of deep, you know deckcommunication and deep connect with people, so he just goes really wellinto that and yeah. I think if you check that one out, that's really goodone. We could go deep into that, but it's sort of slightly off whauht we'retalking about today, but Yeu. Try blace a Bessan Joa, really befook yeah fobefore you move, l, look en just a quick blow on our website. Just so justa quick black on our website. There's a tab. CALLD homework and you'd be ableto find links to things wet. We talk about in the podcast suchast thatparticular book. Definitely Wi. You know whatever it can be, like even theyou know, the Chrisems wor think we talked about last week or whatever itwas like. We can put some funny ones like that. I think we'll definitelyI'll put the title of the Book Up there tonight or tomorrow and we'lldefinitely get that Barl rolling, and then you knowany, podcast or anythingelse an it's kind of a good way to relate, and if you feel like you've,listen to something that sort of got your brain thinking, then I thinkthat'ld be a good way to sort of continue. One and books are just sogood because it's you know it's something that we don't do enough of,but once once you start reading, you...

...really realize like wow. This is likethe most important. This is the most amazing thing. Goan t do is actuallyread yeah, so yeah. I think that's a greatidea and also where now you know, we've been on spotify since the beginning,you know great wot by by our men and make for doing that when they're onapple podcast as well. So I listened to a lot of my podcast of throigh apple,so yeah just look at the cliper Domis podcast through apple podcast, for myfellow iphone friends and yeah you'll find it on this. But yeah you wait,Antroy, but also just anexpictea spotify, also just a Qick la you know. So if youcan't she, if you don't, have spurrify membership or you don't have you knowapple podcast, you can actually go down con. Our website, which is ze Mediacomtoayou forward, CDP C for CADD for duck. PFOR PARROT, CDP city pay for cleverdummis podcast, that's ight! I just thought W oths n ther he in the podcast,so that someone would be listening to it. Iesn, that's right, Ayeawell yeah,they might Enso, maybe they've jumped on that free wat. Also that's on oursocial channels anyway. So that's all good, so, okay, but now yeah gettingback into the fear of the fear Yeah. So for me like it was something I didn'treally have a lot growing up to, or I thought I didn't have it like. I alwaysfelt relatively confident speaking. You know to people when, and I know a lotof people that didn't like speaking to people. I get that sort ofcommunication, public speaking and even just general conversation, so I feltlike had almost got very lucky with that with anxiety in particularly withfear. Little did. I know that my you know I was using that outlet to sort ofget myself out of situationas where it was an assignment whether it was hardwork. You know whatever it was very funny how your body, you know allyour mind, will create this sor that mechanisms to protect yourself and when you're not really aware. You know,when you're young, you don't have the ability that critically thinkinganalyze and you sort of think you're okay. But for me it was after highschool I'd, say and getting into uni and then really wantidg to do a certainthing at Youni and then not realizing what what really entailed that thinging. For me, it wasbroadcasting and it was media- and I remember had this this experience and was radio for mefor sure, and in my second year of Uni I been working with the same group ofPeople Han. I rever talking to the same group of people. They all knew h'debeen doing radio for a while and our major assignment for this unit. Thatwas called Radio Broadcasting. o production was, you know, literally aradio show. So we had we had producers, we had people that were going to be onthe Mike and you know, sort of people running websites and everything else,just kind of trading like a stimulating. What a real life radio show would belike and we sort of went through the like alike a Formol, not that not what I'm I thinking not application, but like whenyou're an actor or something like you do what it Calle. When you your Ppliyer, it's a auditionally, sowe just did an audition and it basically just involved speaking for acouple of minutes. It involved talking into the mice and one thing that I'venever done before was. I definitely been talking to the bike since I was alittle kid, but I actually never really listened to myself speak at the sametime, and I didn't realize how much I breathe. So I was like talkingsentencesm here that sort of thing in talking he that sort of thing I didn'trealize I did it and then I started doing it, I'm like wow. This is likemassive, like I'm breathing a lot and then I sort of just froze up. I gotreally sweaty my hands a got really clarmy and I couldn't understand whatwas going on like something I wanted to do since I was a kid, was sort of likeflashing front of my eyes. Like can I do this? Can I not do it little dod? Iknow that all I had to do was focus on my breathing and it was going to beokay, but at that moment I sort of decided- or I don't know if I actuallywant to do this anymore and from there it was like a was like a very strangedownand sporal. I decided to you know instead of facing that fear. Instead ofyou know, working on it and getting in front of it, I decided to avoid it and then I sort of went through the rest of mydegree and just I was kind of a little bit lazy anyway. So I sort of a halfhausted everything just did the bid minimum work and then kind of got outof UNI, went into the workforce and then got to a stage in the workforcewhere any situation that I found myself running into a fearful situation, so talking to customers or talking to a manager likeI'd avoided at all costs. I talke my way out of it and I wouldn't face ithead on an I'ldl, be I'd, be afraid of the hard work aspect of it, but I would,I would more so be afraid of the failure of it and instead of doing whatI do now, which is you know when I'm not sure of something I communicate,and I say like Hey. I actually don't know how to do this, so I'm worriedabout this. Can It help me? I will just...

...avoid it at all cost into that bloedinto another job, but sort of another missopportunity I'd, say and then itkind of went through. You know the and this I could go on forever kind ofabout how life takes a hold and how depression comes over and that sort ofthing and something I don't really. No I'm happy to go into. It's not that,but I kind of feel like I'll just talk for thirty minutes straight and not cutto it, but it really was predicated around the idea of not you know kind ofnot facing the fear an any time a difficult situation. Woul come up, itwould just be avoid it's like all right move on run away from it come back, andI think ultimately, that's where, like real anxiety and rual depression comesin, is like when you're you feel like you can't get away from anything andyou can't get away from yourself. So that's kind of what happened with meand then you know it kind of goes on from there. Like you put on a bit ofweight, you start self medicating. You start eating the wrong way andultimately it's about running away from a little bit of e any time. I felt thatsense of fear. It was like. Oh man like here, it is again I'm not going to beable to do it and then you sort of just move on and then slowly. It was justabout unwiring that fear and kind of coming back into the level playingfield of it and then understanding that we all experience it and then chasingit, not chasing it per se but kind of facing. I can't realize the anxiety shere now. Why is it? He is it here, because I'm doing something wrong istit here, because I'm not confident in doing something. Or is it just here,because it's a kind of natural reaction to whatever's going on and then slowlybut surely where it was like exercises wherver it was, you know, studying everything else. Ikind of just slowly went back, went back and in sort of just understoodthat this pher was normal and I can get on top of it and then very quickly.Once I started to kind of look at the perspective from that angle, things asesort of changed, and now I'm at a stage. Now, if I do experience that sort of feer emotional corresolt bike inemotion, which is kind of t e, the fee Holeman, that is in your body, I understand what it is, and I veryquickly go is one or two things I think we could do if fers one that is like isit us, you know, is there anything can do about it. If there is then dosomething, and if there's not anything can do about it, then just let it goand then slowly but surely you kind of chip away and everything and you getrid of things that are maybe helping you put things off and then from there you sort of just goand keep getting better. But you just remember in the back of your head that,like that fear, is not a weakness like it's it's something to overcome, andthen you get strength. You know overcoming that fear. Then everythingbecomes fun because you've ultimately conquered that fear and that's kind ofmy fault circle. I try to make that as short as I can, but yeah that's kind ofhow I went with it and it all came. You know it all came from the mind like itwas a physical reaction. Thot fear emotion, but it was ultimately about the adjustment from ut away to runningtowards because when you run towards you build the strength to overcome andthen once you overbecome you're in a demon or you're in a battle, theneverything else gets easier and I didn't have like a nee death experienceper se, but I had a knee. I had a ne sense of,like my life heading in a spile that I wasn't going to come out of it, so itwas almost like a it was almost like that step up from them and then andfrom there now it's just great everything's really good and I feelvery confident you know becoming my fears now and bringing challenges on, and I guess I'm very lucky. I sort offigured that out at a young age and I didn't live twenty thirty years, anAvit, an wire, that's a big thing about like exercise and everything else ishaving to unwhy those things, those habits that you sort of build and cratover years and years. Absolutely I think I was, I lost youthere for a second, I sautiwas tit was really great and I thought youweren't a flow there. So I did wat see I was brilliant now. I reallyappreciate that was if you're going to hold full forwardyeah, that's exactly going to fall, OLF forward. You know if you're GOINNA, ifyou're going to suffer from fear, you know suffer from it and then learn fromit and then face it head on MI, guess, yeah and you bring. I bring the tribein with it like you, don't bat with yourself, like you feel like you feellike when it is a weakness you feel like you've got to do it yourself, butthen you start to realize that everyone else has these feelings ind, thatlittle community that you have. What keeps you strength and the more yousort of do things either that ar going to challenge your fear or the more youbring in other people to help you then yeah? We don't have to do this alone,and that was kind of that was kind of another area of it that helped assivelyfor sure you never have to do it alone.Absolutely I think you're on point there and you know just on the end.That's a hundred percent to you need...

...support, and I mean this I'm going to bring myexperience quickly back into it just because just because it is a brether, and so inmy experience I'm I can quite easily say you know if itwasn't for my friends supporting me and Aciunow, giving me the time out oftheir days. While I was in the recovery period, Iwould have been. Awule have been a very different recovery yeah. You know, youknow you lockon was there. While I wasrecovering you know every day, pretty much you know Te, you know Massis to bethere pretty much every day. Rs I you know they were. There were some fewpeople who were always there and it was just brilliant. You know, friends werealways there and it was really nice and that helpedmassively. You know so it's true hundred percent, so you got TA. Youknow you got to stick to that tribe at times as well. Now I'm gonna sort of jump a little bitmore into it and as to talk about what your normalteories like efuse of it. So you know when you have fears right to fears,sort of qualify. Other fears, if you know what I mean rhight, so youhave a fear of Os nons Weres, a compounding effect. You mean, like it,sort of mill that the work that's the Wa. Looking elso. You know you have afear of perhaps fear of doing a presentation or fear ofnot knowing how to do something and there'll be another fear of asking,because you don't want to look like you, don't want to think you don't wantpeople to think that you don't know something and then and then there'sanother fear that comes in, because you feel pretty. You don't feel great aboutyourself and there's another fear that comes in that start. You know the fearof self judgment. My friend theres, no worse judgment than self judgment, yeah it's one of those things when you startpesy canoscape, judging yourself, you can't escape it. That's a that's! Adark whole that it's I mean you can get out of anything, butthat's a dark place to go into when you start despising yourself for thosefears. That's when life becomes hard, so Ithink I'm going to start with saying if thireis a fear that you're sufferingwith and you're you know despising yourselffor having the fear got that shit out, because the fear isnormal. You know everyone has fears, you wouldn't be human. If you weren'tdidn't, have fears yeah, what would you be? You didn't have fears, you'd, be asociopath because Yo exactly abnormalyeah human imotion to be yeah,you exactly Ye, be yeah, you've Bee nonhuman yeah for sure, and they aresome benefits to Fars fer benefits. I'm going to list him out here for surewalking off a cliff right accidentally, that's a fear, because you know youknow to go that because you know you'e going to die. Yes, Ofein, the right!That's right, you know, fear off. You know something like you know, slapping your bols across the face year, you'll probably get fired and endup with prison, so probably won en a bin prison. But you know: There's tsome Ri fierce habits place right, so you don't want to be a sociopat whodoesn't feel the was, but never despise yourself for having those fears, but in in fact you shou. In fact, what youshould do is acknowledgment, and you know, acknowledgment and awareness is avery, very big deal in a sense where it will helpyou a lot. Let's say if you're and there's actually few stories thatI've actually got in my Headlockland, so I'm going to start chatting aboutthem a little bit, but I'm not gonna, not gonna, say any names or any details,because in fact, Iwot three stories and all three ofthose stories are pretpre like by all means those people have theright to have those faths right yeah. So one particular story that and inthese are breal people by the way. So one particular story is a feair aspectbuilt on act of doing something right. So somethere's a person who's afraid of doing a certain thing right and you know,let's say we're going to say that person's afraid of an know off sleeping right. They have afear of sleeping you. So this is legitimately. You didn't have fear ofsleeping o fear of sleeping that you're not going to wake up the next day right.It's something these ar the Fars as well. That's a pretty big fear to have-and this pretty, like you know, other fears that people have loina travelingcar travelling in planes. I so many...

...pees a yeah but the ocean to me. That'sa big of the ocean Qicke, the ocean yourself, you know, go soe you got todo yourself is why do you have that fear right? So where does it start away ded to start what was the basic basis of it? You know you go well, you know it'sprobably so you'll find you know, you' probably related with some childhooddrama, something else something related or maybe you know I was completelyinrational. Then you think youself. You start talking to yourself andacknowledge it with full, acknowledge you know with all cards on the table.You'll go well. Maybe this bes. You know on it's. You know it's notrational, right, yeah in the same breath that you know the problem,you'll probably be able to find the solution to for sure, and you will to find asolution now. It gets interesting with these other fears of you know, peoplehave fears of something has happened to them. You know wayts, not Bu. You know notreally it's nots. You know some bad thingshave happened to Someo, O good people right and then people build very o know,build feers and by all means they have. You know some Sola trauma you're goingto build feers. You know you're going to start closing yourself up and you'r going to starp. You knowfeeling you know you start going o judging yourself for having those fearsand you start going in a as once again you know: That's when you're that'swhen your tribe comes in. You know once again Putif if you are suffering fromsomething that probably you know, that is. That is aresult of something a trauma that you, you know a trauma that you sustained. You know who will help you with that.You tribe, I think, that's a good place to go yep yeah to start. You know atleast now in this in the sense of ferces other phases, wellso now sothose those to some ideas. You know once again, I don't know everythingabout fear, but this is some ideas and I think they help me and I'm sure Lokon. If you can agree with me here that those those are the things that wouldhelp that helped you as well yeah one hundred percent- and it's alsoit's all self areandness as well- and it's also taking time so when you know I'm really interested inyou know want to know. I want to know. When was the last time people just tooksome mom took a time to just acknowledge their thoughts and what wason their mind, acknowledgement not talking about. Judging I'm, not talkingyou about speaking, I'm not talking about you know, writing them down. I'mjust talking about acknowledgment, oh! What's on their head, what's in theheave, you know. What's on your mind, yes, like it's not assessment of of thesituation and not your emotions, but the cause in. Why Yeah? Why that emotion of fear, a rational, not like wises there, andwhat ave you been dos to help like add, feel yeah yeah make and thits Ale cousand effects as well. You know you what was Ta cause and whats the effect andwhat's happening here right, know, there's a very interesting podcast andthis guy talks about juggling balls, and he says you know selfacknowledgment. INSELF awareness is somethin, it's simple as jugging polls well, not as simple asTecblin Boll, but you you know you want to be calm enough, but you go oh well.No that that that thing was bothering- and you know you see it again. Oh thatthing is bothering me. Oh, it really is bothering me, you know you when you seethe Pol, but while You'e doing that, you don't want to be too tense becauseyou know youll just be like you know: Tri beig super focused onwher youtrying to do each Ugg of the Poles or you know when you're trying to Oh, youcan't be to relaxso it's a mill ground where you sort of sit down andacknowledge your thoughts is but the Fars are so don't you know you can reallyacknowledge Yosr, Speris and Ookay. Well, this, what was theywhat was thecause, was effact, and is that really bothering me and now was a solution youknow. Can I solve that, and you know O onestly some? U You cen some fears thatyou realize that you have been. You just go really. I have that fear. Youknow you just think. Yo Sell what the Fuck Yep yeah theeas more a lot. Yeah,that's right, and when you the more time you spend trying to understand the cause in acknowledging its effect, the lessenthe effect will be, and it's just like it's justlike additioning yourself in the gym, like the more difficult time you putyourself through when it's also very hard to do when you knowyou feel like it is a difficult time, the more you put yourself through itand the more you lear like you want to understand what it is that actuallybetter you get it overcoming and and...

...and dealing with it yeah for sure, an percen and Ow like you know, so theyso those are the fees. Those are the real feals that you know.You know boter us and that post basically, you know in certains nowyou've put us in depression, sort of e Persina loop that becomes hard to sortof get out of anything, and you know this. We could probably doa ou two three episodes on just that and I think the Nutshal is prettysimple inocense. You know you gotto be is alits not simple, but also simple,its one of those things where you can you know it's it's the is that theory. What was thatthe Belgum typilogem Tory or whatever it's called you know the where it'ssimple. Yet it's not simple, but you know, I honestly think my friends thatyou can actually start looking and er take a real oudit over. You are, youknow in life and what feas you have and really acnolish him ask for help. Ifyou have to- and you know, as you know, everyone is feel like you know, there'sme Locklan both of us just you know, sort of t the places that we went tosome dark places, and you know everyone has fears and everyone will understandand I'm sure everyone will offer a helping hand, if not just send us a voice message.Ind will that's a bautiful thing like opens up.Thatyeah avenue like Theyou know, mostly most of the time the you knowwhen you feel like you are alone. It's because you haven't you haven't pushedyou know you haven't tested those waters, you have a yet to kind ofremind yourself the support group, you do have around you and then, when youknow usually you'l have some good people and then actually t might be agood chance to realize thos certain people that actually care or don't. Butthen they might share an experience and me go wow. You might go well. Myproblem actually is very manageable or Wele. They have an issue to and we canboth work together and they'll feelit off each other. That's well! That's it!That's! That's another: that's Ather, big Ta, big thing in Solvperperspective as well. Sometimes you think your problems are unmanageableand then so big and you've got the worst life in the whole of the entireof the word. And then you look around and you realize that some people aresuffering yeah really really really bad, and some of that suffering is not just.You know suffering in the mind. It's suffering it's a real suffering, notselfinfreasit wonds like yeah to live in the country. We live in into beingyea to be able to do what we're doing right now, like wering the you know,the one percent were in the five percent in terms of being able to dothis sort of thing, so it yeah that all comes with that sort ofcritical self analysis. You gind of start to understand. You start to openyouyeys, you pour them all from out and yo on. It's sort of it's a snobleeffect for sure. Absolutely- and you know it's once again: it's all aboutselfarded t self, uwanness self awareness is a key as to sing, but youknow where you are, and you know also this, like I talked about beforeyou know, you got excitement is the complete opposite of fear, but you knowthere's a middle ground which you know you can have both, which is trill. Youknow if you're grateful once again, fear is the moment you start becominggrateful for the you know the circle you're in the you know the things thatyou already have the you know the problems that you'renot facing the moment. You start becoming grateful. Those fes start tofate as well, and this affeit faith is also another big one faith and hope so Thoseo, some enptyfear things or anti insirety thing anti w. So you go faith. Pat is a big one.You know it's Com. If you have faith, fear is merely ill fade, yeah, exactlyyeah faith that things are going to get better faith, that you have thestrength to o the carm faith that there's people in hour life and an ultimately it's it's strength.Faith is tresure. Tank is of life is Anto it. Let's like an ultimate power.It's like a secret weapon. Absolutely absolutely you know, then you call youknow, then you can go into other things as well. Youn going to you know now youknow if you, if you be, if you believe in God you know you got got to supportyou if you believe in you know the universe and the methatology of theuniverse. You got the universe and the methodology of university support youif you believe in anything you believe in if Youan fake, you know that you knowthe fear will fit. You know you don't have to believe anything you if you'respiritual. You know if you believe in this pituality. Once again you havethat faith and those are some you W. Those are some enti fhet or you know ifyou call them the natural antidepressents that in your control, Isuppose Yeah Yep ye important ones and...

...that's a very difficult, that's a difficult topic in it itself,like the only I I thankfully didn't take any anymedication outside of like a sleepaid yeah, and I know a lot of people run.You know Lait's like putting a bandade over a bigger solute, big problem likemedication, ind, the over medication of of people in today's society is led.You know, led to way more problems than it' sort of helped in ther's certain.You know certain circumstances where medication is so beneficial, but yeahmore ofter than not it's. It's been the long term. It's sort of suppressing theissue. It's yeah it is. It is sort of because that's what it does like it's ait'll, it'll suppress. You know it also press the stressful Moans thitwill suppress even your a dream or glet like it'll.Do things to sort of lessen the emotions it doesn't solve anything it'slike it just makes it not feel as bad for a period of time, and then you haveto continue that you know take this thing to help yourself feel better andthat's yeah, that's sort of a short term solution and shouldn't be a longterm SOE for sure, and you know, and once again I'm not I'm not. You know, Wer, not saying thatyou know people don't have a real problem, because you know I acknowledge that suffering that can these thingscan bring right. What I'm saying is you know? Sometimes they are. They areScnarios. Where you know people you know, may jump on prescribed meremedicine, but they yet haven't even explored their all of their. You know:Options in the evernues coussuer, it's a whole it's hard to getout of, but you know if you're innovative, andself away and startlooking at a taking a drio audit and it's a brilliant thing now, there'sthere is an actual. You know this is a good opition, so there's actually anAPP it's cool and I'm going to plug thataut, because it's a really nice ab and it's good. It's cool, woyy Bot, woe BOT, pil at again wo e Bot, okay, yeah Yep.So that's that's a very interesting ab, because the APP actually it's a littlebod who sort of checks in with you every e day, and you know it's for youknow you so everyday for fifteen days. That's when you start that pro I et tostop payingthuwhat what the boat does in e checks in with you, and you know,it's really a boat. What it's doing! It's very small, because it's askingyou questions that you're, probably just answering, and it gives you it'slike a t to for self arraness to see where you are at, and you know it's, itwill ask you, questions such as like such as. How do you think you Bot? How will youmanage stress over the next seven days? You know and are you do you feel fullyequipped for it or you know you en you say no and then et will ask youanlistsom things that you grateful for, for it's really interesting, becauseyou know before you say, oh I feel stressed, and then you follow on bythings hey'll say: Wasat things. You know even something: smallers, the NiceCoffee. You had list mouth when you start listing those things out that yougrateful for all of a sudden. Your prolems just become less to a very welldesigned Ab. So you know I recommend that once again it's not a crisismanagement APP, but it's a nice APP Direa. I mean I, I use it and I thinkI'm in like a pretty good state of mind, but it's just good to have a odit th eYouar like at day prathing. It's just the just like a daily reminder thatjust to check up on yourself, you know and then and then the days you know youfeel good and then you feel like you, don't need it in in the days that youdon't feel good. You've got it there to help out, but now those those thingsare briant like theres yeah, that's one of the beautiful things that technologyis brought into our lives. Is that sort of thing just like a fitness Tracke,you know, but for your mind it wer sor, yeah, lovely. No, just before e were almost ap to thehour Mark Lockwen y six o sixty minutes, the one thousand nine hundred and fiftynine anits thirty one sennthey's one more thing, and this is where I'mGoingna, I'm sure you can jump in in on this on as well. But I'm going to onlea little bit of here right, and this is some fears that people have and the fears and there's nothing thatI'm going to say to these fears are Ilrational phares. You know theytheyjust silly, and then people are just really trying to avoid taking someactions, and then we talked about this before. But this is am interesting one.So you know, let's say you've got. You...

...know once again waking up in themorning and it's not often because you know you know what are you doing with aboutyour day. Like you know, if you set your intentions, Oue going? U N W! Ifyou first of all, are you really setting your intentions to go? You knowwake up in the morning or you just half ar saying Woll see if I wake up or yeah,you know probs to me. If I don't, you know, fuck it yeah Goo you're, notgonna, wakeupthat's right, I know you've got a you gotta, do it for Youegotta Ford Yourself into Tobesur a thatsandwellwhat was that lockwit?What's that that sound that you had, I believe I may have just had toreconnect my headphones. Did IT SA Okay Hayn? No, it's all GOO enough juye! SOTHAT'S JUSTON! Ih! Now people have so and Iam going to talk about thisbecause I've been doing this also recently, so so, which is reallysso. Ihave the right to andeciate myself and people so which is which is reallyinteresting. So this two snaries herway, I'm talking about fear of failure andsuccess in a sense where you know this is in relation to you know. Let's sayif you want to do something you con to go to the gym or, if you'R ant, tostart a project, you' Goan to start up business right, there's been timeswhere I've started o project right and this se this is complete selfawaynessand at times I'm ormay. Maybe this is ego, but I am well aware that if Iexecute a plan correctly and that I know you know, there's a idea that Ihave- and I execute the plan correctly- that I have in my mind the failuregrate is pretty low yeah and but it's going to be somein its confidence basedoff. You know your own abilities, because you prove to yourself that youcan do it right, absolutely yeah. For some reason I don't take that action or the filnce or the first step,and you know they was and once again hes completely out of selfordered rightso, and I was like, why am I not taking that action when I'm well away thisplans going to succeed? Wyt Oll this plan's going to work turns out. T turnsout that I was a boy. I've been avoiding. Certain items is because notonly out of fear of failure, because you know knowing that if I initiatethis project and what, if this project doesn't mork out, but also out of fear of success of thatproject, because fear of success is in that. IfI, if I take that action, my life will never be the same yea and I don't know,what's what's going to happen, the fear of uncertainty, which is see that fear. Now, I'm goingto say this s completely bullshit, which I should really be facing, thatface straight up head forwards, and you know because when I, when you startprogressing progressing, is the meaning you know, that's the only that's theonly time when you're truly happy. There's no reason to be fearful of youknow what I have today or you know pushing that. You know what my lifewill be because lifes always going to change. Nothing is going to be able toyou know you can't stop it. I can stop it. No one can stop it and failure. Ifyou you know, so that's if you're worried about fe, you know if you have fear of SUC success. Now,if you have fear of failure and a lot of people say they don't have fear ofsuccess who feers who siys it's not as simple as that, you knowyou don't necessarily fear success. No one fars money or known fasas, sheled,Boly yeah, but it's right because you've got a Youv go step. LabelingAPFI, like once, you do wit e its right. You, you can't just keep doing the samething like this. It's a hundred, Wus Gon to go. You've got to go deeper onceyou go hunded percent, you put a Godpe hundred percent and you got to keepgoing keep batdling because my friend, the only fear that youshould have is the fear of being stagnanted. Yeah now that's a real fear that you shouldhave so Youeh, because that could be hard and now so that those are the fise.So you know if you're fearful of success, that's bullshit get moving. Ifyou have fear of failure, you cant avoid feel your the most successfulpeople in the world, and I mean by all regards people who were emotionallysuccess. Ful people who were successful business when people whire successfulbody, builders or any you know, cos O at being self aware at the maximumlevel. You know spiritual people, all of them suffered failures. You know youtalk about. You know you talk, but not talk about profits that work in youknow certain religion. So you know you talk e en gods in history, you and God suffer failure.So you know why would you suffer fear of failure? Yeah failures, you can'tavoid fail. Your failure is merly an opportunity for you to grow becauseresistant is what makes you Gros. So if you don't suffer from failure, younever going to grow because you don't need to level up. Biggr O keep menwinning. You Know Yeah Yeah E and I sen those losses that you do. You get the chance to learn...

...and you get the charce to win through the loss, because that's a realwin is when you lose and then you come back and then you win, that's it. That's it now! Absolutely now, there's another there'sanother theory and Thire's another aspect of it. So people are fearful ofmeteralism like as in not having enough metrialistic items and which is acompletely different one, and it's but yet says you know once again, it's a inthe middle of Ingrash, Isrational and crastional fear. So the someone may bereally truly stressed about their financs, and I talked about this a bitbefore thers a project I'm working on, and one of the studies we were doing onthe project is turns. Are One of the big stresser for people is finances ow with Pon? An people are fearful ofnot having enough money right. The problem is until which is such ainteresting for you, because the few works in a weird way where, if you havea scate city mentality, if you wort, you know you it's the whole thing aboutgenation right latlet'ssay. If you give away ten dolar a week and you make likebaily any money right, an oll month, you giving away something in in comparison to what you make. So, ifyou being a little giving away a little piece of what you make, you know, let'ssay if you were to make my so what what that tells t e universe or cor oranyone, but it tells the university. You are the kind of person who needsmore money because you know Yep, you still feel comfortable with havingtheir money. But if you have a skate, cit eventalty, where you like ohw, Ican't donate ten bucks or or I better not pay for parking or, like a wou,know, try to cut corners here. You know I'm saying same definitely: SAYG MONEY,I'm not saying don't save money, but I'm saying is that this is I example.I'm using money is an example. We gote such a big deal for people yeah, butit's you know, wer system. Are you where, if you have a scarcity mentalitywhere you know you think something in I short deman short need: Andinsoresupply. It's going to be that for you, you know,there's a whole tworry about you know if you take away all the money from allthe rich people in the word and give it to everyone else soon. Those peoplewill will be back at the DOP anyway yeah,because hat the difference is because those people- that's that's, who justthey are, and it's not like you know. Money is a very interesting topicbecause you can earn money, there's no there'sno stopping, and then you know this. That's a wood, that's who they are andthere's people out there who are worried about money constantly, but that's who they are. So you got tochange that as well, so tha. So that's a also a fear espect. So once he tacklethat fear, you will probably get real o thosemoney problems as well, so which is really interesting one. Soand I'm not I'm not I'm not by any mean sing, Co head and spend all your money.In fact, I think no one should ever spend any money on stupid item stupid,Shit Yeah. So when I's not which IE AVICAOS and tass an ther and ou a church, we call it tithing andyeah you hit the nail on the head like it's, not it's not putting yourself ina position to failure. It's putting yourself it's it's ultimately, really theeasiest way to explain it is it's a mindset that, even though I might nothave the money now, if I have the attitude and that you know there arepeople, there are things that are. You know, there's a bigger purpose than myown struggle. What I'm going through now and it does yeah it can only be acouple of dollars, but if the universe like God will provide, you know you doget provided for it's just you have to you have to just like everything youhave to have the right attitude towards it. Let me Wat, it is Inin Inin regards tomoney- and this is you know, and in regards Tou loveand, in regards topretty much many things more, you give more, you will have yep it'siapplies to blood, apparentlymore blood, you give better healthy. You are that's it. The more spermydonate the more your body has to create. That's a good one. That's a goodonehat'SA, biln yeah. So once again we you gin tochange your attitude. You got to change a stand well talked about this, and onrobins has a very good token standards and how you got to change you. Whatkind of person are you you know? What's your standard, are you the person whogives you money anyway, regardless of you have? No, regardless of you gotfifty two dollars in your account? Are you the person who helps their friends?Even if you go forty four dollrs in your account, yeah he's got a greatnway. His example is great, isn't it when he said he was like twenty yearsold a he had no money and he saw son and he saw his mom leut to lunchand he gave the last bit of money. Yo had in hit was freaking out, but thatwas sort of he's turning put in life because he knew that you know when hehad something when he had nothing. He had everything so yeah. That's a that'sa very good, that's a very good story by old, Tony Robins. I Love I like itand that one every couple F times a year or Mam myself or that mone,because it's just such a great message...

...for sure and you know, and nothingLocklin in I'm going to let you rap up soon, but you know I just want to onceagain you know realliterate, it's so important for Selfoudit is absoluteky.You know you got to be aware of who you are. You know, raise your standards.Who are you going to be? Who Do you want to be and start living that personto call? As if you, if you don't have the money? You know if you have feawsof things you know start facing them in a sense where you know you get yourfriends Tou support you and facing those fears. You know, which is areally interesting and just a quick, litle side story. So one of the thingsthat you know that people talk about is addiction is also sort of related tofear as well, because you know, let's say if you're addicted to alcohol right.So you know tewhat makes it hard for you to give up.Alcohol is the fact that you're, fearful of you will never enjoy, or youknow AAnother day that will pass, will not be easy or would not be a nice day. If youdon't have that particular you know your your poison, I suppose be theUnite. SIGARETTES OA E. IT's a fear of that. Not Having that a new thing youday will never then thes a yeah, so that's at it jus want. So you fear youwill have to Takee, and is you have to be really get into you there's a knowstate between logical and emotion. You have to do ASELF, for it be self aware, changeyour life, I believe in all of you, but yeah Lok Wenle. I let you continue onand start wrapping up and talk about what you were talking about a littlebit as well. Yeah. Now, that's perfect! I think we've hit the nail on the headhere and where were yeah, we're providing some really goodinselight and it's very personal. But it's also very you know it's whateveryone goes through and like the cliches are a clichebecause they repeated you know all Ol good teachers and all greatteachings speak of the same thing, but, like your feer, is actually a secret.It's the thing that traps! You is actuallythe thing that's going to set you three in the kind of the power you get fromovercoming your fears from wayking up and going to the gym when you don'twant to, or you know, talk into the boss when youdon't want to or throwing yourself into a new career when you know you'vebecome so dependent on whatever else you know, the kind of consistency ofyou know being stuck in the one position, but like that that Cliche isthe ultimate truth of life like on the other end of your own fears. You know, is e successit's not like youjust jump the line and you hop over the fence and it's there for you, but it'sjust the power you get from overcoming those ves that helps you take onanother fear and then helps you take help someone else and then it's just asnow, mall effect, and then six months goes by and then you're a differentperson. It's beautiful life, like has so many hidden secrets like that, abeautiful thing and yeah just selfaudit, be you know, don't be relected, don'tbe Thoy, be scared of it. It is a sker is a fearful motion, but it's a humanemotion as well, and we have the power to create it and we have the power toovercome it to that's right any. If you ask for help, and if you take yourselfon Itd soon, what the snowball lock on you talked about will turn intoavalanche yeah, that's whe, I'm B. Ye able to you know, help many other alongthe way and that's a journey. Bok arded withyourself yeah, exactly right, you conquer that you know conquered that,and then you can conquer everything else and wl reiterate this. Where yourfocus goes, your energy flows, baby, good and bad wher, your fakes s, yourenergy, floys and yeah. It's a beautiful thing lit a beautiful thing.My friend, IT'S BRILLIANT! Thank you. So much onceagain sharing that story, and I think this has been a beautiful, beautifulpodcast and I think I want to use the world beautiful because yeah, it's beenvery emotional and I think I actually got preemotionl duing the talking aboutthis, because I am, I feel for people, and I think this isand I feel for myself I feel for yeah. I feel pieas a difficult orm, so shout Ou, O everyone who's goingthrough something difficult, just know that AE ouop ter people out there whocan help you, you can help you. I can help you Lok on ter you. You know, I'msure you have friends. Parents and Youknow, sometimes weare hard onpeople, but know that there's a lot of people outthere who love you so yeah. It comes for our place of love and yeah. We allhave a tribe one, one way or another. So yeah. I think that's it there, maybethat's it and if you don't have any other pu any. If you don't have any thetribe joined, Ou trivit's, the CLATHAT, Dag we're grown a lving together, soyeah a at a that's. It or my friend this his been Yoee Tham. I podcastepisode number five. Thank you guy, so mon Ol E me go be a.

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