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UMODCAST hope you're all having afantastic day. My name is locky and I'm joined by MEK. How are you going today,my friend great thanks Mon thanks for asking going great, loving life? Youknow yeah love, ind life and Ow's good to hear mym. My Man, we've yeah, had aactrion pack couple of days really a couple of weeks on my end, to make someplenty of good things to get into for the Daday show, but I'm actuallyinterested for now how your life's been going. I know. Obviously we talkedabout kind of the big life decisions you've made so what's been going on nyour world, my friend well honestly, just being flat out busy-and I think I spoke a little bit about this an last week last podcast as tohow my calendar was looking. But you know it's all super busy, just super,it's just Y. U know getting into it every single day, something new and youknow some new challenges and just trying to keep up with everything youknow trying to reply to emails. I was actually considering hiring someone theother day. It was like. I think I need to Hisen O yeah. I was like I need tomaybe maybe, like a you know, stay homem or something I'm not saying thatin a bad way I mean like maybe a stay home mom whos can you know, can do somemad mean for me. So yes, so she's got someting. Do IsWelco mayme clean the house, no Noo, but you know it's. I mean in like in anice way, because that gives them something to do they get a bit of moneycoming in and you know helps me out. Maybe I was just thinking about that. Idon't know it could. Maybe someone else maybe va like a vorcial assistant, butyet things are getting hae crazy. I was a couple of makes that might be Onquistraigt in senlink line that might appreciate a littl paycheck er it it.How many emails we talking? If you be, you think you right they te Bringintoreeforcement. So last week I had fifteen meetings and that's actually probably the onesthat were tracked and were booked into my calendar, and you know emails wise were talkinglike I don't know. I think last week I culd probably tell you, I think if I gothrough it, I think itw'll be like hundred fifty hundred four emails. Chomin. U Yeah, thit hundred forty, what justin Te Gas, O business and everything else yeah it's his mix of thing. It'syou know it's just trying to sort everything, even something small aslike, making sure paing my Brigo and you know, buying a new phone and justlike watter fun, stuffing it up and whater I'n stepping stuffing thatup. So I had to call them back and fix that issue and just like those kind ofthings and that's hard when you're super busy and trying to do everythingelse, yeah fire O on you still kick it with the old vides man. I didn'trealize I'Le Still Gon a right they're going great man, they go in G,great, I'm loving it. They hook me up with a new phone which is which I yer. I got the S. Twenty I wasgonna get Apple, I was so clos is gonna get appe. I got desony. Yet I haven't heard of that fane beforeonce that it comes on next week, the new Sampson,its called S, twenty o fuck yeah, the KIP Hgigoi O, haven't head about Itno,really Wanan, because it's like you know, Ifren was like I fen eleven they're like yeah we'regoing to skip all there in e Knion men, the last couple ofyears, and they kind of go through these phases. Bhut they do couple ofnew phones, and this is just not worth the uppatin not worth the money likeI've got the x now the tenis pretty good, but yeah it's fucking, o look IVstill got that I've still got the s nine. So that's two and a half years,Yep, just over two and a half years and my phone- and I would have stuck to itbecause my phone's got not a scratch on it. It works Pon, it's just that thespeaker is donein like the microphone is startedg to die and people getannoyed when I call them and they're like you, cont can't hear you now. Now,honestly, you know someone will say you could have just got on a smaller phonelike instead ofs spending seventeen hundred dollars, but I was like man,you know I spend that spend get that phone every once every three yearsmight as well. You know I'm I like technology, so I can look. I think I can justify this onenow. Definitely, to be honest, Yo've always been pretty responsible.Obviously, if your mybit with your phone choices. Well, I for probablyfour or five years. I was just obsessed with after that twelvemonth being out Fupgradend. Now, I'm nearly two years into my y phone ex, I'm actually probably goingto run the contract out just to drop the price, because I just have seen theeleven and I just haven't seen enough to make. He want to get it well, let'sit maybe in the future. I might look just switch over but like I'm stillbecause ive ever watched, buim still paying a hundred a d seventydollars amonth like what kind of fucking rookie is pay that Ma Ikeiwule. That's right:Maneterup, II'I'M, BING WBAT! On my...

...phone plan I was peying previously I was paying. I was paying eighty fives a month, andso I know I was paying sixty three dols a month that would include my phone and and I got I used to get unlimited Dara on Ey dosof eighty doors a month yeah and I reduced my plan because I was like wellI'm not using unlimited Dana, but recently ever since I've startedworking a lot more like on the go. I need that data, so I got it back up, soI was playing the last month I paid eighty five dollars and I upgraded. Icalled them up to Upgrad ands out my. There was like three hundred twohundred and fifty dolrs left on my phone yeah one Thar previously, so Ijust paid that outright and the new pern, the new fern included, and I gota better plan, everything for eighty five, so I a'm paying two dolar moreneryeah. If you don't count the two hundredollars that I yeah paid, you Nov two ANA fi ows that I pay outright and youtar the fuck. You don't goot anyway. So you kind of Ma yeah, I kind of needmyself. So I got that phone, so I'm you know really happy and excited aboutthat. LIKEA little child of the moments like Yeah Stil earning at t. what's oneof theme features that you like about it? I don't know, I just got it because itisn't Neilooke into it. I'm not too. I trust him saying I mean I go as nineand Peopl it's been brilliant is been good. I mean I want to t get Sameson becauseI have an apple computer and a I bad and I've got you know few apple things andbut then I was like what I get annoyed about is the whole whole apple cloud thing yeah, that'swhat I get ot about, because Yo e paperdoar fifty a month b comes up andtell Youf so yeahit's. Just too fa I mean I broMenally call things like there's so many things that you might get rid ofHen. You might regret. Yeah thet, Google in many ways have got, have gottheir bases cavered and that's definitely one of them. Yeah likeee,using even with the computers using like the MAC and using the using windows using PC, still beingable to use both because you just never know whath situations are going topresent themselves and if you're able, towol thow, show and do that, so it'sgood to cling on to it. But you still think that the maxs are better fromobviously from a computer, stamdpoint and maybe th well at the moment. At themoment, I've got two computers at the moment, so iding a computer PC, AndaAPP. I use apple because I like this screwing and allows me to edit furrowsand is Ba, so I can see better resolutionall this stuff on the go. It's kind of cool and U Knit's kind of Nifty, clean and most of the stuff that I do look. I could havegot en a PC. There's no Gein Yeh yeah, but I don't know I might switch to PC.But it's just I just seems seems sem seem to fall into just happen. To bewas an apple like you're apple, definitely ar winning the IPAD TABLETGAM a like! That's one area. I think they've got lockddown, the IPAD isfucking yeah like Clak. You know you know I was I was I wasn't. I was neverreally sure as to what what I was going to do with an tablet or an iped, because to be honest, unless you'reusing it for only entertainment purposes. I bet it's pretty useless if you reallythink about it. Yeah, but recently I've started using it for edit photos, and that has been a little bit of alife change because I've been using like you know, so. I've been using itto addit forros on the go and do some stuff on the go. That's been a Lifejin,so that's being the only thing that IV found a real good use for an iped yeah,my sti and the screen sizes being bigger, even though it's still porlable.It definitely is like if you're doing, UNI work if you're doing emails. Ifyou're having a look at mautable tebs at once like having that larger scream,I feel its is better engaging to n to be honest, open I've, never dreplied toan e yeah. I've never replied to an email on ipet im I'v fixe, my calendar on night that butthat's about it, yeah, it's just the not having the keyboard.I mean. If you go the keyboard, one you've got the keyboard one doing youyeah exactly so you could ou yeah, so that works nicely yeah definiten the screen, but yeahwhen I'm not having to do thirty emails ever like. I only haveto yeah hear onthere, so yeah that makes pers riid anyway, what's been happening in yourword, I believe that you've got some big news. Yeah absolutey say first illstart at the the KIDDI stuff. So I just got my exambresolts back in my my mark for the Unit Nutrition Heal Er. Idid over summer and I got a distinction of that. So I was really happy just being a bit of a perfectionistthat I was. I was like worried about it. I don't didn't feel like I did as wellas I could in the exam was a noniment exam. I used every last second of it.The last couple of questions I was like I felt like I didn't give everything Icould just because I knew I'd only had you know. I had like seven minutes toanswer the last question. It's kind of...

...like amid six, only six marks, but likekind of needed, a page weth the writing, but end up getting a pretty solid markin that one had more than I was expecting and then got me. The got meNT distinction there and that sort of like the first unit and a means a lotfor me, because it was like one proving to me that I can do it like. I canstill, if I put my mind tol, I can still actually do really well and tomore importantly, like I really loved it, so I wanted to do well as well, sothat was awesome and obviously the news that we've been sitting gone for. Quitesome time like you know about it straight away, but my beautiful fiancesoon to be wife, Charlotte we're getting married in April, so excitedfor that we found out. When was it was probably. It was like bearly Novemberthat we're going to have our first first little one, our first baby, a'Msoshe's pregnant, now she's, actually just it the five month mark which isunbelievable, like she's over halfway, and we found that yesterday we're goingto have a little girl. So that's pretty pretty epic little abbeaan. I thinkwe're going to tell siving it is, and it was soct of crange, because growingup and even recently I wasn't sure if I wanted to have a kid until I found thatshe was pregnant and thinm like yeah. This feels right and I always thoughtlike a having a boy would be easier. I don't know you know, because heobviously I was a boy growing up and I thougt you know. I understand how themale brain works, but now just like being out of mold and Prate, and buildlike this strong veal up into you know into an amazing person and having. Iguess that perspective of what it's like Tho grap, is a girl to is yeah like so I was just sointerested into what that's going to be like dealing with everything andapparently gies are a lot more easy to Doa with because boys as a kid, ifyou're a a bige kid yourselfjust, crazy wildness, at least the girls for themost part tere a little bit ease Atin an to so maybe that's part of it too. That's right! Well, that's veryexciting man. I'm Super Happy! Obviously, I'm the good father, I'mjust CAS GOINNA GE a right, but you know it's very exciting andthat's it is such a such an incret. I mean look, I am excited and I can onlyassume how you feel you know. I can only assume it's just so excitingbecause you know it's it's not that it signifies that you're growing up. It'sjust that signifies that the Y, U K, Ow t the time that haspassed, and you know it's almost it's one of those things that I just shakeseverything up and just go. Okay, there's been a few days as bu just wentpast just lot, quick, let's you know, makes you just remember some of thedays and not in a bad way, but in a good waygo. You know almost you know Iwas thinking about it earlier today and almost made me tear af to think as tothem things that we have done the you know, the friends that we made and the people wemet, and it's just you know when you think about that, and it's just such ajourney as to the people weave become today, and you know- and you know, andyou know, making a you know, stepping into a whole new era of you know: Have you having a child which is WorAbe? I would go Fara. SAING is one of the greatest responsibilities. You knowanyone on this planet can have or you know I think it's such a, not an opportunity, but it's such aresponsibility- and you know if you've been if you have been almost, Isupposeit gifted with a child or yeah. It's just, I think, that's the word correct birdto use because that comes. You know what they say. Great powers come toresponsibility because think about it. You know you are going to shape a humanbeing. That is potentially carries the world topotentially carries the power to change the entire eport. You know you, yougotta, think it like that, and you know how that personis going to grow and howthat person's going to interact and go through the same process where you wentthrough I's just so incredible and so interesting to think about for me- andyou know I get really excited and yeah yeah this weird feeling I could neverdescribe this feeling it's a feeling of I'm never sad, but yet it's like thatteary feeling when you think about thes, yeah you're, looking renewer what you'scalled that you it's? How like it Etalgia Ostargia stal, it's not justmistolgic yeah yeah ter's, not just not nostalgia. It's also like the mixtureof like you know, you're happy, but your sort of like you know you ant, Otearup yeah. It's overwhelming gluced Eres. So many emotions and thoughtsgoing to one its nostalgia. It's some pride. It's excitement it's also like a little bitof sadness. You know knowing that. So much time has passed and you know thekind, not the old life we had. But you know so many things are going to bedifferent but like it's definitely not a bad feeling, but it's justsoeverwhelming, because there's so many things to think about it once and I'm I'm thesame too, like I've been I've been thinking. Bat a lot recently and kindof doing it to be grateful and to be happy and like to appreciate what Ihave and what I've been diven in what I'm going to experience in the future,because it is so easy to you know it is so easy to not be grateful for thatreason, just because you're doing so...

...many things at once and you're tryingto get through so many hurdles like it's hard to look back even on like aweek or two weeks past but like I feel like what this brings in itkind of like centers everything. Again, it kind of t's like Im. Just abeautiful reminder of the things that are important and it ultimately there'san opportunity, like you, don't want to say an opportunity because it soundsselfish, but it is it's an opportunity to learn it's an opportunity to shapethe like the entire world of someone who, like you know, you can be reallygood friends and you can ever be partners with Sone and still that'sanother person. But when you have you know the ability to be a parent, andyou have the opportunity to be apparent, like you can put this person on theright path and theres. Obviously a balance between you know beingencouraging and being helpful when you know kind of looking aut for him, butalso letting them loarn from their own experiences to and like that's anopportunity that I've never had before so like opportunity, I think, is areally good work. It's just yeah. Obviously it's yeah opportunity maybe brings likea l like it's like. I got a business opportunity. I got ta got anopportunity to get totheg out of this and ultimately you do get toother gt ofit. But it's like a this Ye. Just a beautiful there's like it's, not ascared feeling either like I'm obviously nervous, for you know the theslateless nots and the unpredictable, so you're knowt catching a plane yeahnor leaving the country yeah exactly right, exactly right and there's thingsthat Youe. Just in that regard like. I know that every every parent that Ispeak to is like, particularly for a gir, but for anyone like you, justbecome so observant and you become so almost scared, and I don't want to bescared, but you become so scared of the world because there's so many things,thers oany threats and there like there's sominly things that could causeharm and your pretictive nature comes the end and your human instincts thatar you know, maybe for the longest time you don't really tap into it'. Justgoes back to that prime ourself, and maybe that's what it is too. Like this,a real premiliarly. I've probably just made thiat up a ow THAs real word, butthere's PO, a real primal feeling of being a Parani thing, an because you're just you're, goingback to your basic DNA and, like I always thought like you know, why canpeople do this sort of thing and people r always like? I would literally killanyone for my daughter. You know I'd, kill it an what d you talk about. Youget a Ki Sothn, but I cind of actually get what they meed ther, because it'sjust like you have like it's for the first time ever like there's someonemore important than your life than you. Maybe that's what it is yeah, maybe that's exactly what it is. Ithink it's a obviously. I can't I can't speak inthat manner, but I mean I can assume look at. You know in a sense where, ifeven someone tri to threaten my friends or like you know my family, I think Iwould take some serious action as wall like peson. I think it's the sort ofthe same feeling where I think that switch between where you go from caring for yourselfto the moment you care for someone else and the moment your lie. At that moment,your life, as in your for yourself, becomes not as valuable yeah becausethen it becomes about protecting and when you're going into that protectingstate. I think I think that's when it doesn't, when you're your own lifedoesn't metrer to you as much, which is such an interesting factor actuallyyeah but and I'm justenning at the end of the day like I don't actually knowthese feelings it because they're not really there yet they're kind of Ithey're under the s they're bobbling up bcause, it's not really here like it.Doesn't it doesn't? Quite you know so, Yeah G, U trying to preept, preempt itand be prepared for it. You know be over hid yeah, but yeah. It's like, Ithink, that's you know just being able to analyze and look people at it andobviously you you have learned experiences of talking the people when kind of just Rashonol, like basicunderstanding of what's going to go on. So it's definitely it's so exciting likeit. You know it is what it is, there's so many different emotions that havecome into it, but when you like dig deep, theres excitement and thore'slike this is just literally a new chapter,so this is just exciting. Like that's the only word I can explain becausetheres anything, I'm really feeling right now. So you know, after six weeksof bloody sleeping for two hours a night and changing thirty nap his daymight be singing a dit. You'R gonna be a father, my man, that'sit man, it's pretty it', so crazy, yeah, it's Azy! Well! On that note Wut once I just would liketo congratulate you one more time and it is very exciting and a very excitedfor you for the chapter to come and I'm excited for everything that the vew future holdsfor you and I IAM projecting, and I can you know I can see it. You know I'vebeen around a lot of people to see the future is now its starting to becomebrighter, because you have. You have sent a course towardthe brighter future into a better life and now, in that process, you're also going tohave a child and where you're automatically GOINGNA have to become alittle bit more responsible and you'll become more responsible, you'll becomemore carrying you'll become more. You know, you have more remose, morepassion and everything all those things come with et, so you know. I truly dobelieve that you can have a Priter...

...pirer future, so congratulation yeah,exactly right, disciplined everything else that comes along with it's forcedupon, but like when it's forced in that that Roegard, like you ever, have theoption. To I mean you can have the oppostio to do nothing and like that'sBot, people, that's why so many people grow up, I think with even parents thatare there or parents that don't do a very good job, because it is very easyto give into the hard times the hard times ahead, but like just likeanything the altimate sacrifice of pushing through that's really where youget your gredit reward. Now. I appreciate deeply sincerely hearingthat and hearing go. Genuine excitement for me gives me great motivation andgreat love. Fom Back. I appreciate that very much my friend no problem Ande ofthe week now. That brings us to today's topic, which has been twenty minutes oflittle bit of chat, but I think people would have gathered by now what we weretalking about. So today's topic is gratitude, and I think this is one of those things that I wanted totalk about for a while and look. I want to talk about this for a while, but wejust wan't show where we slot this in, and you know I'm Goinna Thase, I'm Gongt I'm going to say a few stories and I almost I'm almost worried that thispodcast is going to go for an hour over then an hour. But you know we'll try towrap up. GRANTETUD is one of the most imcredibleOs te two parts as well. You know it is what it is yeah, that's right. So,let's see how we go, you know want to start with. I will start with a littlebit of a story about myself and a little bit of a story that I actuallyliterally came across two nights ago, which was a my ubetdriver. Actually, I'm Gonto tell it that story as well. So in fact I'll start with the OBE driversstory before, because a little bit more intertining and second one is a littlebit more little bit more suppose in depth and a little bit more, not as fun to here, but hit's a goodstory. The the reason that we want to want to talkabout gratitude is because we go through life. We go through life day byday time passes years, past minutes past. You know right now, as I sit infront of my computer, I can see the twenty two minute- thirteen secondfourteen second fifteen seconds and that remarks the time passing by thesecond. You know in blinks offan eyes, but in all this rush around all thisrunning around is you know, Weou almost chasing for the next big thing overseeing what the future holes always trying to plan things, we often forget what we have, and that is one of thebiggest problem that I've suffered from, and I you know I'm going to speak for myselftoday. Only actually this is the problem that I've suffered from so muchfor many years. I've never been. You know I never used to be, and I'monly just learning how to be grateful and have gratitude wards, Gratud toars, the things that I haveyou know having. We live in a age of social media. You know the landscapeOrmobile, and you know it's really interesting because I'm talking aboutthis, because I am a bi creator, marketer and all I owntrepreneur andall those things the fact of the matter is, you know weget con, constantly bombaded with ads and pictures and all of these beautifulgirls, and this you know the rock jumping on his private plane andtraining his fourth session by fourm you, I thinki, don't know like he said hedoes seem genuine. To that I mean we're gone, a no he's in he's generais help.I just Wantini worry about how that story is like that selling constantselling of something new every day, and it's like the man ye three kids like Ijust worry about it anyway. I've, just I don't know what it is of just yeah,absolutely on he's a beautiful man, and I only saidthat, because he's a massive influence on many people and o yeah, I'm going totell you what I l, what I'm exactly it's like mark, worbers to am wake up,Ma, forbook wakes up at to M and goes to sleep at seven PM and he's got threeKids Mano Tokis. What are you doing? Are you reall, like what's Anay Thare'snother point? The point is all these things get we get bombottered with, sowe get angry at ourselves or not waking up a ticeform in the morning or to him.In the morning we get angry at ourselfe or not having the frarywen not getangry at ourself or not having the private. Yet we get angry at ourselveor not having the King Cardetian. Also the BOOBS. You know, even though thosecastrove droughly fifty two thosand dollars a peer. So you know that'sanother point jok, but what ir we saying is you know itMazo, meina dollar, so is Yeahl. What I'm saying is it's so easy to see whatyou don't have yeah now now, let's talk about what we all have, I mean we wakeup every single day, and you know some of us are really lucky to open our eyesand be able to see that's the this. You know that's one of the most, not thinkabout that for a second. How exciting...

...is that, if you are someone whocouldn't see yeah, you know that's literally the Fund e basic of it. Imean fuck everything else I mean you are able to see the world you're ableto navigate yourble to see the colors able to see the food you knowside isone of the most powerful human. You know whats, it called size sensesright. SINSIDE is one of the most partor, the Webile a then we're able tohear. On top of the we able to walk, wer able to do thing, we will navigate,we can talk, we can record podcast and we have the Internet. I mean Don. Ijust said those things because they're Rightin for yeah exactly TNO one reallytalks about these things. So that's why I thought- and we thoughtit was a really important topic to talk about it's like and that's you can do that. Thebeautiful thing about how blessed we are as well as like you can do thatanytime, the day like you might be driving in your car, listen to anmusically, you might be walking into an office building into a job you have, oryou know you might be doing anything and just as were surrounded by thingsthat you know, cause your stress and generally look at from a differentangle. But a little bit of a perspective. Change like you realizehow lucky and you know how grateful we are for being living in a country welive and having the people we havin our lives and the opportunities alternately,the opportunityies we have like the creative control there's. So manypeople like when you're taken out of an environment where you're not lucky andyou're not blessed a big part of it, is like you, don't actually don't have achoice like you put your forced in this way of life like you, don't have theopportunity to create or to build or to go your own way. So there's just somany awesome opportunities, each and every day to be great for obviouslythat's so much easier said than done like ther's. Some of that, as you said,e sdrive with I definitely strug with to, but we can all like, we can allfeel likean all achieve a sense of ratitude. I think, just by just byreminding ourselves from time to time gratitude and actually somethinglockwhen you tag m. An this gratitude is not a feeling. It's a practice, it's something that you have toconsciously decide and use you any mental energy to be able to able toappreciate, and you have to slow your mind town. You have to think about itand you have to think about the things that You'are grateful. For you know.Ths is the little things that you need to be greateful for and then you becomemore grateful for the things that you know. You normally just accept as afact of matter fact of the matter. You know. Sometimes you know it's so sometimes recently I've started pickingup the habit of consciously thinking about the things that I'm grateful forbecause I'm going to chat about and we're going to chat about the benefitsof Grenitude as a practice, you know aatun isn't a feeling into decisionyeah that was yeah. It's a decision, that's right, thiss, it's a decision, and I want to talk about this things.So you know today I you know. Today I had a day. Iworked for oghfrly five hours because that's the Mosto people know that I'myou know breaking for myself sort of now. You know- and I was Anpio- went tothe gym and I finished this gym and after that I thought about what abeautiful day. What a nice day I had, because I woke up at roughly nineo'clock, which you know normally I've been trying to get up earlier, but youknow I had a late night, so I woke up in nine o'clock. You know you know,went to had a coffee went to work, you KN had few happy meetings and hadanother meeting went to the gym, go back, you know, and I was while I wasdriving back from the gym, because that was you know I was outside Sostrig backroughly at you know, fourthirty. I was just thinking Hol y Shit, what it'sbeen such a nice day. You know I went to the gym. The Gym was good andby thinking about thet almost got down goose bumps because it just felt sogood to think about the fact that what like you know it just felt so nicebeing able to go to you know, be able to work at my own pace and you knowstop breaking at you know four thirty and go to the gym yeah. You know, and Iwas hase yeah having the chance to do that. I felt so stetic like so you know,excited and so happy and like I was Litealy, get ing, goosebum and it justfeel so good and coming to think that you know this bage is felt reallyfulfilled. You know because- and you know that DAP that particular day wasno different to any of the day. You know some of the other days. I'veachieved ten times bore, but I've just never thought about that. You know yeah it's about thinking about that. It's it's such let's talk about. Someof the benefits of you know gratitude Loky O, do you want to get started onthe benefits, yeah, absolutely and what you said was so spot on the benefits of...

...it's a so probably the biggest one that I'vefound for me personally, particularly like. What's really been Woin, you know in practice in my liferight now, it's just the ability that obviously ingreate fun using the wordin itself, but to appreciate the people that you have in your life and toappreciate you know the support that you might have, andyou know I'm very lucky where I've got a lot of people. I can say of myfriends and a lot of people supported, but pretty much. Everyone has at leasta couple of people. They can rely upon. You know through their darkest timesand through you know, through any any time in their life, they might need thosupport. So you know having people around you to help you, through yourhard times, being grateful for what I said before, like literallyliving in a country like Australia, where you have the opportunity, Thobuild and create- and you know make something of yourself- it's very easy to be calgled up in thedifficulty O of that. Achieving that sort of thing that you forget to begrateful, but to literally have that opportunity, like you don't you knowyou just have to learn about another culture, another country for fiveminutes to realize that so many things that we have, we you know literally,can take it real be take advantage of, because so many people don't have thatopportunity to go home and talk to their friends on the phone or to not beworried about where the next meal is going to come from it. There's peoplewithin their own suburb, who are you know within maybe some neighbors thatwe might not even know that have you know don't have the ability thet knowwhere their next meal is coming from an that sort of thing. So it's theopportunity to be able to build something for yourself, it's theopportunity to feel love and be in a supportive environment, and I thinkjust to to really to really remind yourself that lifeshould be about the the positive and it should be about what you know: Tha Th,the positives of life, far out whar the negative in almostevery circumstance like there's bad things that happen, but not a grandscheme. If you're able to change your perspective, you're rable to reallyunderstand that bad things happen, but bad things happen, one you know happenat once. Like one bad thing happens, one bad thing, havens, great thingshappen all the time every day. Every time like your next breath is abeautiful thing. You know what I mean it's the AOING. I love them because badthink that's something. No one tings off yeah! Absolutely that's something! No onethinks about, and you know it's all the positive positive then Oln real checksmoll, but you know we get like one little freaking scratch on ourfaceruler Hoyeah, but your doinything o the Cayou Knowi. Unfortunately, don'thave that Tho son Efacttis t yeah, but you know it's true because so easyto get caught up and you know, if you ever think about it, do you really remember all the badtimes that you went through? No, you just remember the feeling. Don'tactually remember what you remember, you remember, but you remember all theGood Times that you've been through yeah ijes. That's a signifies that you know.Badbans aren't actually that bad, because the good things are still arounand it's easier to navigate those bad times. If you acknowledge the goodthings you know the there was, there was the time in someofs life baby. Theywere going through a tough time and you know nothing was working out. They weregetting angry all the time. You know they're not getting a job but they',forgetting the is teable to wark theyre, still able to have the oppotentialblifor job. They still have the family, the friends, the kids, you know those things matter and theystill have the you know the buildy to apply, and it's I undersd it's it's just that stopping and realizingthat things things around us are. Actually you knowbeautiful and yeah. The word is beautiful everything, everything, nomatter, no matter who you are no matter what so your situation is, and you knowthe sad thing is sometimes the people who have the least are the mostgrateful that sads Yeh tatus. I mean its great I'm happy that they are, butit's sad that for the what does that say about the rest of the society yeahexactly right, we had a. We had a pastor comeing from coming to Mu Church a couple of weeksago. He he he has church in. It's called themedia or N Aribia. I can't remember the exact place, but it's an African tocity in a country in Africa like that's how specific Ham, I've got an idea, butI essentially e has him and his wife run at Church in Africa and he's likeyou know. We went over looking to help people and the offos. They are helpingpeople, but he was like man. They've helped us so much more than we canreally ever help them because, like they just went over there and they wereso welcoming, theyalso loving, they all have massivs mols in their face, likethey have one meal a day to eat and they ha shareing the same clothes andeverything else, but they're just so happy to be alive and like thatellimination of all the foots for some reason is like we still don't knowexactly what it is like you. I guess in...

...one hands like when you're constantly, given things or when you, you know youR, you take things for granted. Maybe that brings s on a sense of likeentilement and like a negativity, but the people who don't have a lot ofthings to be to take for granted the ones thatactually the happiest, because they just so happy to be alive. An they'reso happy to have a you know, have a have some water. Whatever else it islike it's really. It's really like, and it's so hard to comprehend it, but itis like it's such an interesting by product of human nature. I think hundred percent hundred percent. No,you know with gratitude. It's not just acknowledgment, it makes you feelbetter. It does feel like you feel better. It does make. You feel reallygood if you acknowledge those things because ofl the stress of the things orthe jobs and all the mistemails and all the Oll, the Ol, the mist opportunities,don't seem as much of an issue when you realize h all the beautiful things thatare around you. No, but that's not just the onlybenefits the only benefits of genitude wer. Talking about mental health, youryou know your mental health genunely gets better. You know your and you knowmental health. There is a really whole nother topic that we could talk about,but you know they. Mental health is like is like a dynamic think about ofdynamic status, part that goes constantly changing its status as towhere your mental health literally like. If you would tin think about like ahealth, BA ing a game, I think it's just L K it's one of those things where,even through the day, you know it sort of drops and then you need to you knowyou need to refeel that and now, how do you refeel that health y? U knowing thegate, if it was a game, it was Gdo senator as you just dipe in Husyom as acheat yeah, you knowis a Chi, you type it in you'd,be all good but yeah in real life. Believe it lot theres a cheat as well.It's called caritude and you know you you take a moment to appreciate allthose thing and surely enough that mental health bar goes up. You know thefunny thing like this is an interesting thought, but the funny thing aboutthose cheats, even though they made the game easier like they made it lessentroyable, like you just yeah that kind of that Pi dep ti in that processof geting. You know getting more en you know whatever was in detail, gettingthe imminition or giving money or whatever it was like that. Actually wasa part of the fun because it creatin experience around it when you eliminateall that you sort of just get yourself to the end goal, and then you justrushing through it and I felt like it. Yeah just didn't, make the game as muchfun but y you all going to do it because it was just so tempting T. it'slike it was just so of fun. It was funly. Wasn't fun is one of those yeahyeah. What I mean I like to cause, I just like fucking around with YeahAcyeah is just tipe, get all the guns and get armer and get unlimited helthand just stand on to the roof and shot shoot. The cops yeah. Well, that'srrightsometimes! I wonder why I'm so violent, THAT'S A COK! That's that's ajoke in yeah, no it'! So going back to it, you know! So That's how youmaintain your mental heath. Now we talk about, you know homonobell balance andI was reading about it. Ias, bread, a chapter of this book, is this booksabout sexual life, and actually I want to do a whole episode about thediscoveries that I found from this book. This book is about you know: Himansexual life and all Bou interaction between men, female and, in fact, thistalks about the mental health of men in a sense wheremen often often have weird homon inbalances due to thes stress levels,and you know that impacts not only your physical health, your mental health,your general weloping and general mood right yeah. You know that all those k ow the n thatmood and all that stuff is controlled by Saran, Tonan and Ser toonis dependsheavily on tostrulturn and all those types ofstuff. That's WHA. You feel happier after a workout. That's why people whohave higher testos or are able to work out have more indorence have generallymore energy, and you know so as as men. Your Tistos from level gets significantly infected wheninaffected, when you're in ha stressful, stes, ristressful condition and I'msure it's a similar sort of stuff or women as well, but I actually want togo into depth and not going to quickly talk about it because I would have toreally get into it. But you know se was Om forrelation between test ofster ownand that effect on the body. Just because th the like, I guess the power is not the right word Bhut, I'mgoing to use the power, but the power that test Rossron Hass, like you know,literally you ha e. look at the bodyc of a woman. CMENTAL man like thephysical attribute, Maos genocally have because of destration the power thatwholeline has heightens, that you know that's why suicide is ot higher and men,like all these things, cominto effect for sure yeah. So, Lo,you know Lotus Rosron, I've known to...

...you know busy decrees tochris genral!Well, being so, you know you're more likely to have depressive episode or, like youknow, more, be more anxious and all those stuff yeah, but that can becountered with actually believe it or not. What helps with that? You knowLotos Ros Ron, gratatude. How do you ask it's crazy? Isn't it its incrediblewhen you think about like this? So when You'e stressed your boly busy body actually almostblocks the testrostron tistos on sort of AB, because not it is reallyinteresting. Corasion in this and I'm going to priefly talk about this isbecause it'se going to get too scientific, so so, as as a this twokind of stress, thes, acute stress and there's constant low, constant andconstant low impact stress. So if you really want to think about it, youwould think about it like sprinting and U sprinting and just likecon constant liht joke now, acute stress is really good, for you isreally good for the stroll stone is really good for your brain. It's reallygood for your mental health. Acute stress would be something like would besomething like you know you. You learned something new andthere was a there was a bust of stress or, like you, have a cold shower.That's a bus of stress where your body turns on all its all its abilities toall the ability to you know the fine and flight stuff Yeh- and you know youbody, start switching into all these modes, and you know you all your you'veall of a sudden, you're more aware and your bainsmor turned on and everythingyou can smell more. You can hear more or that's acute. The result of a cutestress now constant stress, is like the same thing as the con, like you know,running on the treadmill for an hour and like Foklomi walking on the tramoffo fot, the MINUN, an Houber is actually not so great for good for you,which is something like your st just know. But you know it's like you knowthree days of knowing that's an assessment, do you and you just kind ofhung out and you just like you knew it's just sitting on top of your head?It that's that's content, ress, what heckles constant stress, which normallymight be for work or general. You know things about just you know. Generallypeople seem to be stressed about a lot of things these days. You know it mightbe. Generally. Just I'm stressed about this, I'm sressed about that. I'mstressd about this. What does teckle? It is gratitude and that'. So that's the second, so itreduces stress- and I just highlightin some of the benefits of reducingstressh whichis. You can produce bik. You know you can really stressd byobviously working out as well, but gratitude plays you know if not thesimilar amount of part as it as working out does to reduce tress yeah. Now the Thoitt things that allcontribute to it like there's, not just one thing that can't just be one thingbut- and I think the gratitude is somethingyou can have with you at all times. You can't always be working any kind, ofwasbe swittn, ear and Olphin SORF. You know releasing anddorphins like youneed other modalities. Well, that's a good word. You need other mode, DOUTPTO! Hope you get through it and gratitude some that you can. You knowyou're in the middle of a maving or your having to speak to someone or dosomething whatever stress on your life like you, can just switch off tenseconds, be greatefol get back into it and that's a beiutiful thing about it.I think a hundred percent and- and there was one more thing I wouh todo just uh just remembered- I was going to quickly talk about one of the things woul wit thatgraitude really does is when you gratit, when you're grateful and express and Grat you doard, somethingthat you already have. So, let's say, if you don't have, if you feel like you,don't have enough enough money, but you start becoming grateful and start be,showing expressing gratitude and jowing gratud twas the what you have grat? UDos his very incredible things, all of a sudden wat, Youre, gratful for andnow you're expressing that your that thing is not inshurt demand for you allof a sudden. You start attracting more of that yeah, because that's the wayyou know you talk about, you know wha. You do the selfpositive Selftalk is to.I am confident I am exciting. I am happy, I'm the best human being everborn on this planet. You know, O you so say all those things to yourself, anthiis, the positive selftalk there's a very beautiful book by I'm going to say the name, and this ismore so it's about gratude, but this is more about selflove, but nonetheless, Ithink I should plug that book. Yo Knon, take over for a second, whileput this book, yeah figure out what it's called. I wasjust bout to ask you what I was called. Actually I know, that's all good tototally young go find it that Wuld be good. We can os thup on side as well asWa the books. Col Love Yourself, like your life, depends on it by Camo, Ravi,robican camel rebycad this it's one of the most beautiful book. I've ever readto this book talks about talks about how loving yourself is apractice right, and it's it's one of...

...those thing and it's such a Bautu. It'snot a long book. The book goes for one hour, forty, you know. If youlisten to your audio book is one hour four minutes. If you're reading itMIT's, maybe like your literally half an hour, read it'snot that huge oobook created it's. You know just the guy talks about the athedoks about how it's making a definite decision thatfrom now on wards, I will love myself, no matter what and and another thing that it sort ofreminds you of is that loving yourself doesn't just happen by an accident. Youhave to constantly practice and make a decision and to love yourself an youhave to actually tol yourself. You know you. Can your subconscious doesn't knowthe difference between reality and what seems to be just injury or what you'vefeeded. So that's. Why sometimes the negative talk, even though, when yousay it as a joke, so you know someone yeah, you know you just say I'm such an idiotor like I'm such a Dickit. You know, or you say, fuck, I'm dumb. You know thosekind of things you say them as a joke, and you know yeah show your friend geta good kiggl out of it, but know that you have subcouses, doesn't know thedifference. So in order to get that self deprecating grammar just out of Uditionaraditionary yeah, it's just not worth it because you knowthe impact is catastrophic. That's one thing I notic I tin intirectcorrelation. When I really begin selfordeting and trying to improvemyself was th that in e people that you have in your life that do that and evenpeople that you might not be friends with people that have that attitudetowards life and then how infectious it is and how much you heve endo it toyourself whether in ex whates internal, like thoughts you have or externallyspeaking it and by elluminating it like, even though it's just like words, likemy momy saw e, say o what's in your mouth, is in your heart. I used to go ashout up woman. You know I USD to not take it. I used to say Thar's completenonsense, but it is just so true because, even if you say it, four orfive times like it doesn't eventually like it just that's the way it workslike you just start believe like it just starts to break through thedefense mechanism and something bad happens, and then all of a sudden yousay at yourself when it's not a joke and then you start to believe it. Sothat's. That's. That's probably on really practical, really great advice:UN Pe hundred percent, no even I gointo to notice people in your life, maybecoworkers or anyone that speak that way and start to maybe think about how theyare in their life or you know, what's kind of going on. I think that'll be ano open it to help. You kind of understand certain people in your lifenot to promote of Ye analyzing, but we al do it. In fact, in fact, I anyonewho's. Listening to this, I challenge you and I ask you in fact, I beg you.Anyone if you ever hear someone do some negative self talk. Give them thismessage that, even if they say that as a joke, they don't supconscious doesn'tknow the different just change the word, if you think you know, if you, if you, if youere, ifyou're struggling with something instead of saying that al I'm just dumb,no just say: Oh, you know I can figure this out. I can figure this out, itdoesn't mean you ve figured it out yet, but you can' just change those wordsaround and really, I think you need t. This is a conversation that everyoneneeds to have. So that's a little bit of self love talking they into Batecaty,which is also part of graitude as well. You know, because you' got to begrateful for who you are what you've been given and, like you said, Locklan and I've noticedhow I know those people as well, who have this sort of like negative talk, even though sometimes isa joke, but at the long run I've noticed the results right. Yep Ive seenthe little differences and I've seen them in certain scenarios where they'vebeen sitting and- and you know something has come up and that those things that they sent as ajoke wasn't a Jorke in their head and they were calt of God. Now that humorfun of like a selfdefense mechanism in a way, and what really was an eyeopener for me, was like when I actually stopped saying those things aboutmyself and stop speaking that way, when I would either hear someone else say itor iould start to say to myself, I actually started to really correlatethat emotion with like it was a real motion. I'm like all shit like this, isreal like when you, when you don't do something for quite some time. You knowif you're doing something for a long time you get immune to it almost so youdon't actually realize what's going on when you stop doing it and you comeback you're like Oh fuck, like that's so legit like that shit is extremelytoxic or a hundred percent. Now, Theys One thereis one positive all in thisjust like because we got to look at the Postim- is on positive Ale. This justlike how your being get strained into thinking that you are the negativeperson that you say that you are your Brin can also get betrained a reprogram,then rewitten into thinking that you're, the incredible person that you want tobe in. You think you are so that something is in your control,and I really want to stress into...

...is this is going to come across crazy,and I know this is obvious as it sounds, but maybe some people don't know thisyou're in full control of your thoughts, Youare in full control of your thoughts,your memory pattern, your behavio bettens you're, able to change them andchange them as soon as you can, because every single day, they'll thosepatterns become stronger, so yeah Yeph. It's changing now, do it now it's likean forte bik like they come like, even though you feel like they come on forno reason they come from a place of ever you're, not doing something. Youknow. Usually, my self doubt comes from that or comes from. I mean there's also,you know- and this is this is where I believe my faith kind of comes throughlike there's a there's, an outside influence, there's a there's, a spiritthat lives that exists that doesn't want you to succeed like a new, maybecreating that' Spiritut, there's a spirit in there that wants you to failand wants you to you know and like wance, you not to do well, wants you todo the wrong thing so at that exists about when you, when you ultimately,you know, you start building up your love for yourself and everything else,like you start to realize that, like that's, no, that's not actually Mae.The thought that I just had this negative, though he's actually not me,go away, and then eventually just it does like it doesn't come back becauseyou just don't give it any time and then Y, you don't start to take it intoit, and it's just kind of like a game of doing that and I think that's whatOrde Ting your thoughts comes. You know is a beautiful thing through meditationand Just Toru, taking some time each day or whenever you can to kinder yeah. It's a pretty deep thene, prettyhard to explain what I mean, but I think I hope that kind of makes sense.Well that absolutely makes Ese. I understand what you're saying. I thinkthis is all important, so selfardied, I really like MHE news that word, becauseI love that Yeuss. So you know the the hers, the challenge and in fact I'mgoing to talk about few more things, because I think we're going to go overbut fuck it. So the challenge here is you need to so get out all the negativeshit and close your eyes and think for a second three things that you'regrateful for that happened in the past forty eight hours. Now I'm going to I'mgoing to try this right now right. So I'm going to say how I go and after you hear this Locklan and you mayI, if you want to join me as well on this and let's see how we go right. SoI'm going to generally close my eyes and I'm going to tell say the thingsthat I'm grateful for. So I'm grateful for the fact that I got to go to thegym toe and be able to train and have a good session. I'm actually really grateful for my thesecond coffee that I had in the day, and it was actually a frea coffee,because the guy at the camper likes me like faasy set. Does he yeah? So the third thing that I'mreally grateful for was the fact that I was able to you knowable to work at my own pace and you know, do have to wake up early and Ifinishe work early and I still made you know, monthe money that I would havanyway, and actually I just thought of the fourt thing for I'm gratful, forI'm the grateful for the fact that I'm able to do this podcast right now andable to share my thoughts with people. Yeah Beautiful, that's beer, so that'Simpley is that is something small. As that doesn't mean you have to have thegood things hat ha like you know, I'm grateful for the eighty five thousanddollar I shoud up in my Bankergon last night and and you had and I guarante you had a smile on yourface as you were right DII. I did because I just thought about the coffee,because I was like it's so cool because who doesn't like a free coffee, yeah,exactly thitt, trying to give it a goot, see how yougot three things. Think about thim t: Let's go dick now a gut, so the I'm grateful for being aber trained.Today I did four classes felt really good. My body was responding, reallywell sort up really. Well, I'm grateful for the beautiful weather that we had today. Weather has a beautiful thing ofchanging mood, sometimes and a bit of sunshine. After a week, a month of rainis really Nice, and I'm grateful that I was able to get back onto get bet backon track, have a really good day of eaving, and it made me feel really good.So I think I'm grateful that I've got a really good understanding of how food has a trect, an correlation between mymove in my health. So yeah, then that's like reallycompletely different to what you say, but like it's also beautiful peopl ofthings that were really great for, and we generally mean you know, and I'mgreatful to eighty five housand dollars that did appear in my Coun thattlnow. Now. If anyone is listeningto the tepodcas ht, six people yeah, that's actually like we've actuallybeen getting a lot of Yui in ctully, surprising e Tayeah. I want you topause the podcast right now, don't...

...right, ner and right now, commentariously fucking, poster podcastand say out loud three things. Three things out loud. You need to hearyour words close your eyes, but need to hear your words. Don't not just in yourhead. You need to hat your words and when you say those words feel how youfelt when that little thing happened, try to think of the smell and the feeling yougot in the Aud, the auditory qes that they were ter. Whatwas it feeling when you were getting that free coffee? You know that Thas.For me, it was that you know I can think about the sound of the CAF, themachinear, the cap e doing this, and you know the smell of the beans or thecoffee beans and those kind of things. Think of those things. When you thinkabout the things that you cratefor, it could be the tiny things it couldliterally be the fact that you know you, you had a brey, you had EG FortBreakfast and you know you like export breakfast. That's all it is, but yougot to be grateful for that, and so anyway, if you haven't listened, I o itguys o good man. They make you fool like anyay ts, thits Ti, neverappreciated. Things like. I did now scramble them up little bit of Gallie alittle bit about at some vegis little bit of orange juice. That'llthat'llFuckin it'll get your bows moving to like no one, no one's happy when theyconsepated that will clease hom gathere jet and get Tye Gaan yeah anyway. What's The podcast? Whatare you waiting for? OMONI assume e come on all right now, I'm gonna, I'mgonna, I'm gonna talk about this practice lock and then I've picked up this practice. I've picked up and I'vedone this for the past two years. So, every year, on new years, just beforenew years, I see all these post on facebook right about the Ne Year knew me and all thethings that people won' t achieve and for the past two years in anyone whohas me on facebook and go out my facebook and check it out for the pasttwo years. Instead of posting the things that I wanted to be, I posted I posted the things I semarize the yearand how grateful for I was for the people around me, because we are merelya bioproduct byproduct of the people around us. So you know it's importantto be to give him a shout out, and you know just be grateful for those peoplearound me and people who support you. You know without them I wouldpersonally be completely lost, and actually I just read that sentice Ou ofmy last one you know I'm Goinna so quickly read this Oti ust got Ta reetprieply, you know. First of all, all I can say is this isall I can say this. How Do Wido? I start. Okay, I like to thinkI'm grateful for the most of the I like to think I'm grateful for most of thetime. I still complain the time the time is pretymu. You know pretty muchevery time every single day. I think that has that hasn't. That has tochange, or at least mortrate moderate, that for maybe cutit by fifty percent.Fifty percent complaining fifty percent gratefulness. On that note, I want tomake a point to how grateful I am to some people around to Peo ple around me. Without your support, I would becompletely lose. Think thank you anyway, and then I go about th. If thirthundred and sixty five days is three hundred an sixty five opportunities tomake a lasting difference, you know this is a very simple change in makingin your life, because you know worth ays make versus verses, constantlysaying what you're not and what you want to be. By saying that you know, I don't evenhave to do that, but I only started doing. That is because I wanted to makethat pconscious difference that I am now insert of contanly pursuing things you know, like I said, fifty percentcomplaining, fifty percent gaety dive or fifty percent achieve things. Youknow Gant to still have goals you know, but at the fifty percent. I want tothank people around me. I'm going to be Greatul for the people on, because youknow I talked about grateful for being the little things in life. Now it'swhat about being grateful for the cat, the guy at the cafe wo serveing me, thecoffee for T, my mom or my dad or Lockin you. You know my brother and youknow by housemate and o all these people yeah. All these people make ahuge difference in my life asle. I think so. I'm sure people could findpeople around them as well, who make a different they like and doesn't meanthey give you money a you know: fivetransquit transfer of eight hundredpacks when your go into the club, but you know- maybe maybe they listen toyou when you complain, that's enough yeah enough to be great to have great youdo. Now, Lokin anything you want to saybefore I toll you, the story of the Ober driver, Noh n, I'm all good. Ithink we've think we've on a really good path. With this, with this podcast and I'm very happy myI'm Kaing to hit this story, let me have at okay, so this story goes manymany years a a SA joking. It was last I...

...tod two nights ago, Sosor of Monda allright, sorry to cat Yo. If I did just have one thought like I'm really happyto hear you speak that way, because I know for a long time, you were veryfocused on kneeling to achieve something needingto feell achievement and you have anot let that feeling go, but knowing thatyou're got ta now great of understanding of, what's really goingto fulfil you and make you happy is beautiful to hear so. That's awesome! Thank you and IAM grateful for that. Icame to that understanding. I think I'm still struggling with it in still I'mstill struggling to find the balance Yep and you know for first of all, if youwant to change your life, you have to be unsatisfied. 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Now I'm going to tell you the story ofthe saddest person I've ever met, so I couldn't I cud an UBE in the fromMelboune city, so I had a coupor cast. The company gave me and I was workingfor this company and they gave me a cass. I was trying that around so hadto drop the car off the Higher Cup place and on the way back I caught thesuber. Now this guy seemed relatively, these guys seemed fit from what I couldtell. Maybe there's something that I don't now. But you know I'm going tospeak from what I saw and what I understood. Maybe he wasn't the saddestperson, but I'm just going to Stel you a little bit of a superficial story,because you know, maybe I don't know hi situation right. So I want to startwith saying that, because you know in case I say the story and maybe here'sthe toughest. He truly does Helv the hardest life of all time and then I'llbe a dick yeah. You can not the leg for sae right yeah, I'm only going to saythe story, but I perceived as the story to be so anyway. So this story is of thesaddest person ever met. So this guy picked me up and you know first of all,you know he says how have you been sorry when did this happen? Thishappened roughly at midnight on Monday night, so so Tuesday, morning, Monday night,so that midnight change Si. I was breaking late. That night so dropped the car off at the DIPO, andthen this guy picked me up, and you know he said: Hey, have you been thisguy of same relative fat? He didn't seem to have any you kN, w any visible disadvantage, any sort right, so youseem like relative fit. In fact he seemed very. In fact, above general,Fiti was like a you know. You know good shape, Guy Right yeah, but you guys. How was your day you knowthen he started talking about. Then he sarted about what I do for work, and Isaid, and you know at that Tim I was working at this Gek for entertainment.I said. Oh, I work to entertainment, Kik and, and then he goes o. You know Isaid well how about? How long have you been working today? Yours are, you know,been breaking for like forty five minutes, I'm going to work through thenight, and I said Oh cool, I'm like I'm like do? U You always work at night.I'm like you, have a dead job, because now I don't have a day job I just likeworking in night because there's less traffic. I said he er I feen up andthen I said I just to got me tinking. I was like what about sleep. He gues, youknow sleep when you're dead, I was like. I was like look. You know personally,theres no waview, because I want to be in Fulk apascery of my mental facultywhen I'm Awaye, but look if you work. You know at this point I' worried O,like his guy really awayyou knyeah Ti's Gon, a littlehe's got the tooth piks onhis eyes to keep him of. He tte. Hang O yeah doing that. No, but you know- andI was like okay first, all ther was any in a sense where he said is a rehe goespluswen. I drive a new, the dotes, you know thes fucking traffic and you knowI hate drafficg and I hate everyone, and then he got me saying you know.Then he started talking about you know, but you know, but you know who's got itgood. You know, and then he started talking about how he hated anyone whohave like you know. He picked up this lady who made that was talking on thephone and made five osand dollars a week, and then he said how much you?How much do you make Awaka? How much do you make a month? I was like. Oh youknow how much you make a forthnight. I was like. Oh, maybe like fifteen hunredor, like I jus, said a random figure...

...out ther I make more than the like.Obviously I'm not going to you know in Wam oe yeah on a thing yeah, I guesyeah, just what I Didn' Want To Ag Im on, because I could tell that he wasn't.He wasn't appreciating the fact that people could make more money. Youresaying someone makes u five tosand dollar the fourth night I was like yeah,it seems or aren't t o anyway, why the market, if you bring Valu, can ye o becomhe hed and he was he was saying you know it's like all dark money and it'sall like you know people mob and you can't fuck with the LOB and you know,and he went into saying you know, then people you know Thorese people outthere who win lotry. When is he gonna get Lucky and he's? Why is in never histurn? You know if there's, if there's a you know, he believes in cod, and youknow he used to believe in cold, but you know when his when his eager histurn going to come because he's never going to win the lowtree. When how canhe get the semen number? I don't know he doesn't understand how people get solucky, and you know I was what I saw in himwas absolute hopelessness in a sense where I got me thinking I was like. Is Hemissing the knowledge? The common fact of the word that you that's not howluck works first of all, yeah. This there's two ways to viewluck. First ofall, you could say, luck doesn't exist and that metodology will write for you.You could also assume that luck exists, but then, if you exume like exist andyou're the person who just plays on odds of luck alone, as in the completeprobability of the universe, you're Gonto be waiting a long time, my friend.So if you are playing the Luttry you're going to be winning a lot of time towin the Lowkry, because I'm a you know, I programmed I understand coding and Iunderstand agoithms and I understand mathematics the chances that you haveto win. The lottery are next to nonlike. Point O reserv zero point, six, twopercent on thin. He was so it's fucking Shit, but now, when preparation and Opit meetsopportunity when desire mixe with fate mixed with mix with drive and mix with a littlebit of Swith, a sprinkle of little bit of innovation, when those things meetand- and you know, the funny thing is justlike just like graitude Di, you know, passion and passion, drive and faith,and you know believe, are also these practices and decision. So these thingsdon't just show up in people. You have to sort of build them. You have topractice those every single day you have to believe in yourself. You haveto believe you an yourself and no one else does and if you're not going tobelieve in yourself who is going to do it, I mean your mom probably will stopbelieving you, but you know you got to stop living in yourself and think aboutit. If your mom believes in you, why don't you exactly your mom? Is YourReal Rigter di? That's right! That's right! You know if you mom, believes it,but now that guy didn't believe in himself, but you know he said that hewill never have that money or not. You know he hates everyone, because hehates the people who get lucky because they're born lucky, they born ric, BonRidge and you know, he's never going to have it, but if he was to have it youknow he'll go on wholday es going to travel his country, but he doesn'tthink- and he goes you know he has to work. You know he has to work like adonkey and he has a work like a horse is what he said. You know, but not youknow, oh to just pay off a mortgage, and you know all this stuff, it's sohard and you know he's never going to he's never going to make that money's,never going to change that life, and you know I just I agreed with him,because all I because I were at that time, I couldn't understand what theanswer was to his questions. Yeah, that's Soof in unhappiness is not. Thatis not really going to be solved with money. I don't think either like thermight be a short term. Gratification in like there might be some, but there'sdefinitely more to that than just finats is for sure, like it's yeah, socompletely first, I was thinking yeah at first. I wanted to really help himOrea to tell him that look. You know I've been some to Tope Shar like I wantto tol you this, like my story, a'd, I tell you, but I didn't think I justdidn't know how to respond to his his self talk. You know yeah and all thatself reflection. You know how he hated the rich people and o Hehad the peoplewho were fortunate were lucky. I mean I knew that. No, how luck works? Iunderstood, and I knew that its possible to be a rich. I mean I've toldyou like I', like you know, if I don't know, I'm not going to talk about thison podcast because sounds bit dooshy, but you know by quitting my job. Youknow I like SAR earning more money right he's. Let's just say that right.This is n example. Most of the time people were like what the fluck youknow I' going to have a job. You know you move that more most people wouldthink. You'd have earned more money when you have a job now work like rosix hours, a wit day or something five hours or day or really. I work thewhole day, but you know really. You know when I go to work and do thisislike four to five hours over day, but I'm earning more money. The differencedifferences is, I didn't change anything. What I changed was. I changemy mental mentality as to how I viewed...

Hin. I made a definite decision and Idid these things but, and I was really struggling tounderstand what what could I give him? I really wanted to do something for himbecause I felt he was in a worse place than a homeless person and you know- or you know, maybe notphysically, but you know I thim you. If you're going to have no hope of bettertomorrow, you might as well be theat. What's the point yeah and I really thought about it and forthe past two days. This has been on my mind to think about what what I couldhave done to help and I reignit by a few people- and someone said you can'treally give someone hope. Someone said Yeah. You know someone said to me: Yeah,maybe you could have said something, but you know, I guess, he's prettyhopeless. You know and someone else sai to like. I stole the story to fewpeople. Somebody else said you know it goes or maybe you was just bullshitingyou. Someone else said to me e Goese. So as he goes Wy, don't you just putheadpunsin new bur ias, like you know those fe people, I dontu Qite ther forMa. I don't it's so difficult in that circumstance, one you just work longhours, it's the middle of a night, but to you don't know the guy, the guysbeing relatively combative, like it's so difficult to to fully engage at thattime. So maybe, if you had your time over of you met the guy again, youcould do something different, but in that live circumstance it' it issomehomes best to not, because you just don't know. I mean someone, often thatcrazy, you just don't like that and no, but he wasn't. He wasn't like crazy,though he was like just like negative er believ. Yes, it wasn't crazy in asense, because I could see that possibility in other people yeah, butit was just shere, not knowing the fact and like do. I tell him that is simpleas just simple as it sounds as to how to makemoney O as as simple as it sounds that it's not the money that you after youknow it's. If that, if that each day you feel of not understanding, there'ssomething that's missing and to him he was missing hope that was a thing thatwas the secret ingredient. He was missing and he was missing imagination and I think those two things are veryclosely related to. When you talk about gratitude. Thereason I said that story is because in I thought, a lot about it and I camethrough the conclusion how but I could have sait what I could have said to him is maybethis is. This is more. I could have told Hin my head, maybe the Sam, maybeEin a perfect world. I could aveset to it. This tram whut. I could have saidto him. You've got a nice car. You've got a mortgage like you said you boughta house, you know so. You've bought a house you've driving a nice car you'ein not a good shape. You know, maybe you don't have the money yeah. Maybeyou haven't won the lottry yet, but you could you could who has said you can't winthe lattery. You know just like those people, you might be the next one. Ifyou you know, if that's a simple, if that's what you want to do, but insaying to that people who are in the five thousand dollar a week, you couldbe that person we just have to. You could be that person. No one has saidthat you can't be that person. You know, there's nothing stopping youto be that person, but in order to be that person in order to create thatluck to work in your favor, you have to first appreciate what you have, becauseyou only get more when you are fully aware of what you have because then youattract Har you're, aware of you attract what you are conscious of yeah, and maybe that might have been you know.Maybe he fe was able to understand that he might have not been that situationyeah, but it's such interesting takes. Yes, takes a long time to come to thatsort of yeah. No! But that's you summarize thatperfectly that's a good! That's a good lesson to take away from it to Un agood reminder for myself. In a good reminder for us all as well- and healso did mention that he didn't sleep as well, so maybe he was just he justhad a bad car line. Yeah Mo was deluious yeah. So that's the story of aperson yeah. You know at the end of the day, I am not talking shit about him atall. I just I'm actually inact Poi Ter, I'm actually sad about him, and I wishI was. I wish I was more capable to dosomething for him. I wish I knew more. I wish I had betterwords to say you know. Sometimes you actually, that kind of Shit Hits youand I wish these kind of medium like out the PODCAST Thatwe have exist. Youknow we have this podcast. Someone else created this podcastbefore us, and this podcast was one of the biggest things on the word insteadof fucking Miky, and am I just talking about celebrities talking o t theyouknow yeah, so maybe someone needed, maybe if someone did that instead oftalking about the goast of the celebrity- and this is pop tock- maybesomeone came up with that. It would have been different. Maybe if I didcome up with that in ages ago- might have made a difference. So you know I'mactually almost sad but end in saying that what it's it does serve as alesson to me, too loken to you to...

...anyone else, whois listening that it'seasy to get caught up in everything that you don't have and everything thatother people have it's very easy and it's a very, veryslippery whole when you start getting into it more.You struggle the harder you get into it so avoid that holy nook or all cases- andyou know talk about sorry finish- your fhout think about your think aboutgraitude as the alternative path to alternative life situation from thatwhole that you can get yourself into Yep. You brought yourself into you,certainly more than capable, but it's just like the laws of gravity. It'sit's easy to for it's hard to climb, but yeah you've got ta strive for thatthat climb, because then that's getting yourself to the place that you nedtoday, a hundred percent there's ony thing about low of gravity when youfall and you get back up, you fight against the grevity you're stronger forit. Just like your muscle more you work out, you become stronger, exactly andpartically. You build great resistance for it, so you're in that sit sirvurstet again,and maybe that's maybe that that chance- that very luck lucky your unlucky, how you lookat a chance that you met that person, maybe that was preparation for a futurecircumstance, so hundred percent- and maybe maybe that was maybe tha. Maybe that was to signify tome. What I need to do as well is a cimate create a medium where I can m.We can make a difference in people's like that life, because you know I keepsaying to these people. If you want to change the word, don't think in theterms of minority think on think in terms of the majority. I keep sayingthat, and you know maybe that's just me, but I think you'V fixe the problems ofthe world. You fix word hunger when you change the people or fucking God tablefull of food, yeah hchange the majority change. The mindset of the majoritytochange. Howtmajority works because you know what's funny. The funny thing isthe people who have got a full foot of table of food and not grateful as thepeople. Who've got no water in Africa yeah as Yoah. That's what I'm saying sothat's what the problem is. So we're going to change the majority and we'RGoin to change people like him. So if we could do that- and you know someonecould you know if by spreading this world of craitude, you could do that.You know you start a ripple that goes on forever, yeah an that's how the universal that'show God works like it. You get those opportunities in you, get those thingscoming, not how your how you might think they might come up. Maybe maybe think of my friends goingto come to me and ask me for this advice and I'm going to give it to emnow it might just be a completeen stranger, but when yeah when you when to summarizethis, because you put a beautiful bay on it there, I think when you, when youwork and you get to a stage where you're your good inside and your striving to be better like you,you create a better world for yourself, then that Hoy create a better warthrotor people as well, because you can really pass a message on throughauthenticity and that's that's really the best way to get through to peopleas well. It's not so aambolshit selling Hem real experiences that you've had togo through yourself. That's perfect hundred percent! That's Sport! On now Idid Wante to talk about this story, which is story about myself actuallystory about the the infamous Neq, the the idiot s. When I say the idiot, I'mgoing to tell the story of the Fast Ma Wright. The story of this is the pre opprety accident Ma ut talk about a little bit of the story, maybe nextepisode, or maybe the episode after I'm Goingna talk about that storyis,because that story is important to me because that little accident, as mostpeople know, I became really close to that. I had a very near deathexperience when I send ne Er near that I've been I'm talking about like fewcardiacorest ant yeah and the and no Bo no like freaking crack Scoll andmultiple fractures. In my skill, those kind of I'm talking about real cose tothere yeah, no one goes Closeo O tdath when you just accidentally slip offsomething not tacclors of deat. I real legitimate yeah Y for yeah end up beingokay, and I think this I perfect sig way I mean you can continue if you want,but I think this would be a perfect sagway into doing a part to, because Ithink we can definitely y know part to of gratitude s its O, let's go par toyeah and in part to. I will talk about my story. So if you've listened to,this episode definitely definitely check out the part to of this episode.Tic epiother Parttwo of episode, eight, but creitude check, definitely checkthat out, because I'm going to tell you the story of me and how I came to bethe person I am today and how it changed me and when I'm capable oftoday, and but I was Capablo that at the time at that time would like yeahthat, lest fear, I mean real driving, folt a yeah, that's right and I mean...

...for most part, I'm pretty I'm for most part. Now I like to see myselfI'm capable of doing a lot, I'm caple of thing doing things that I couldn'teven ema. I couldn't invegine and I have a good imagination so atthe time at the time. At the time Ithought I could do. I thought I couldn't do a lot, but Iwasn't so grateful for the things that I couldn't do exactly Anywayso we'lltalk about that a little bit in the next episode. So thank you so much forthis podcast Loklan. I will let you finishit up and I'll hit the rock assoon as you', ready rap up roce. Ane Lot m word yeah. Now, I'm all don myfriend, that was that was awesome. Ant, wait for part to Super Importan. Whatwe've been chatting about and a really a really beautiful way to help yourselfand help other people just Byn, be being more grateful and kind ofbuilding on that greater perspective and just being Appreciativ what we'veall got, because we can all live and we all live abeautiful life in our own way. So thank you, brother. I love you very much and yeah. I yo L, TATCA.

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