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Hello, welcome to one those number eight if the clever dummies podcast. Hope you're all having a fantastic day. My Name is lucky and I'm joined by MEEK. How are you going today, my friend? Great, thanks, man, thanks for asking. Going great, loving life, you know. Yeah, love and life and ask good to hear my my man, we've had an action pack couple of days, really a couple of weeks on my end to mate, and plenty of good things to get into for the day show. But I'm actually interested for now how your life's been gone, and I obviously we've talked about kind of the big life decisions you've made. So what's been going on in our world, my friend? Well, honestly, just being flat led busy, and I think I spoke a little bit about this a last week last podcast as to my calendar was looking. But you know, it's all super busy, just super it's just getting into it. Every single day is something new and, you know, some new challenges and just trying to keep up with everything, you know, trying to reply to emails. I was actually considering hiring someone the other day. I was like, I think I need to hire some yeah, I was like I need to maybe maybe like a you know, stay home or something. I'm not saying that in a bad way. I mean like maybe you stay home mom who's can you know, can do some mad meing for me. So yeah, so she's got something to do as well, because maybe clean the that's no that, but you know, it's I mean in like in a nice way, because I gives them something to do. They get a bit of money coming in and, you know, helps me out. Maybe I was just thinking about that. I don't know. I could maybe someone else. Maybe I va like a virtual assistant. But yet two things are getting there. Had Crazy. So I was a couple of makes that might be on queer straight in and stand link line that might appreciate a little paycheck here with it. have any emails? We talked. If you did, I think you might. They to bring in some reinforcements. So last week I had fifteen meetings and that's actually probably the ones that were tracked and were booked into my calendar and you know, emails. Wise we're talking like I don't know. I think last week I could probably tell you. I think if I go through it, I think we will be like a hundred fifty hundred forty emails. I mean, yeah, yeah, it's fifty hundred and forty. What just in the gaps in business and everything else. Yeah, it's just mixer of thing. It's you know, it's just trying to sort everything, even something small as like making sure being my Raggio or and you know, buying a new phone and just like what if I'm stuffing it up, and what if I'm stopping a stuffing that up? So I had to call them back and fix that issue and just like those kind of things, and that's hard when you're super busy and trying to do everything else. Yeah, yeah, if IIFID you still kicking with the old vis man? I didn't realize. I'll still go out. All right, they're going great, man, they're going great, great, I'm loving it. They hook me up with a new phone, which is which I didn't get. If I got the s twenty, I was gonna get Apple. I was so close and it's gonna get Apple. I got that's twenty. Yet I haven't heard of that phone before. Once that got, it comes on next week the new Sampson. It's called s twenty. Yeah, I'll fuck you. The skipped these things. I got no idea. Fuck it out. I haven't heard about it. No one really wanted because it's like, you know, iphone was like iphone eleven. They're like, yeah, we're going to skip all that. Yeah, yeah, in an iphone, man, the last couple of years and they kind of go through these faces, but they do a couple of new phones and this is just not worth the UPRADE and not worth the money. Like I've got the X now, the ten pretty good, but yeah, it's fucking I'll look, I've still got that. I've still got the s nine. So that's twenty a half years. Yep, just over two and a half years and my phone. And I would have stuck to it because my phone's got not a scratch on it. It works one. It's just that the speaker is done into, like the microphone started to die, and people get annoyed when I call them and they're like you can't can hear you? No, not honestly. You know, someone will say you got to just got in a smaller phone, like I said, of spending seventeen hundred dollars, but I was like man, you know, I spend that, spent get that phone every once every three years. Might as well. You know, I'm got, I like technology, so I can look. I think I can justify this one now. Definitely. And to be honest, you've always been pretty responsible, obviously with your mother, but with your phone choice as well. I for probably four or five years I was just obsessed with after that twelve month being out upgrade, and now I'm nearly two years into my I phone X. I'm actually probably going to run the contract out just to drop the price, because I just have seen the eleven and I just haven't seen enough to make me want to get it. Well, let's it. Maybe in the future I might look to switch over. But like, I'm still because I have apt watched, but I'm still paying a hundred seventy months. Like, what kind of fucking rookie is pay that, man, I would idiot. That's right, man, that's rough.

I'm not. So I'm paying what I'm on my phone plan I was paying. Previously, I was paying, I was paying eighty five a month, and so I know I was being sixty three dollars a month. That would include my phone and and I got, I used to get unlimited. That on eighty dos, a eighty doors, a month. Yeah, and I reduced my plan because I was like, well, I'm not using the limited data. But recently, ever since I've started working a lot more like on the go, I need that data. So I got it back up. So I was playing the last month. I paid eighty five dollars and I upgrade. I call them up to upgrade. Turns out my there was like three hundredwo hundred fifty dollars left on my phone. Yeah, one that previously. So I just paid that out right and the new phone, the new phone included, and I got a better plan, everything for eighty five. So I am paying two dollars more now. Yeah, yeah, but if you don't count the two hundred. Was that? I yeah, bid, you're not doing a few ords that I be. I'll right. And he said if you don't go out anyway. So you kind of need yeah, I kin of need myself. So I got that phone. So I'm, you know, really happy and excited about that little child at the moments. Like, yeah, still earning it. What's one of them features that you're like? You about it? I don't know. I just got it because it's near. I looked into it. I'm not too I trust samthing. I mean I got as nine and it's been brilliant, has been good. I mean I want to get Samsung because I have an apple computer and I bed and I've got, you know, a few apple things, and but then I was like what I get annoyed about is the whole whole apple cloud thing. Yeah, that's what I get a lot about, because you keep be for it all dollar fifty a month, where it comes out from time? Yeah, the fuck's so. Yeah, it's just too hard. I mean, I've got manually called things, like there's so many things that you might get rid of when you might regret. So, yeah, they google in many ways have got have got their basis covered, and that's definitely one of them. Yeah, like the pro using even with the computers, using like the MAC and using the using windows, using PC, still being able to use both, because you just never know which situations are going to present himself and if you're able, well, that's right, show and do that. So it's good to cling on to it. But you still think that the maps are better from obviously from a computer standpoint, and maybe they're. Well at the moment. At the moment I've got to Com datus at the moment I using a computer, PC and apple. I use apple because I like this screen and allows me to addit photos and it's better so I can see better resolution all this stuff on the go. It's kind of cool and, you know, it's kind of Nifty, clean and most of the stuff that I do, I look I could have gone on a PC. There's no reason. Yeah, but I don't know. I might switch to PC, but it's just I just seemed, seems, seemed to fall into just happen to be. Was An apple, like you're a apple. Definitely a winning the IPAD tablet game and like that's one are I think they've got locked down. The IPAD is fucking yeah, like Clark, you know, you know I was, I was, I wasn't. I was never really sure as to what what I was going to do with an I tablet or an ipad because, to be honest, unless you're using it for only entertatment purposes, I bet it's pretty useless if you really think about it. Yeah, but recently I've started using it for added photos and that has been a little bit of a life change because I've been using, like you know, so I've been using it to addit photos on the go and do some stuff on the go. That's been a life change. So that's been the only thing that I found a real good use for an IPAD. Yeah, my stand and the screen size being bigger, even I was still portable. Definitely is like if you're doing UNIWORK, if you're doing emails, if you're having a look at multiple tabs at once, like having that largest screen. I feel it's just better in gaging too. Then, to be honest, I pretty I've never replied to any yeah, I've never replied to an email on I but I'm I've fixed my calendar and night bad, but that's about it. Yeah, it's just the not having the keyboard. I mean if you got the keyboard one, you've got the keyboard one, don't you? Yeah, exactly, and so you could. Yeah, so that works nicely. Yeah, definitely not any. Yeah, I'm on the screen, but yeah, when I'm not having to do thirty emails either, like I only have to yeah, well, here on there. So, yeah, that makes post rounds. Anyway. What's been happening in your would I believe that you've got some big news? Yeah, absolutely say. First I'll start at the eat the kiddies stuff. So I just got my exam results back and my my mark for the unit nutrition health that I did over summer and I got a distinction in that. So I was really happy. Just being a bit of a perfectionist that I was, I was like worried about it. I don't didn't feel like I did as well as I couldn't. The exam was an immitted exam. I used every last second of it. The last couple of questions I was like, I felt like I didn't give everything I could just because I knew I'd only had. You know, I had like seven minutes...

...to answer the last question. It's kind of like a mid six, only six marks, but like kind of needed a page worth of writing. But end up getting a pretty solid mark in that one. Happened more than I was expecting, and then got me the got me the distinction there, and that sort of like the first unit and it means a lot for me because it was like one proving to me that I can do it, like I can still, if I put my mind to it, I can still actually do really well and too, more importantly, like I really loved it. So I wanted to do well as well. So that was awesome and obviously news that we've been sitting on for quite some time. Like you knew about it straightaway. But my beautiful fiance, soon to be wife, CHARLOTTE, we're getting married in April, so excited for that. We found out when was it was probably it was like early November, that we're going to have our first, first little one, our first baby. So she's pregnant now. She's actually just hit the five month mark, which is unbelievable, like she's over halfway and we found it yesterday. We're going to have a little girl. So that's pretty pretty epic, Little Abby and I think we've got it's exciting. It is and it was strange because growing up and even recently, I wasn't sure if I wanted to have a kid until I found that she was pregnant and I'm like yeah, this feels right, and I always fought like a having a boy would be easier. I don't know, you know, because he obviously I was a boy grown up and I thought, you know, understand how the male brain works. But now just like being out to mold and create and build like this strong girl up into, you know, into an amazing person and having, I guess, that perspective of what it's like to grow up as a girl too. Is Yeah, like so I'm just so interested into what that's going to be like, dealing with everything. And apparently girls are a lot more easy to do with, because boys, as a kid, if you're a baby kid yourself, to just crazy wildness. At least the girls, for the most part, they're a little bit easy to handled too. So maybe that's part of it too. That's right. Well, that's very exciting, man, I'm super happy. Obviously I'm the God father. I'm just getting NIC's right, but you know, it's very exciting and that's it is such a such an incred I mean, look, I'm excited and I can only assume how you feel. You know, I can only assume it's just so exciting because, you know, it's it's not that it's signifies that you're growing up. It's just that signifies that the the you know, the the time that has passed and you know, it's almost it's one of those things that are just shakes everything up and just go, okay, there's been few days as by just went past. Just look quick, let's you know, makes you just remember some of the days and, know, in a bad way, but in a good way, go you know, almost you know, I was thinking about it earlier today and almost made me tear up to think as to them things that we have done, the you know, the friends that we made and the people we met, and it's just, you know, when you think about that and it's just such a journey as to the people we've become today and you know, and you now and you know, making a you know, stepping into a whole new era of you know, have we're having a child, which is what will be, I would go far as saying is one of the greatest responsibilities, you know, anyone on this planet can have. Or you know, I think it's such a not an opportunity, but such a responsibility. And you know, if you've been, if you have been almost, I suppose, a gifted with a child or yeah, it's just I think that's the word correct word to use, because that comes, you know what they say great bowers, comes responsibility because, think about it, you know, you are going to shape a human being that is potentially carries the world to potentially carries the power to change the entire world you know, you you got to think about like that and you know how that person is going to grow and how that person is going to interact and go through the same process were you went through. It's just so incredible and so interesting to think about for me and you know, I get really excited and yeah, yeah, this weird feeling. I could never describe this feeling. It's a feeling of I'm never sad, but yet it's like that Tierri feeling when you think about these. Yeah, you're looking right. What you call that? You it's hot, like it installgia nostalgia style. It's not just nostalgic. Yeah, yeah, there's not just nuts nostalgia. It's also like the mixture of like, you know, you happy, but yet sort of like, you know, you want tear. Yeah, it's overwhelming goose. So there's so many emotions and thoughts going to one. It's nostalgia or it's pride, it's excitement. It's also like a little bit of sadness, you know, knowing that so much time as past and you know, the content not the old life we had, but you know so many things are going to be different. But like, it's definitely not a bad feeling, but it's just overwhelming because there's so many things to think about it once. And I'm the same too, like I've been, I've been thinking back a lot recently and kind of doing it to be grateful and to be happy and like to appreciate what I have and what I've been given in what I've got an experience in the future, because it is so easy to, you know, it is so...

...easy to not be grateful for that reason, just because you're doing so many things at once and you're trying to get through so many hurdles, like it's hard to look back even on like a week or two weeks past. But like, I feel like what this brings in the kind of like centers everything again. It kind of it's like I'm just a beautiful reminder of the things that are important and it ultimately, it is an opportunity, like you don't want to say an opportunity because it sounds selfish, but it is. It's an opportunity to learn, it's an opportunity to shape the like, the entire world of someone who, like you know, you can be really good friends and you can never be partners with some one, and still that's another person. But when you have, you know, the ability to be a parent and you have the opportunity to be a parent, like you can put this person on the right path and there's obviously a balance between, you know, being encouraging and being helpful, when you know, kind of looking out for them, but also letting them learn from their own experiences to and like that's an opportunity that I've never had before. So Opportunity, I think, is a really good work. It's just yet obviously it's yeah, Opportunity maybe brings like a like it's like I got a business opportunity, I got to I got an opportunity to get something out of this, and ultimately you do get some other out of it, but it's like a this just a beautiful there's like it's not a scared feeling either, like I'm obviously nervous for, you know, the the sleepless nights and the unpredictable. So you're not catching a plane, yeah, and on leaving the country. Yeah, exactly right, exactly right, and there's things that you adjust in that regard. Like I know that every every parent that I speak to is like, particularly for a girl, but for anyone like you, just become so observant and you become so almost scared, and I don't want to be scared, but you become so scared of the world because there's so many things, there's so many threats. They're like there's so many things that could cause harm and your protective nature comes the end and your human instincts that are you know, maybe for the longest time you don't really tap into it's just goes back to that primal self. And maybe that's what it is too, like there's a real primiliarity. I've probably just made that up and known as real word, but there's a real primal feeling of being a parent, I think. And because you're just you're going back to your basic DNA and like I always thought, like you know, why can people do this sort of thing? And people always like I would literally kill anyone for my daughter. You know, I would kill it. And what you talk about, you going to kill or something. But I kind of actually get what they made there, because it's just like you have like it's for the first time ever, like there's someone more important than your life. Then you maybe that's what it is. Maybe that's exactly what it is. I think it's obviously I can't, I can't speak in that manner, but I mean I can assume look at, you know, in a sense where I if you and someone try threatened my friends or, like you know, my family, I think I would take some serious action as well. Like Ros I think it's still sort of same feeling where I think that switch between where you go from caring for yourself to the moment you care for someone else and the moment your lie, at that moment, your life, as in your for yourself, becomes not as valuable. Yeah, because then it becomes about protecting and when you're going into that protecting state, I think, I think that's when it doesn't when you're your own life doesn't matter to you as much, which is such an interesting factor actually. Yeah, but, and I'm just chanting at the end of the day, like I don't actually know these feelings it because they're not really there yet. They're kind of like they're under the curse. They're bubbling up, but because it's not really here yet, like it doesn't it doesn't quite you know. So, yeah, I guess it's trying to pre empt preempt it and be prepared for it, you know, be over red. Yeah, but yeah, it's like I think that's, you know, just being able to analyze and look deeply at it and obviously you you have learned experiences of talking to people when kind of just rash. Now like basic understanding of what's going to go on. So it's definitely it's so exciting. Like it, you know, it is what it is. There's so many different emotions that are come into it. But when you like dig deep, there's excitement and there's like this. It's just literally a new chapter. So this's just excitement, like that's the only word I can explain, because there anything I'm really feeling right now. So, you know, after six weeks of bloody sleeping for two hours a night and changing thirty nappies day, might be singing a different you gotta be a father, my man. That's it. It's pretty it's so crazy. Yeah, it's crazy. Well, on that noteable once I just would like to congratulate you one more time and it is very exciting and very excited for you for the chapter to come and I'm excited for everything that the few future holes for you and I. I am projecting and I can see, you know, I can see it. You know, I've been around a lot of people to see the future is now is started to become brighter because you have you have set a course towards a brighter future, to do a better life. And now, in that process you've also going to have a child and where you are automatically going to have to become a little bit more responsible, and you'll become more responsible, you'll become more crying, you'll become more you know, you have more remorse, more passion and everything. All those things come with it. So, you know, I truly do believe...

...that you can have a brighter, brighter future. So congratulation. Yeah, exactly right, discipline, everything else that comes along with it. It's forced upon but like when it's forced in that that regard, like you even have the option to. I mean you can have the opportunity do nothing. And like that's why people, that's why so many people grow up, I think, with even parents that aren't there or parents that don't do a very good job, because it is very easy to give into the hard times, the hard times ahead. But like it, just like anything, the ultimat sacrifice of pushing through, that's really where you get your greatest rewards now. I appreciate it deeply sincerely. Hearing that and hearing you genuine excitement for me gives me great motivation and great out right backs. I preciate that very much, my friend. No problem, mainly of the week. Now that brings us to today's topic, which has been twenty minutes of a little bit of Chad, but I think people would have gathered by now what we were talking about. So today's topic is gratitude, and I think this is one of those things that I wanted to talk about for a while and lock and want to talk about this for a while, but we just want show where we slot this in and you know I'm gonna these, I'm going to I'm going to say a few stories and I almost I'm almost worried that this podcast is going to go for an hour, over an hour, but you know, we'll try to wrap up by gratitude is one of the most incredible, most two parts as well. You know, it is what it is. Yeah, that's right. So let's see how we go. You know, I want to start with I want to start with a little bit of a story about myself and a little bit of a story that I actually literally came across two nights ago, which was my uber driver. Actually, I'm going to tell that story as well. So in fact I'll start with the UBER driver story before because it's little bit more interesting. A second one is a little bit more, little bit more, suppose, in depth and a little bit more not as fun to hear, but it's a good story. The the reason I'm we wanted to want to talk about gratitude is because we go through life. We go through life day by day. Time passes. Years Past, minutes past. You know, right now, as I sit in front of my computer, I can see the twenty two minute, thirteen, second, fourteen, second, fifteen seconds, and that remarks the time passing by. The second, you know, in blinks off an eyes. But in all this rush around, all this running around is, you know, we almost chasing for the next big thing, over seeing what the future holes, always trying to plan things, we often forget what we have. And that is one of the biggest problem that I've suffered from, and I you know, I'm going to speak for myself today only. Actually this is the problem that I've suffered from so much for many years. I've never been you know, I never used to be and I'm only just learning how to be grateful and have gratitude towards gratude to us the things that I have, you know, having we live in an age of social media. You know, the landscape of mobile and you know, it's really interesting because I'm talking about this because I am a bye trade a marketer and aline entrepreneur and all those things. The fact of the matter is, you know, we get constant, constantly bombarded with ads and pictures and all of these beautiful girls and this, you know, the rock jumping on his private plane and training his fourth session by four am. You know, you don't want I think. I don't know. Like he said, it does seem genuine, so that I mean we're going to know. He's general. He's genuine as help. It's I just want. I think. I worry about how that story ends. Like that. Selling, constant selling of something new every day and it's like the main yeah, three kids, like I just worry about it. Anyway, I've just got I don't know what it is. I just yeah, absolutely, absolutely hard and he's a beautiful man, and I only said that because he's a massive influence so many people, and I I'm going to tell you what I would what I'm exactly. It's like Mark Warbur's to him wake up. Mark Forbeck, wakes up at two am and goes to sleep at seven PM, and he's got three kids. Man, what took kids? What are you doing? Are you really like? What's anyway? That's not the point. The point is all these things get we get bombarded. Would so we get angry at ourself or not waking up at sick for him in the morning or to him in the morning. We get angry at ourself or not having the Ferrari. Would not get angry at ourself and not having the private chat? We get angry at ourself for not having the King Kardashian also the BOOBS, you know, even though those costs roughly, roughly fifty twozero a bear. So you know, that's another point. I joke, but what I'm saying is, you know, that's my mean into dollars. She's yeah, well, all what I'm saying is it's so easy to see what you don't have. Yeah, now now let's talk about what we all have. I mean we wake up every single day and you know, some of us are really lucky to open our eyes and be able to see. That's the that's you know, that's the one of the most not think about that for a...

...second. How exciting is that if you are someone who couldn't see? Yeah, you know, that's literally the fund them basic of it. I mean, fuck everything else. I mean you are able to see the word, you're able to navigate your to see the colors, you will see the food in a side. Is One of the most powerful human you know what is it called sige senses, right, socide. He's one of the most potful. We will to then we're able to hear on the but we build a walk, we able to do things, we will navigate, we can talk, we can record podcast and we have the interimet. I mean, don't I just hid those things because they're righting form. Yeah, exactly, but no one really talks about these things. So that's why I thought and we thought it was a really important topic to talk about. It's like, and that's you can do that. The beautiful thing about how blessed we are as well as like, you can do that anytime that day. Like you might be driving in your car, listen there and music, or you might be walking into an office building into a job you have or you know you might be doing anything. And just as we're surrounded by things that you know cause your stress and generally look at from a different angle, but a little bit of a perspective change, like you realize how lucky and you know how grateful we are for being living in the country we live and having the people we have in our lives and the opportunities. Ultimately, the opportunities we have, like the creative control there's so many people like when you're taken out of an environment where you're not lucky and you're not blessed, the big part of it is like you don't actually don't have a choice, like you put your forced in this way of life, like you don't have the opportunity to create or to build or to go your own way. So there's just so many awesome opportunities each and every day to be grateful and obviously that's so much easier said than done, like there's some of that is you said you struggle with. I definitely strug with to but we can all like, we can all feel like can all achieve a sense of gratitude. I think just by just by reminding ourselves from time to time. Gratitude and actually something lock on you tag me in this. creditude is not a feeling, it's a practice. It's something that you have to consciously decide and use your any mental energy to be able to able to appreciate, and you have to slow your mind down, you have to think about it and you have to think about the things that you're grateful for. You know, there is the little things that you need to be grateful for, and then you become more grateful for the things that you know, you normally just accept as a fact of matter of factor the matter. You know, sometimes, you know, really it's so sometimes, recently I've started picking up the habit of consciously thinking about the things that I'm grateful for, because I'm going to chat about and we're going to chat about the benefits of gratitude as a practice, in a nut and a feeling. It's a decision. Yeah, that was yeah, it's a decision. That's right, that's it's a decision and I want to talk about these things. So, you know, today, I you know, today I had a day. I worked for roughly five hours because, as most people know, that I'm, you know, working for myself sort of now, you know, and I was and if I went to the gym and I finished the gym and after that I thought about what a Beautiful Day, what a nice day I had, because I woke up at roughly nine o'clock, which, you know, normally I've been trying to get up earlier, but, you know, I've had a late night, so I woke up at nine o'clock, you know. You know, went to a had a coffee, went to work, you had few happy meetings and had another meeting, went to the gym, got back, you know, and I was while I was driving back from the gym, because that was, you know, I was outside, so I was driving back roughly at thirty, I was just thinking, Holy Shit, what, it's been such a nice day. You know, I went to the gym, the gym was good and by thinking about that, almost caught goosebumps because it just felt so good to think about the fact that what like, you know, it just felt so nice being able to go to you know, be able to work at my own pace and, you know, stopped working at you know, thirty and go to the gym. Yeah, you know, and I was just sens yeah, having in the chance to do then I felt so static, like so you know, excited and so happy and like I was literally getting goosebump and it just felt so good and calming to think that, you know, This Day just felt really fulfilled, you know, because, and you know that day, that particular day, was not different to any other day. You know, some of the other days I've achieved ten times more, but I've just never thought about that, you know. Yeah, it's about thinking about that. It's it's such a let's talk about some of the benefits of, you know, gratitude. Looking do you want to get started on the benefits? Yeah, absolutely, and what you said was so spot on the benefits of so...

...probably the biggest one that I've found for me personally, particularly, like what's really been work in, you know, in practice in my life right now, is just the ability the obviously in grateful, the using the word in itself, but to appreciate the people that you have in your life and to appreciate, you know, the the support that you might have. And you know, I'm very lucky where I've got a lot of people, I can say my friends, a lot of people support you, but pretty much everyone has at least a couple of people they can rely upon, you know, through their darkest times and through, you know, through any any time in their life they might need the support. So, you know, having people around you to help you through your hard times. Being grateful for what I said before, like literally living in a country like Australia, where you have the opportunity to build and create and, you know, make something of yourself. It's very easy to be caught up in the difficulty of that achieving that sort of thing that you forget to be grateful. But to literally have that opportunity like you don't. You know, you just have to learn about another culture and the country for five minutes to realize that so many things that we have we, you know, literally can take a realty, are be take advantage of, because so many people don't have that opportunity to go home and talk to their friends on the phone or to not be worried about where their next meal is going to come from. It there's people within our own suburb who are, you know, within maybe some neighbors that we might not even know that have, you know, don't have the ability that know where their next meal is coming from and that sort of thing. So it's the opportunity to be able to build something for yourself, it's the opportunity to feel love and be in a supportive environment and I think just to to really to really remind yourself that life should be about the the positive and it should be about what you know, the the positives of life far outware the negative in almost every circumstance. Like there's bad things that happened, but on a grand scheme, if you're able to change your perspective, you're able to really understand that bad things happen, but bad things happen one, you know, happen at once, like one bad thing happens, one bad thing happens. Great things happen all the time, every day, every time, like your next breath is a beautiful thing. You know what I mean? It's the absolutely things. I love them, because bad things, that's something nor things off. Yeah, absolutely, that's something Norman thinks about. And you know, it's all the Positi little positive the normal really checks my but you know, we get like one little creating scratch on our face will a yeah, but you do everything, might o the car. Oh, you know, I unfortunately don't have that dough sound of fact this way. Yeah, but you know it's true, because so easy to get caught up and you know, if you ever think about it, do you really remember all the bad times that you went through? Now you just remember the feeling and actually remember what you remember? You remember, but you remember all the good times you've been through. Yeah, it just that's a signifies that, you know, bad times aren't actually that bad because the good things are still around and it's easier to navigate those bad times if you acknowledge the good things. You know they they was. There was the time in someone's life maybe they were going through a tough time and, you know, nothing was working out. They were getting angry all the time. You know they're not getting a job, but they're forgetting the distill able to walk, they're still able to have the opportunity apply for jobs. They still have the family, the friends, the kids, you know, those things matter and they still have the you know, the builty to apply. And it's I ind it's it's just that stopping and realizing that things, things are around us, are actually, you know, beautiful. And Yeah, the word beautiful everything, everything, no matter no matter who you are, no matter what to your situation is. And you know, the sad thing is sometimes the people who have the least are the most grateful. That's sad as yeah, status, I mean it's great, I'm happy that they are, but it is sad that for the what does that say about the rest of the society? Yeah, exactly right. We had a we had a past to come in from coming to my church a couple of weeks ago. He He. He has a church in it's called the media or Nibbia. I can't remember the exact place, but it's an African to a city and the country in Africa. Like that's how specific I am. I've got no idea, but it essentially he has a him and his wife run a church in Africa and he's like, you know, we went over looking to help people and they obviously are helping people, but he was like, men, they've helped us so much more than we can really ever help them because, like, they just went over there and there was so welcoming, they were so loving. They all have massive moles in their face, like they have one meal a day to eat and they share in the same clothes and everything else, but they're just so happy to be alive and likes that elimination of all the foots. For some reason, it's like we still don't know exactly what it is like. You, I guess, in...

...one hands, like when you're constantly given things or when you know you've your you take things for granted. Maybe that brings on a sense of like entitlement and like a negativity. But the people who don't have a lot of things to be to take for granted the ones that actually the happiest because they just so happy to be alive and they're so happy to have a you know, have a foot, have some water, whatever else. It is like. It's really it's really like and it's so hard to comprehend it, but it is like it's such an interesting by product of human nature. I think a hundred percent. Hundred percent now you know, with gratitude, it's not just acknowledgement. It makes you feel better. It does feel like. You feel better, it does make you feel really good if you acknowledge those things, because all the stress, all the things, all the jobs and all the misty emails and all the older all the missed opportunities don't seem as much of an issue when you realize all the beautiful things that are around you now. But that's not just the only benefits, the only benefits of gratitude. We're talking about mental health. You know, your mental health genuinely gets better. You know your and you know mental health. There is a really whole nother topic that we could talk about, but you know they mental health is like. It's like a dynamic think about of a dynamic status part that goes constantly changing its status as to where your mental health literally like, if you were then think about like a health bar in a game. I think it's just like it's one of those things where even through the day, you know it's sort of drops and then you need to know, you need to refeel that. And now how do you refeel that health? You know, in the game, it was a game, it was Gdu senator as you just type in hitchys Yo am as a cheat. Yeah, you know, a cheat. You type it in, you'd you all good. But yeah, in real life, believe it or all, there's a cheat as well. It's called gratitude. And you know, you you take a moment to appreciate all those things, you're enough. The mental health a part goes up. You know, the funny thing, like this is an interesting thought, but the funny thing about those teats, even though they made the game easier, like they made it less enjoyable. Like you just yeah, that kind of that pretty deep, that process of getting, you know, getting more and you know, whatever was in Dja, getting the ammunition or getting money or whatever. It was like that actually was a part of the fun because it created an experience around it. When you eliminate all that, you sort of just get yourself to the end goal and then you just rushing through it, and I felt like it, yeah, just didn't make the game as much fun, but you'd also going to do it because it's just so tempting. It's like it's just so funny. It was funny, wasn't fun is one of those yeah, well, I mean, I like to do because I just like fucking around with yet exactly right. Yeah, it's just type get all the guns and get armor and get unlimited health and just stand on top of the roof and shot shoot the cops. Yeah, well, that's right. Sometimes I wonder why I'm so violent. That's a joke. That's it. That's a joke. Yes, I'm mind. Yeah, no, so going back to it, you know. So That's how Hu maintain your mental health. Now we talk about, you know, hormonal belt balance, and I was reading about it. I read a chapter of this book, is this books about sexual life, and actually want to do a whole episode about the discoveries that I found from this book. This book is about, you know, human sexual life and all about interaction between men female and in fact this talks about the mental health of men in a sense where men often often have weird hormone in balance. Has, due to this stress levels, and you know that impacts not only your physical health, your mental health, your general well being and general mood. Right, yeah, you you know that all those and that mood and all that stuff is controlled by Sarah Tonine and Sarah tonins depends heavily on to stots and and all those tyfle stuff. That's why you feel happier after a workout. That's why people who are higher to store s I. Able to work out, have more endurance, have generally more energy. And you know so, as as men, your two store strong level gets significantly infected when in effected, when you're in a stressful, stressful condition, and I'm sure it's a similar sort of stuff for women as well. But I actually want to go into depth and not going to quickly talk about it because I would have to really get into it. But you know, similar costellation between tests or stone and that effect on the body just because the the like. I guess the power is not the right word, but I'm going to use the power. But the power that testoster and has, like, you know, literally you have look at the body of a woman, mental man like, the physical attributes mayles generically have because of test ruction in the power that hormone has heightened that. You know, that's why suicide is or higher and men like all these things come into effect, for sure. Yeah, so look, you know, low Testo Ston I've known to you know, busy degrees decrease general wellbeing. So you know you're more likely...

...to have depressive episode or like you know, more be more anxious and all those stuff. Yeah, but that can be countered with. Actually, believe it or not, what helps with that? You know, low test Rostone, gratitude. How do you ask? It's crazy, he isn't it? Its incredible when you think about like this. So when you stressed, your body, pretty body actually almost blocks the test Rostone, test us one, sort of, because now there is a really interesting coloration in this, and I'm going to briefly talk about this is because it's going to get too scientific. So so, as as a this two kind of stress, there's acute stress and there is constant, low, constant and constant law impact stress. So if you really want to think about it, you would think about it like sprinting and run, sprinting and just like joke, constant, constant, light joke. Now acute stress is really good for you. It's really good for test roll stone, it's really good for your brain, is really good for your mental health. Acute stress would be something like would be something like, you know, you you learn something new and there was a there was a bust of stress. Or like you have a cold shower. That's a bust of stress where your body turns on all its all its abilities to all the ability to you know, the fight and flight stuff. Yeah, and you know, you pretty start switching into all these modes and you know, you all your you all of a sudden you're more aware and your brains more turned on and everything. You can smell more, you can hear more, or that's a cute the result of acute stress. Now constant stress. It's like the same thing as the contet like, you know, running on the treadmill for an hour and like four kilometer walking on the trail of four the minute. An hour is actually not so great. Good for you, which is something like your strength. Just know about you know. It's like, you know, three days of knowing. That's an assessment. You and you just kind of hung out and you just like, you know, it's just sitting on top of you had it. That's that's constant stress. What tackles constant stress, which normally might be from work or general you know, things about just you know, generally people seem to be stressed about a lot of things these days. You know, might be generally just I'm stressed about this, I'm stressed about that, I'm stressed about this. What does tackle it is gratitude, and that's so that's the second so was it reduces stress, and I just highlighted some of the benefits of reducing stress, which is you can reduce by, you know, you can reduce stress by obviously working out as well, but gratitude plays, you know, if not the similar amount of part as it has working out does to reduce stress. Yeah, now, there is a little things that all contribute to it. Like if there's not just one thing, that can't just be one thing. But, and I think the gratitude is something you can have with you at all times. You can't always be working any can always be sweat near and dolphins or, you know, releasing a dolphins, like you need other modalities. Well, that's a good word. You need other mode down work to help you get through and gratitude something you can you know, you're in the middle of a meeting or you're having a speak to someone or do something whatever, stressful in your life, like you can just switch off ten seconds, be grateful get back into it, and that's a beautiful thing about it, I think, a hundred percent. And and there was one more thing I want to do just so just remembered. I was going to quickly talk about. One of the things about word that gratitude really does is when you're gratit when you're grateful and express and gratitude towards something that you already have. So, let's say, if you don't have if you feel like you don't have enough, enough money, but you start becoming grateful and start, because showing expressing gratitude and showing gratitude towards the what you have gradual does this very incredible things. All of a sudden, what you grateful for, and now you're expressing that you're that thing is not in short demand for you. All of a sudden you start attracting more of that. Yeah, because that's the way you know, you talk about you know where you do the self, positive self talk is to I am confident, I am exciting, I am happy, I'm the best human being ever born on this planet. You know, as you saw, say all those things to yourself. You know, there's the positive SELFDALCA. There's a very beautiful book by I'm going to say the name, and this is more so it's about gratitude, but this is more about self love. But nonetheless, I think I should like that book to take over for a second while put this book. Yeah, I figure out what it's called. I was just about to ask you what I was called, actually, and that's all good, totally. I'm go find it. That'd be good. We find us up on the side as well. Last the books called love yourself like your life depends on it. By camel, Ruby Rubicun, camel revy cut this it's one of the most beautiful book I've ever read. This book talks about talks about how loving yourself is a practice, right, and it's it's one of those things and it's such a beautiful it's not a...

...long book. The book goes for one hour forty you know, if you're listen to audio, book is one hour four minutes. If you're reading it, it's maybe, like you literally half an hour read. It's not that huge book. Read it. It's, you know, just the guy talks about the Authodox, about how it's making a definite decision that from now onwards, I will love myself no matter what. And and another thing that it's sort of reminds you of is that loving yourself doesn't just happen by an accident. You have to constantly practice and make a decision at to love yourself, India to actually tell yourself you know you can. Your subconscious doesn't know the difference between reality and what seems to be just injury or what you've needed. So that's why I sometimes the negative talk, even though when you say it as a joke, so you know someone yeah, really you know, you you just say I'm such an idiot, or like, I'm such a Dickhead, you know, or you say fuck, I'm dumb. You know those kind of things. You say them as a joke and you know you, yeah, sure your friend got a good giggle out of it, but know that you have subclass doesn't know the difference. So in order to get that self deprecating grammar just out of your dictionary additionary, you know it's just not worth it because you know the impact is catastrophic. That's one thing I noticed, and seemed in direct correlation when I really began selforditing and trying to improve myself, was the that and people that you have in your life that do that, and even people that you might not be friends with, people that have that attitude towards life, and then how infectious it is and how much you even do it to yourself wherever next, whatever's internal like thoughts you have, or externally speaking it and by eliminating it, like, even though it's just like words, like my mommy saw us say, or what's in your mouth is in your heart. I used to get a shout up woman, you know, I said not take it. I used to say that's complete nonsense, but it is just so true because even if you say it four or five times like it doesn't matter, eventually like it just that's the way it works, like you just started to leave, like just starts to break through the defense mechanism and something, how bad, happens and then all of a sudden you say it yourself when it's not a joke, and then you start to believe it. So that's that's that's probably only really practical, really great advice, but it's a hundred percent no even I'm gonna have to notice people in your life, maybe coworkers or anyone, that speak that way, and start to maybe think about how they are in their life or, you know what, what's kind of going on. I think that'll be an eye open it to help you kind of understand certain people in your life. Not to promote over analyzing, but we don't do it. In fact, in fact, I anyone who's listening to this, I challenge you and I ask you, in fact I beg you, and even if you ever hear someone do some negative self talk, give them this message that even if they say that as a joke, they are subconscious doesn't know the different. Just change the word. If you think you know, if you if you if you are, if you're struggling with something, instead of saying that I'm just dumb. No, just say, Oh, you know, I can figure this out, I can figure this out. It doesn't mean you figured it out yet, but you can't. You know, just change those words. Are On and I really I think you need to do this is a conversation that everyone needs to have. So that's a little bit of selflove talking the interpreter Guty, which is also part of gratitude as well, you know, because you got to be grateful for who you are, what you've been given. And, like you said, Laucklon, and I've noticed how I know those people as well who have that sort of like negative talk, even though sometimes as a joke, but at the long run I've noticed the results. Right, Yep, I seen the little differences and I've seen them in certain scenarios where they've been sitting and and you know something has come up and that those things that they set as a joke wasn't a joke in their head and there they were. Gold of God. Now that human find of like a selfdefense mechanism in a way. And what really was an eye opener for me was like when I actually stopped saying those things about myself and stop speaking that way, when I would either hear someone else say or I would start to say to myself, I actually started to really correlate that emotion with like it was a real emotion. I'm like, all shit, like this is real, like when you when you don't do something for a quite some time, you know, if you're doing something for a long time, you get immune to it, almost so you don't actually realize what's going on. When you stopped doing any come back you're like, oh, fuck, like that's so legit, like that shit is extremely toxic, a hundred percent. Now these one these one positive old in this just like because we got to look at the positive, but it is one positive all this, just like how your being gets trained into thinking that you are the negative person that you say that you are. Your bring can also get betrained, are reprogrammed and rewritten into thinking that you're the incredible person that you want to be in you think you are. So that something is in your control. And I really want to stress into is this is going to come across crazy, and I know this is...

...obvious as it sounds, but maybe some people don't know this. You're in full control of your thoughts. You're in full control of your thoughts, your memory pattern your behavior better and you're able to change them and change them soon as you can, because every single they build, those patterns become stronger. So, yeah, Yep, it's gene of now do it. No, it's like an apport. It pick like they come like, even though you feel like they're come on for no reason. They come from a place of either you're not doing something you know. Usually my self doubt comes from that or comes from I mean, there's also you know, and this is this is where I believe my faith kind of comes through, like there's an out there's an outside influence, there's a there's a spirit that leaves that exist that doesn't want you to succeed, like a new maybe creating that spirit. There's a spirit in there that wants you to fail and wants you to you know and like wants you not to do well, wants you to do the wrong thing. So that that exists. But when you when you ultimately you know, you start building up your love for yourself and everything else, like you start to realize that like that's no, that's not actually the thought that I just had, a negative thought is actually not me go away, and then eventually just it does, like it doesn't come back because you just don't give it any time and then you don't start to take it into it and it's just kind of like a game of doing that, and I think that's where ordering your thoughts comes you know, as a beautiful thing, through meditation and just through taking some time each day or whenever you can, to kind of yeah, it's a pretty deep they're pretty hard to explain what I mean, but I think I hope that kind of makes sense. Well, that absolutely mix as I under so what you're saying. I think this is all important. So self audit it. I really like when use that word because I love that your so. So you know the here's the challenge, and in fact I'm going to talk about few more things because I think we're going to go over but fuck it. So the challenge here is you need to so get out all the negative shit and close your eyes and think for a second three things that you're grateful for that happened in the past forty eight hours. Now I'm going to I'm going to try this right now, right so I'm going to say how I go and after you hear this, Lackland, and you maybe, I if you want to join me as well on this, let's see how we go. Right. So, I'm going to generally close my eyes and I'm going to tell say the things that I'm grateful for. So I'm grateful for the fact that I got to go to the gym today and be able to train and have a good session. I'm actually really grateful for B the second coffee that I had in the day, and it was actually a free coffee because the guy at the cafe likes me, like Fanis said, does he? Yeah. So, the third thing that I'm really grateful for was the fact that I was able to, you know, able to work at my own pace and, you know, to have to wake up early and I finished work early and I still made a month the money that I would have anyway. And I actually I just sort of the full thing for I'm grateful for. I'm the grateful for the fact that I'm able to do this podcast right now and able to share my thoughts with people. Yeah, that's fair. So that's simple. Is that is something small, as that doesn't mean you have to have the good things that happen. Like you know, I'm grateful for the eighty FIVEZERO dollars that shut up in my bank agn last night. And and you had, and I guarantee you had a smile on your face, as you were right, I did, because I just thought about the coffee, because those like it's so cool, because I who doesn't like a Freak Gopee? Yeah, exactly right, Joe, get it to go. See how you got three things. Think about him. All right, let's go deep now. All good. So the I'm grateful for being able to train today. I did for classes. Felt really good. My body was responding really well, sort up really well. I'm grateful for the beautiful weather that we had today, whether it has a beautiful thing of changing mood sometimes and a bit of sunshine after for a week, a month of rain is really nice. And I'm grateful that I was able to get back on to get get back on track, have a really good day of eating and it made me feel really good. So I think I'm grateful that I've got a really good understanding of how food has a direct and correlation between my my move in my health. So yeah, that's like really completely different to what you said, but like it's also beautiful, because things that we're really grateful and we generally mean, you know, and I'm grateful to eighty five Pero dollars that did the period. I can't. That's it. That's all it is now. Now it if anyone is listening to the podcast, the six people. Yeah, that's actually like we've actually been getting a lot of user listens actually surprisingly. said that's that. Anybody who's just prodcast I wan. Yeah, I want you to pose the podcast right now.

Don't right now and right now, comment seriously fucking post the podcast and say out loud three things. Three things out loud. You need to hear your words. Close Your eyes, but need to hear your words. Don't not just in your head, you need to hear your words and when you say those words, feel how you felt when that little thing happened. Try to think of the smell and the feeling you got and the Audio, the auditory cues that they were there. What was it feeling when you were getting that free coffee? You know that. That's for me it was the you know, I can think about the sound of the cap, the machine of the Cafe Doin is and you know, the smell of the beans, of the coffee beans, and those kind of stink of those things. When you think about the things that you great before, it could be the tiny things. It could literally be the fact that you know, you you had a Brilli, you had extra breakfast and you know you like extra breakfast. That's all it is, but you got to be grateful for that. And so, anyway, if you haven't listened to the post, would, and they make you feel like, anyway, that's never hear any eggs like I did not scramble amount little bit of Guy, like a little bit about it, since they Jeez, little bit orange juice. That will that will fack in. It'll get your bays move into like no one. No one's happy when they constumpated. That will clear some gather a jet and get you go. And Yeah, anyway, pause the podcast. What are you waiting for? Come on, I assume. Yeah, come on now, I'm going to I'M gonna I'm gonna talk about this practice lack and that I've picked up and this practice I've picked up and I've done this for the past two years. So every year on New Year's, just before new years, I see all these post on facebook right about the knee year, knew me and all the things that people want to achieve. And for the past two years in anyone who has me on facebook and go on my facebook and check it out. For the past two years, instead of posting the things that I wanted to be I posted I posted the things I summarize the year and how grateful for I was for the people around me, because we are merely a bioproduct, by product of the people around us. So you know, it's important to be to give him a shout out and, you know, just be grateful for those people around me and people who support you. You know, without them I would personally be completely lost. Actually, I just read that centers out of my last one. You know, I'm gonna so quickly read this out. Is Going to street briefly. You know, first of all all I can say is this is all I can say this. How do we do? I start okay, I like to think I'm grateful for the most of the time. I like to think I'm grateful for most of the time. I still complain the time. The time is pretty much, you know, pretty much every time, every single day. I think that has that hasn't that has to change, or at least moderate, moderate that, for maybe cutted by fifty percent. Fifty percent complaining, fifty percent gratefulness. On that note, I want to make a point to how grateful I am to some people around, two people around me. Without your support, I would be completely loss think. Thank you anyway. And then I go on about the thirty hundred sixty five days. Is a three hundred and sixty five opportunities to make a lasting difference. You know, this is a very simple change in making in your life because, you know, worth says make versus voice is constantly saying what you're not and what you want to be. By saying that, you know it. I don't even have to do that, but I only started doing that. It's because I wanted to make that pull conscious difference that I am now, instead of constantly pursuing things. You know, like I said, fifty percent complaining, fifty percent guaranteed, I thought, fifty percent achieve things, you know, when I still have goals, you know, but at the fifty percent I want to thank people around me. I wanna be grateful for the people around because, you know, I talked about grateful for being the little things in life. Now it's what about being grateful for the cat, the guy at the cafe who served me the coffee, for the my mom or my dad or lack and you you know my brother and know by housemates and you know's how all these people. Yeah, all these people make a huge difference in my life as Lee. I think so. I'm sure people could find people around them as well make a different their life. And doesn't mean they give you money up, you know, five trans quite transfer of eight hundred bucks when you're going to the club, but maybe maybe they listen to you when you complain. That's enough. Yeah, enough to be great, to have, great to do. Now looking, anything you want to say? Before I told you the story of the Huber driver. Now I'm all good. I think we've think we've on a really good path with this, with this podcast, and I'm very happy. Man, I'm going to hear this story. Let me have it. Okay. So this story goes many, many years. As a joking. was...

...last night's should two nights ago. So I'm under like sorry, sorry, to cut you off. I did just have one thought, like I'm really happy that he speak that way because I know for a long time you were very focused on needing to achieve something, needing to feel achievement, and you haven't not let that feeling go. But knowing that you're got to now great of understanding of what's really going to fulfill you and make you happy is beautiful to here. So that's awesome. Thank you and I'm grateful for that. I came to that understanding. I think I'm still struggling with it. I can still I'm still struggling to find the balance. Yeah, and you know, for first of all, if you want to change your life, you have to be unsatisfied. So it's such a I think, to be unsatisfied with the current condition, to be grateful. But now I'm struggling to find the difference. But I think I'm starting to get it. I'm starting to get it, because you can be grateful for the Cup of coffee that you have, but you can be unsatisfied with the fact that you know there's a homeless person on the street and that's not cool. You need to do something about it. You know, I mean it's pot. Yeah, so those kind of I think that's the I'm I think that's about I think I've cracked the code. But you know, once again, we are always learning. Maybe tomorrow I'll be smarter and wiser. Now every day, maybe, day by day, day by day. You know what they say. Well, you know what I say, changing the world one coffee at a time. So total my first book, guys, stay to you, and I mean the in the process of writing, early trading FA phase of it. But yeah, it's getting the yeah, I've actually got three chapters, titles written. Three titles. Yes, nice, three titles, because they already h one aerial. Now I'm going to tell you the story of the saddest person I've ever met. So I couldn't I could an uber in the from Melbourne City. So I had a coup work cars the company gave me and I was working for this company and they gave me a car. So I was driving that around side to drop that car off the higher complace and on the way back I caught this uber. Now, this guy seemed relatively these guys seemed fit from what I could tell. Maybe there's something that I don't know, but you know, I'm going to speak from what I saw and what I understood. Maybe he wasn't the saddest person, but I'm just going to tell you a little bit of a superficial story because, you know, maybe I don't know his situation right. So I want to start with saying that because, you know, in case I say the story and maybe he has the toughest he truly does has the hardest life of all time, and then I'll be at Dick. Yeah, nonetheless to say right, yeah, I'm only gonna say the story, but I perceived as the story to be so anyway. So this story is of the saddest person I ever met. So this guy picked me up and, you know, first of all, you know he says, how have you been? Sorry, when did this happen? This happened roughly at midnight on Monday and night. Okay, so, so Tuesday morning, Monday night. So that midnight change. So I was working late that night. So drop the car off at the TIPPO and then this guy picked me up and, you know, he said, Hey, have you been? This guy seemed relatively fit. He didn't seem to have any you know, any visible disadvantage, any thought right, so he seemed like relative fit. In fact, he seemed very in fact, above general fitting, was like a you know, you know, good shape guy. Right, yeah, but you goes, how was your day? You know. Then he started talking about then he thought about what I do for work, and I said, and you know, at that day I was working at this Geek for entertainment. I said, all, I work to entertainment GIG and and then he goes, Oh, you know. I said, well, how about how long have you been working today? He goes, are you been working for like forty five minutes? I'm going to work through the night and I said, Oh cool. I'm like, I'm like, do you you always work at night? I'm like, they have a did job, because now I don't have a day job. I just like working in night because this less traffic. I said our fin enough, and then I said I just got me thinking. I was like, what about sleep? He goes, you know, sleep when you're dead. I was like, I was like look, you know, personally there's no way of view because I want to be in full capacity of my mental faculty when I'm awake. But look, if you work, you know, at this point I'm worried up, like this guy really away, you know, other way. That's all the yeah, that's it. He's got a little. He's got the toothpicks on his eyes to keep him more's the hang. Yeah, doing that. No, but you know, and I was like okay, first all there was any in a sense where he said is there, it goes. Plus when I driving you the Dortes, you know, the fucking traffic, and you know I hate traffic and I hate everyone. And then he got me saying, you know, eat. Then he started talking about you know, but you know, but you know, who's got it good, you know, and then he started talking about how he hated anyone who have like ny picked up this lady who made it. was talking on the phone and made five thousand dollars a week. And then he said how much you how much do you make a weaker? How much do you make a month? I was like, Oh, you know how much you make a fourth night? I was like, Oh, maybe like a fifteen hundred or, like I just said, a random figure out there. I make more than...

...that, like obviously I'm not going to you know, and way more than yeah, yeah, honest thing. Yeah, I guess. Yeah, I just want to do want to egg him one because I could tell that he was in he wasn't appreciating the fact that people could make more money. You're saying someone makes a FIVEZERO dollars. The fourth night I was like, yeah, it seems wrong. Anyway, why the mark up? See if you bring value or camp. Yeah, be conversary. And then he was he would saying, you know, it's like all dark money and it's all like, you know, people mob and you can't fuck with them all. And you know, then he went into saying, you know, then people, you know there's people out there who win lottery. When is HE gonna get Lucky? And he's why is it never his turn? You know, if there's if there's a you know, he's he believes in God and you know he used to believe in God. But you know, when has when is he gone? His turn going to come, because he's never going to win the lottery. When how can he get the seven number? I don't he doesn't understand how people get so lucky. And you know, I was what I saw in him was absolute hopelessness in a sense where I got me thinking. I was like, is he missing the knowledge, the common fact of the word that you. That's not how luck works. First of all. Yeah, these these two ways to be luck. First of all, you could say luck doesn't exist and that methodology will work for you. You could also assume that luck exists. But then if you assume luck exist and you're you're the person who just plays on odds of luck alone, as in the complete probability of the universe, you're going to be waiting a long time, a friend. So if you are playing the lottery, you're going to be winning a lot. Time to win the lottery, because I'm a you know, I prog am to understand coding and I understand algorithms and I understand mathematics. The chances that you have to win a lottery are next to none, like point zero, zero, zero, point six two percent. I think he was. So it's fucking Shit. But now when preparation and opicure meets opportunity, when desired mixed with faith, mixed with mixed with drive and mix with a little bit of sweet, a sprinkle of little bit of innovation, when those things meet and and I'm you know, the funny thing is just like, just like gratitude, deserve, you know, passion and passion drive and faith and, you know, believe are also these practices and decision. So these things don't just show up in people. You have to sort of build them. You have to practice those every single day. You have to believe in yourself. You have to believe you in yourself where no one else does. And if you're not going to believe in yourself, who is going to do it? I mean your mom probably will still believe in you, but you know, you got to start living yourself and think about if your mum believes in you, why don't you? Exactly, yeah, mom, is your real right and I that's right, that's right. You know if you mum believes. But now that guy didn't believe in himself. But you know he said that he will never have that money or not. You know, he hates everyone because he hates to people who get lucky because they have borne lucky. They're born rich, bond rich, and you know he's never going to have it. But if he was to have it, you know he'll go on holiday, is going to travel his country, but he doesn't think and he goes. You know, he has to work. You know he has to work like a donkey and he has to work like a horse, is what he said, you know, but not, you know, all to just pay off a mortgage and you know all this stuff. It's so hard and you know he's never gonna be he's never going to make that money's never going to change their life. And you know, I just I agreed with him because all I cause I would at that time, I couldn't understand what the answer was to his questions. Yeah, that sort of in unhappiness is not that. It's not really gonna be solved with money. I don't think either. Like they might be a short term gratification and like there might be some, but there's definitely more to that than just finances, for sure. Like it's yeah, so completely. First I was thinking. Yeah, at first I wanted to really help him, already tell him that. Look, you know, I've been some through tough shared like I want to tell you this, like my story, I want to tell you are but I didn't think. I just didn't know how to respond to his his self talk, you know. Yeah, and all that self reflection. You know how he hated the rich people and now he hated the people who were fortunate and would lucky. I mean, I knew that's not how luck works. I understood and I knew that is possible to be rich. I mean, I've told you, like I'm like, you know, if I don't know, I'm not going to talk about this on podcast because it sounds bit douchy. But you know, by quitting my job, you know, I'd like some earning more money. Right, let's let's just say that. This is example. Most of the time, people like, what the fuck? You know, I want to have a job. You know, you you moved us more. Most people would think you'd have earned more money when you have a job now, work like roughly six hours a bit day or something that five hours old day, or really I work the whole day. But you know, really, when I go to work and do since like four to five hours over day, but I'm only more money. The difference differences is I didn't change anything, but I change was I change my mental mentality as to how I view think. I made a definitely decision and I did these...

...things. But, and I was really struggling to understand what, what could I give him? I really wanted to do something for him because I felt he was in a worse place than a homeless person and you know, or you know, maybe not physically, but you know, I think you if you're going to have no hope of a better tomorrow, you might as well be dead. What's the point? Yeah, and I really thought about it and for the past two days this has been on my mind to think about what what I could have done to help, and I really buy a few people. And someone said you can't really give someone hope. Someone said, yeah, you know. Someone said to me, yeah, maybe you could have said something, but you know, I guess he's pretty hopeless, you know. And someone else said to like, I stole this story to few people. Someone else said, you know, it goes, or maybe he was just bullshitting you. Someone else said to me, you goes, so as it goes, why don't you just put ahead for the new berth? I was like, you know, there's few people. I don't just like that for main but it's so difficult in that circumstance. One you just work long hours. It's a middle or not. But to you don't know the guy that guys being relatively combative, like it's so difficult to fully engage at that time. So maybe if you had your time. Over all, he met the guy again. You could do something different, but in that life circumstance it's it is sometimes best a lot because you just don't know. I mean someone often that crazy. You just don't like that and not. But he wasn't. It wasn't like crazy, though. He was like just like negative self believed. Yes, it wasn't crazy in a sense, because I could see that possibility in other people. Yeah, but it was just sheer not knowing the fact. And like do I tell him that is simple, as just simple as a sounds, or as to how to make money, or as a simple as it sounds, that it's not the money that you after. You know, it's if that, if that, each day you feel of not understanding. There something that's missing. and to him he was missing hope. That was a thing, that was a secret ingredient. He was missing and he was missing imagination, and I think those two things are very closely related to when you talk about gratitude. The reason I said that story is because I thought a lot about it and I came through the conclusion. How but I could look said, what I could have said to him is maybe this is this is more. I could have thought in my head maybe the same, maybe even a perfect word I could have said to this doing. But I could have said to him, you've got a nice car, you've got a mortgage, like you said, you bought a house, you know, so you've bought a house, you're driving a nice car, you're in not good shape. You know, maybe you don't have the money yet, maybe you haven't won the lottery yet, but you could. You could. WHO has said you can't win the lottery? You know, just like those people, you might be the next one if you you know, if that's a simply if that's what you want to do, but in saying to the people who are in the five thousand dollars a week, you could be that person. We just have to you could be that person. No one has said that you can't be that person. You know, there's nothing stopping you to be that person. But in order to be that person, in order to create that luck to work in your favor, you have to first appreciate what you have, because you only get more when you are fully aware of what you have, because then you attract what you're aware of. You attract what you are conscious of. Yeah, and maybe that might have been you know, maybe he feel was able to understand that he might have not been that situation. Yeah, but it's such an interesting takes yes, takes a long time to come to that sort of yeah, now, but that's you summarize that perfectly. That's a good that's a good lesson to take away from it. Turn a good reminder for myself and a good reminder for us all as well. And he also did mention that he didn't sleep as well, so maybe he was just he just had a bad car right. Yeah, maybe it's delirious. Yeah, so that's the story of a person. Yeah, you know, at the end of the day, I am not talking shit about him at all. I just I'm actually like one of my I'm actually sad about him and I wish I was I wish I was more capable to do something for him. I wish I knew more, I wish I had better words to say. You know, sometimes you actually that kind of Shit Hits you and I wish these kind of medium like of the podcast that we have exist. You know, we have this podcast. Someone else created this podcast before us and this podcast was one of the biggest things on the world. Instead of fucking Mikey and am I just talking about celebrities, talking about you know, yeah, so maybe someone needed to maybe someone did that instead of talking about the ghosts of the celebrity, and this is pop talk. Maybe someone came up with that. It would have been different. Maybe if I did come up with that in ages ago, might have made a difference. So, you know, I'm actually almost sad. But and in saying that what it's it does serve as a lesson to me, to locklear to you, to anyone else who is listening, that it's easy...

...to get caught up in everything that you don't have and everything that other people have. It's very easy and it's a very, very slippery hole when you start getting into it. More you struggle, the harder you get into it. So I avoid that whole in Nook all cases. And you know, talk about sorry, Finish your fault, think about your think about gravity as the alternative part to alternative life situation from that whole that you can get yourself into. Brought yourself into. You certain more than capable, but it's just like the laws of gravity. It's it's easy to falds, hard to climb. But Yeah, you've got to strive for that. That climb, because then that's getting yourself to the place that you need to be hundred percent. There's another thing about love of gravity. When you fall and you get back up, you fight against the gravity. You're stronger for it, just like how your muscle more you work out, you become stronger. Exact same principal. Yeah, you build great resistance for it. So if you're in that circumstance again, and maybe that's maybe that that chance, that very luck, lucky or unlucky? How you look at a chance that you meant that person, maybe that was preparation for a future circumstance. So under present and maybe, maybe that was maybe the maybe that was foot to signify to me what I need to do as well instead, create a create a medium where I can, we can make a difference in people's like that life. Because, you know, I keep saying to these people, if you want to change the word, don't think in the terms of minority, think on, think in terms of the majority. I keep saying that and you know, maybe that's just me, but I think you fix the problems of the word, you fix word hunger when you change the people who are, fucking God be able full of food yeah, changing the majority, teaching the mindset of the majority, cheenes hold majority works because you know what's funny? The funny thing is the people who've got a full foot of table of food are not grateful as the people who've got no water in Africa. Yeah, as yeah, that's what I'm saying. So that's what the problem is. So we're going to change the majority and we're going to change people like him. So if we could do that, and you know someone could, you know if, by spreading this word of gratitude, you could do that, you know, you start a ripple that goes on forever. Yeah, Oh, yeah, that's how the universal that's how God works. Like it. You get those opportunities in, you get those things come in, not how you're how you might think they might come up. Maybe, maybe you think of my friends going to come to me and ask me for this advice and I'm going to give it to him. Now, it might just be a complete end, stranger. But when, yeah, when you went to summarize this, because you put a beautiful by one it there. I think when you, when you work and you get to a stage where you're you're good insight and your you're striving to be better like you. You create a better world for yourself, then that's how you create a better well for other people as well, because you can really pass a message on through authenticity, and that's that's really the best way to get through to people as well. It's not selling a bullshit, selling him real experiences that you've had to go through yourself. That's perfect, hundred percent. That's spot on. Now I did wanted to talk about this story, which his story about myself, actually story about the the infamous, unique, the the idiot. So let's say the idiot. I'm going to tell the story of the past. Me write the story of this is the pretty op pret accident me or talk about a little bit of the story. Maybe next episode or maybe the episode after. I'm gonna talk about that story. Is Because that story is important to me because that little accident, as most people know, I became pretty close to death. I had a very near death experience. When I say in the very near that I mean I'm talking about like few cardiac arrested. Yeah, and the and no board, know, like freaking crack skull and multiple fractures in my skill. Those kind of I'm talking about real close to that? Yeah, not one of those close of death when you just accidentally slip off something. Not that close of death, I don't real legitimate yeah, yeah, for them. Yeah, and up being okay, and I think this is perfect segue. I mean you can continue if you want, but I think this would be a perfect segue into doing a part two, because I think we can definitely know part to a gratitude strikes. So let's do part to. Yeah, and in part to I will talk about my story. So if you've listened to this episode, definitely, definitely check out the part two of this episode, because episodes though, part two of episode eight, but gratude. Yeah, definitely check that out because I'm going to tell you the story of me and how I came to be the person I am today and how it changed me and what I'm capable of today and what I was capable of that at the time, at that time, would like. Yeah, that looks fair. I mean real driving for so yeah, that's right, and I mean...

...for most part I'm pretty I'm for most part now. I like to see myself. I'm capable of doing a lot. I'm probable of, think, doing things that I couldn't even image. I couldn't imagine, and I have a good imagination. So a part at the time. At the time. At the time, I thought I could do a like I thought I couldn't do a lot, but I wasn't a grateful for the things that I couldn't do exactly anyway. So we'll talk about that a little bit since the next episode. So thank you so much for this podcast, lackman. I will let you finish up and I'll hit the rock as soon as you're ready. Wrap Up Rock, laughing words. Yeah, I'm all done, my friend. That was that was awesome. Can't wait for part two. Super important what we've been chatting about and really, really beautiful way to help yourself and help other people, just by being more grateful and kind of building on that Greater Perspective and just being appreciative what we've all got, because we can all live and we all live a beautiful life in our own way. So thank you, brother. I love you very much. And Yeah, I did like that. Good night, and that's made post to check the words out. God play that. Yeah, I.

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